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Chapter 8
Enhancing Relationships

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Communication Principles
Appropriately
adapt your
message to
others
Listen and
respond
thoughtfully to
others

Be aware of
your
communication

Effectively use
and
interpret
nonverbal

messages

Effectively use
and
interpret verbal
messages

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Enhancing Relationships


The Importance of Friendship



The Importance of Family




The Importance of Colleagues



Stages of Relationship Development



Managing Interpersonal Conflict

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The Importance of Friendship


Friendship Over the Years



childhood

adolescent
peer relationships are the
most important social
influence on our behavior





adult
elderly and friendships

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Enhancing Friendships


Awareness of Yourself




We Use Communication To Initiate,
Develop, Deepen And Maintain Friendships



Listening And Responding Are Critical



Learn To Adapt

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The Importance of Family



Changing Nature of Family
Enhancing Family

Relationships






discover who we are in families
earliest lessons about verbal and nonverbal
communication
family relationships are built upon trust
family relationships involve adaptation

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The Importance of Colleagues


On the Job Communication





communication skills are highly valued

Enhancing Workplace Relationships





uncertainty reduction
verbal and nonverbal communication skills
listening and responding
adaptation is critical to successful coworker
relationships

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Stages of Interpersonal Relationships



Relational Development Proceeds in
Discernable Stages



IPC is Affected by the Stage of the
Relationship



IPC Facilitates Movement Between the
Various Stages

Elevator Model

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Relational Escalation



Pre-Interaction Awareness



Initiation



Exploration



Intensification



Intimacy


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Relational De-Escalation


Turmoil or Stagnation



De-Intensification



Individualization



Separation




Post-Interaction

Managing Interpersonal Conflict
IP conflict is a struggle that occurs when two
people cannot agree on a way to meet their
needs.

Mild
Difference

Disagreement

The Struggle Spectrum

Dispute

Campaign

Litigation

Fight

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How Conflict Functions in Relationships



Conflict Is Normal
Constructive Conflict





suggest areas of change
revitalize the relationship

Destructive Conflict



dismantles relationships
lack of flexibility is the hallmark

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Conflict Involves Power


Interpersonal power means the ability to
influence another in the direction we desire.



Power and Relationships




complementary
symmetrical
parallel

Assertive and Aggressive
Communication


Assertive communication takes the
listener’s feelings and rights into account;
aggressive communication does not.



To assert yourself is to let your
communication partner know that his or her
behavior is infringing on your rights.

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Styles of Managing Conflict


Nonconfrontational
 placating
 distracting
 computing
 withdrawing
 giving in

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Styles of Managing Conflict
Nonconfrontational


Confrontational
 control
 win/lose philosophy



Cooperative
 conflict is not a game
 conflict is a set of problems to be solved

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Conflict Management Skills


Manage Emotions



Manage Information



Manage Goals



Manage the Problem