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5. Theory of Love
Sprecher and Fehr 2005 state that love is defined as an attitude toward others, either close others or strangers of all of humanity; containing feelings,
conditions, and behaviors that are focused on caring, concern, tenderness, and an orientation toward supporting, helping, and understanding the others, particularly
when the others is are perceived to be suffering or in need as cited in Felix Note, 2012, p.1. Sternberg 1986 states that love has three components such as:
a Intimacy
Intimacy refers to feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness in loving relationships, as well as admiring and wanting to take care of the loved one,
and it can bring up warm feelings. b
Passion It refers to the drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, sexual
consummation, and related phenomena in a loving relationship. c
Decision commitment It refers to, in the short term, the decision that one loves someone else, and
in the long term, the commitment to maintain that love as cited in Yale University, 1986, p. 119.
Sternberg 1986 states that companionate love is that the passion has gone out of the relationship, but a deep affection and commitment remain. Companionate
love is generally a personal relation. It is stronger than friendship because of the extra element of commitment. The love ideally shared for those who spend a lot of
time together in any asexual but friendly relationship as cited in Yale University, PLAGIAT MERUPAKAN TINDAKAN TIDAK TERPUJI
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other. Caring about somebody can be an act of love when responding to another without wanting anything in return.
6. Theory of Jealousy
Jealousy is often described as an emotion or blend of emotions. White and Mullen 1989 include anger, aggression, hatred, rage, envy, revenge, fear,
apprehension, anxiety, panic, suspicion, mistrust, expectancy, distress, depression, self-pity, guilt, love, and sexual arousal as cited in Sabrina Adams, 2012, p. 13.
Besides, Johnson 2010 also identifies intense negative feelings involved in love “such as jealousy and possessiveness, greed, rage, sadism and masochism, rivalry
and competition, and extremes of idealization and denigration” as cited in Sabrina Adams, 2012, p. 26.
Another definition of jealousy is stated by White and Mullen 1989. They state that jealousy has often been referred to
“the green-eyed-monster” or “the shadow of the love”. Several emotions like anger, fear, and envy are connected to
jealousy as cited in H. Andac Demirtas, 2012, p. 154.
C. Theoretical Framework
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