Deficiency Pathos
Deficiency Pathos
Chit Chat Obrolan Santai
U: It’s like… sometimes I want
heart are being insulted, tortured,
something GREATER than what I
betrayed, and hurt… have to be
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have. But if it is not the right time
strong… this is where you can learn
yet, whatever you search, you
how to be patient.
F: Please teach me so I can be more This “Chit Chat” is compiled
won’t find it. Even if you got it, you
important thing? What is the
probably would end up regretting
patient in life…
from a few chats between friends, that
it… so… wait for the right U: You want to be more patient? left quite an impression on me. 'F'
purpose and meaning of your life?”
Well… patient people, their feelings stands for Friend and 'U' for Upaseno,
I know what the most important
moment...
are usually what hurt them. My (myself).
thing is and its purpose... but the
meaning, I don’t yet know... do you
teacher used to say that. Ha-ha…
If you want to be more patient then U: How are you?
know?
you have to face a lot of obstacles K: Fine, just to busy with work, my
U: The happiness at this moment.
F: Sometimes I feel afraid to do
and difficulty in life, only after that head feels like it’s almost
What else do you want? I don’t
things...
can you become strong and patient. exploding...
want to think anymore... the theory
U: If you are scared, hide. And when
F: That’s why I want to learn to be U: Wow... don’t explode your head...
of life or anything else... the
you are tired of hiding, you might
patient, not just being patient my teacher said, life is already
purpose is in the dark future, no
do something amazing that you
blindly or just receiving everything difficult, don’t make it even harder.
one knows whether or not we will
never thought of before.
but being patient with wisdom… no If you need a break then take a
ever achieve it. What's important
matter how much I suffer, I can still break. Which one is more
is ... this present moment. If we
survive and live a happy life. important, life or work?
can be happy now, in the future the
chances to be happy are greater
F: May I know what the joys and
Hopefully also bring joy to others.
than to be unhappy.
sorrows of becoming a monk are? U: You cannot learn how to be patient.
Patient comes from experience. meaning of my life...
F: Until this day, I keep looking for the
U: The joys... I have more freedom
So… the more experience you U: Don’t look for it. Sometimes, we
than before. Now I have more time
have, the more patient you look for answers that are difficult
to see deeper into the Buddha's
become. You cannot force yourself to be found in life. And most of the
F: Until this day, I’m still looking for
teachings. The negative points of
to be patient. We often have to be time the more we seek, the harder U: There's NOTHING to seek. Living
what I want to prove...
view about other Buddhist traditions
patient. Not everything should be it is to get those answers. But
are moving towards a more positive
finished quickly. Rushing into things sometimes when we’re not looking,
day by day is already good enough.
side, so now I can really appreciate
can be dangerous. We need to see the answers come by themselves.
The more you seek the more
Buddhism as a religion that is full
everything carefully… ups… sound So, just let it be...
difficult your life will become.
of variety. If we can enjoy
F: Hmm.... what you said actually has
Buddhism in our daily life, Buddhism
like Sun Zhi’s The Art of War… ha-
F: Because once, a psychologist asked
a very deep meaning but… it also
is beautiful, very beautiful.
ha…
me, “In your life, what is the most
leaves me with the pros and cons.
The sorrows…. There are a lot, the
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already have 10 minutes of
time.
faces the world. That's the truth.
mediation.
F: If we do that, can we live happily?
If there are passions for the
material world, it’s only natural. optimistic quickly.
F: When I am down, I want to be
U: Yes
The question is, how we can focus U: Life is not an automatic machine.
F: So, what do we live for?
U: To live in this present moment.
on that energy to do something
better; it’s to have the skill to face patient, correct?
F: So it needs processing and a lot of
F: The other day, I meditated for 10
Enjoying this present moment.
the realities of life. So don't resist U: VERY GOOD!
minutes and I felt nothing… then
when I was about to sleep, I felt
the energy of passion, because if
you resist it, you will be STRESSED, patient and when to act speedily.
F: Often I don’t know when to be
pain and rage… just because I was
ANGRY and UNHAPPY. In fact, all U: When do we have to eat and when
sleepy I didn’t do anything about it.
F: To have a friend depends on our
we want is to overcome Dukkha. do we have to go to the toilet?
But it left me angry for weeks. I
faith, doesn’t it?
become angry quite easily… I didn’t
U: Yes and No. It depends on the
watch my breath... I forget about
process and behavior of each
it. I have no control …
person.
U: Well, don’t think that meditation is
F: The more I grow older the more I
F: Probably this thought is affected by
my religious upbringing… God is to meditate. I can only bear it for
F: Yesterday, a friend of mine told me
the only way to control your anger.
understand. Having a friend is
If you want to be angry then be
important in life … A friend will be
LOVE… In my religion anything that
happens in life, good or bad, will sleepy…
10 minutes. I can’t help it, soooo
angry. It’s better than keeping it
happy when you are happy, but will
make better, if we believe in God… U: You don’t have to sit a long time to
inside and be mad about it. Is it
also be at your side when you are
and everything depends on God’s meditate. Some meditation
wrong to be angry? We are still
crying.
decision, who wants us to be masters say that even a chicken can
human beings, aren’t we? Instead
U: VERY GOOD! It’s the most difficult
perfect… but probably it does not sit for hours but they have no
of forbidding your anger, express it
thing to do. I also try to practice it.
make sense for you, does it? Ha- concentration. The important thing
to a wall so there will be no victims.
is to concentrate… when you do U: If God is LOVE... Let me add a something, concentrate. Don’t think
comment from the Buddhist point about anything else. Do one thing
F: Do monks have to resist their
of view … It is said that if you at a time. If you want to be more
passions of the material world?
practice Right Speech, Right Action, disciplined and to be more aware,
F: How can we live our life fully and
U: For me, the term is not resisting
Right Thought, then you will also stop working and watch your U: By being aware of what we do all
happily?
passions. The common
have the Right Goal. Therefore, if breathing once every hour. If you
misunderstanding is that a monk
your Speech, Actions, and Mind are work for 10 hours then you stop
the time.
already “left” the material world. I
based on Love… your Goal will also working 10 times for 1 minute, U: By paying attention or
F: How can we be aware?
don’t know who said that the first
time. A monk still lives in the world,
be full of Love.
watching the breath. Now… you
concentrating of what we do all the
still depends on the world, and still
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F: Bhante, under what organization
F: Is the tradition of burning “ghost”
are you?
money, houses, etc (Chinese U: I am under the sky. Tradition) as dedication to the
Looking at the Back...
departed ones, created by man?
U: According to one source that I read Looking at the Back… so that your curiosity about me, in Beijing, hundreds of years ago,