Deficiency Pathos

Deficiency Pathos

Chit Chat Obrolan Santai

U: It’s like… sometimes I want

heart are being insulted, tortured,

something GREATER than what I

betrayed, and hurt… have to be

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have. But if it is not the right time

strong… this is where you can learn

yet, whatever you search, you

how to be patient.

F: Please teach me so I can be more This “Chit Chat” is compiled

won’t find it. Even if you got it, you

important thing? What is the

probably would end up regretting

patient in life…

from a few chats between friends, that

it… so… wait for the right U: You want to be more patient? left quite an impression on me. 'F'

purpose and meaning of your life?”

Well… patient people, their feelings stands for Friend and 'U' for Upaseno,

I know what the most important

moment...

are usually what hurt them. My (myself).

thing is and its purpose... but the

meaning, I don’t yet know... do you

teacher used to say that. Ha-ha…

If you want to be more patient then U: How are you?

know?

you have to face a lot of obstacles K: Fine, just to busy with work, my

U: The happiness at this moment.

F: Sometimes I feel afraid to do

and difficulty in life, only after that head feels like it’s almost

What else do you want? I don’t

things...

can you become strong and patient. exploding...

want to think anymore... the theory

U: If you are scared, hide. And when

F: That’s why I want to learn to be U: Wow... don’t explode your head...

of life or anything else... the

you are tired of hiding, you might

patient, not just being patient my teacher said, life is already

purpose is in the dark future, no

do something amazing that you

blindly or just receiving everything difficult, don’t make it even harder.

one knows whether or not we will

never thought of before.

but being patient with wisdom… no If you need a break then take a

ever achieve it. What's important

matter how much I suffer, I can still break. Which one is more

is ... this present moment. If we

survive and live a happy life. important, life or work?

can be happy now, in the future the

chances to be happy are greater

F: May I know what the joys and

Hopefully also bring joy to others.

than to be unhappy.

sorrows of becoming a monk are? U: You cannot learn how to be patient.

Patient comes from experience. meaning of my life...

F: Until this day, I keep looking for the

U: The joys... I have more freedom

So… the more experience you U: Don’t look for it. Sometimes, we

than before. Now I have more time

have, the more patient you look for answers that are difficult

to see deeper into the Buddha's

become. You cannot force yourself to be found in life. And most of the

F: Until this day, I’m still looking for

teachings. The negative points of

to be patient. We often have to be time the more we seek, the harder U: There's NOTHING to seek. Living

what I want to prove...

view about other Buddhist traditions

patient. Not everything should be it is to get those answers. But

are moving towards a more positive

finished quickly. Rushing into things sometimes when we’re not looking,

day by day is already good enough.

side, so now I can really appreciate

can be dangerous. We need to see the answers come by themselves.

The more you seek the more

Buddhism as a religion that is full

everything carefully… ups… sound So, just let it be...

difficult your life will become.

of variety. If we can enjoy

F: Hmm.... what you said actually has

Buddhism in our daily life, Buddhism

like Sun Zhi’s The Art of War… ha-

F: Because once, a psychologist asked

a very deep meaning but… it also

is beautiful, very beautiful.

ha…

me, “In your life, what is the most

leaves me with the pros and cons.

The sorrows…. There are a lot, the

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already have 10 minutes of

time.

faces the world. That's the truth.

mediation.

F: If we do that, can we live happily?

If there are passions for the

material world, it’s only natural. optimistic quickly.

F: When I am down, I want to be

U: Yes

The question is, how we can focus U: Life is not an automatic machine.

F: So, what do we live for?

U: To live in this present moment.

on that energy to do something

better; it’s to have the skill to face patient, correct?

F: So it needs processing and a lot of

F: The other day, I meditated for 10

Enjoying this present moment.

the realities of life. So don't resist U: VERY GOOD!

minutes and I felt nothing… then

when I was about to sleep, I felt

the energy of passion, because if

you resist it, you will be STRESSED, patient and when to act speedily.

F: Often I don’t know when to be

pain and rage… just because I was

ANGRY and UNHAPPY. In fact, all U: When do we have to eat and when

sleepy I didn’t do anything about it.

F: To have a friend depends on our

we want is to overcome Dukkha. do we have to go to the toilet?

But it left me angry for weeks. I

faith, doesn’t it?

become angry quite easily… I didn’t

U: Yes and No. It depends on the

watch my breath... I forget about

process and behavior of each

it. I have no control …

person.

U: Well, don’t think that meditation is

F: The more I grow older the more I

F: Probably this thought is affected by

my religious upbringing… God is to meditate. I can only bear it for

F: Yesterday, a friend of mine told me

the only way to control your anger.

understand. Having a friend is

If you want to be angry then be

important in life … A friend will be

LOVE… In my religion anything that

happens in life, good or bad, will sleepy…

10 minutes. I can’t help it, soooo

angry. It’s better than keeping it

happy when you are happy, but will

make better, if we believe in God… U: You don’t have to sit a long time to

inside and be mad about it. Is it

also be at your side when you are

and everything depends on God’s meditate. Some meditation

wrong to be angry? We are still

crying.

decision, who wants us to be masters say that even a chicken can

human beings, aren’t we? Instead

U: VERY GOOD! It’s the most difficult

perfect… but probably it does not sit for hours but they have no

of forbidding your anger, express it

thing to do. I also try to practice it.

make sense for you, does it? Ha- concentration. The important thing

to a wall so there will be no victims.

is to concentrate… when you do U: If God is LOVE... Let me add a something, concentrate. Don’t think

comment from the Buddhist point about anything else. Do one thing

F: Do monks have to resist their

of view … It is said that if you at a time. If you want to be more

passions of the material world?

practice Right Speech, Right Action, disciplined and to be more aware,

F: How can we live our life fully and

U: For me, the term is not resisting

Right Thought, then you will also stop working and watch your U: By being aware of what we do all

happily?

passions. The common

have the Right Goal. Therefore, if breathing once every hour. If you

misunderstanding is that a monk

your Speech, Actions, and Mind are work for 10 hours then you stop

the time.

already “left” the material world. I

based on Love… your Goal will also working 10 times for 1 minute, U: By paying attention or

F: How can we be aware?

don’t know who said that the first

time. A monk still lives in the world,

be full of Love.

watching the breath. Now… you

concentrating of what we do all the

still depends on the world, and still

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F: Bhante, under what organization

F: Is the tradition of burning “ghost”

are you?

money, houses, etc (Chinese U: I am under the sky. Tradition) as dedication to the

Looking at the Back...

departed ones, created by man?

U: According to one source that I read Looking at the Back… so that your curiosity about me, in Beijing, hundreds of years ago,