6. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
THE SEVEN HABITS OF
THE SEVEN HABITS OF
HIGHLY EFFECTIVE
HIGHLY EFFECTIVE
PEOPLE PEOPLE THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
STEPHEN COVEY
PREVIEW
- Paradigms & Principles • Private Victory:
- – Habit 1: Be proactive
- – Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind
- – Habit 3: Put first things first
- Public Victory:
- – Habit 4: Think Win/Win
- – Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood
- – Habit 6: Synergize
- Renewal: Habit 7- Sharpen the Saw
INSIDE OUT
WHAT COVEY’S SON TAUGHT HIM
- If we want to change the
situation, we have to change ourselves
- To change ourselves effectively, we have to
change our perceptions, the lens through which we see the world
- According to the character
ethic, true success & enduring happiness can result only when people learn and integrate basic principles of effective living
into their basic character. THE PERSONALITY & CHARACTER ETHICS
- According to the personality ethic, success is a function of:
- – Personality – Public image
- – Attitude & behavior
- – Comn skills & techniques
- Two paths:
- – Human & public relations techniques – Positive mental attitude (PMA).
- Their techniques obsessed them to the exclusion of genuine concern
- Began to see their role as being to affirm, enjoy & value him
- Withdrawal of protective attitude pains, but results in confidence & self-affirmation
- Personality building, comn
skills, positive thinking are
secondary, not primary, traits. • In building, do not forget the
foundation on which everything else must rest.
in my ears I cannot hear what you say.” - Emerson.
PRIMARY & SECONDARY GREATNESS
- Personality ethics can win only short-term victories.
- You cannot cram on a farm.
• “What you are shouts so loudly
- “The map is not the territory.”
- What a wrongly printed map heading can lead to
- A paradigm is a theory, an explanation, a model, of something else.
- The age of the woman
THE FLAW OF PSERSONALITY ETHICS
- If ten seconds can have such impact on the way we see
things, what about the
conditioning of a lifetime? - Trying to change outward attitudes & behaviors doesn’t help in the long run, examining the paradigms from which they flow does.
- “For every thousand hacking
at the leaves of evil, there is one striking at the root.”
… Thoreau THE POWER OF A PARADIGM SHIFT
- Thomas Kuhn: every significant break through in scientific endeavor involves a break with tradition, from Ptolemy to Copernicus, from Newton to Einstein • Our paradigms are the sources of our behavior – the subway man with the unruly kids
FRANK KOCH’S
PARADIGM SHIFT AS A
BATTLESHIP CAPTAIN
SIGNALLING AT SEA
We are on a collision course, We are on a collision course, advise you change course 20 advise you change course 20 degrees. degrees. Advisable for you to Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees. change course 20 degrees. I’m a captain, change I’m a captain, change course 20 degrees. course 20 degrees. I’m a seaman second class. I’m a seaman second class. You had better change course You had better change course 20 degrees. 20 degrees.
SIGNALLING AT SEA
I’m a battleship. Change course I’m a battleship. Change course 20 degrees. 20 degrees. I’m a lighthouse. I’m a lighthouse.
THE PRINCIPLE-CENTRED PARADIGM
- Principles, natural laws woven into the fabric of
every civilized society, are
like lighthouses. • “It is impossible for us to break
the law. We can only break
ourselves against the law.” –
Cecil B. deMilleWHICH ARE THESE PRINCIPLES?
- Fairness • Integrity and honesty
- Human dignity
- Service • Quality, or excellence
- Potential, growth
- Patience, nurturance, encouragement
THE PRINCIPLE-CENTRED PARADIGM
- Principles constitute a subjective reality, self-evident to an individual, independent of faith or religion.
• Practices are situation-specific (raising
a second child on the model of thefirst), while principles are universally
applicable.- Principles are not values (a gang of thieves).
PRINCIPLES OF GROWTH
AND CHANGE
- There are no short-cuts or quick-fixes in growth: each step is important and no step can be skipped.
- Thinking, or pretending, that you are an international-level tennis player will not make you one.
- Natural growth requires adherence to natural principles.
THE WAY WE SEE THE PROBLEM IS THE PROBLEM
- Disloyal employees – have we done enough to motivate them?
- Short of time always – is a planner the correct answer or is it our own inner efficiency?
- A marriage gone sour – is the problem with the spouse or with ourselves?
A NEW LEVEL OF THINKING
- As long as the problem is “out there”, there is nothing we can do about it.
- The Outside-In approach traps people in feelings of victimization and immobilization.
- Inside-Out means to start with the innermost side of ourselves – our paradigms, character & motives.
- Private victories precede public victories.
- If I want to be trusted, I must first make myself trustworthy.
- Likewise for my expectations as a spouse, a parent, an employee.
THE SEVEN HABITS – AN OVERVIEW WHAT IS A HABIT?
- “We are what we
repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” … Aristotle
WHAT IS A HABIT?
- “Sow a thought, reap an action;
Sow an action, reap a habit; Sow
a habit, reap a character; Sow a
character, reap a destiny”.- The gravitational pull of our
habits may keep us from going
where we want to go, but thesame pull gives cohesion in our
life.
HABITS DEFINED
Knowledge (What to, Why to)
Skills (How to) Desire (Want to)
HABITS
THE MATURITY CONTINUUM
Dependence (You) Independence (I)
Inter-dependence (We)
THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM
Inter-dependence (We) Seek first to understand, Synergize
Then to be understood
6 PUBLIC
5 VICTORY Think Win/Win
4 Independence (I)
3 Put first Things first
1
2 PRIVATE Be Begin with
VICTORY
Proactive The end in mind
7 HABITS & EFFECTIVENESS DEFINED
- Create an empowering center of correct maps
- From which an indl can effectively solve problems
- Maximize opportunities
- Continually learn and integrate other principles • In an upward spiral of growth.
THE P/PC BALANCE
EXCESSIVE FOCUS ON P
- Ruined health
- Broken relationships
- Worn-out machines
- Depleted bank accounts
- Damaged environment
- The eternal student syndrome
THREE KINDS OF
ASSETS Physical – A lawn mower.
Financial – would we improve our
std of living from our principal or from our interests?
Human:
Humans control both physical and financial assets.
When it comes to cleanliness of her room, a man’s daughter can be his goose.
ORGANIZATIONAL PC
“Always treat your employees
exactly as you would want them to treat your best customers.”
Inheriting an over-worn machine from your predecessor.
Watering down the curry can
cost a restaurant its loyal customer base.
Inter-dependence (We)
Seek first to understand, SynergizeThen to be understood
6 PUBLIC
5 VICTORY Think Win/Win
4 Independence (I)
3
Put firstThings first
1
2 PRIVATE Be Begin with
VICTORY Proactive The end in mind
HABIT 1: BE PROACTIVE
VISION
THE SOCIAL MIRROR
• Prevent self-awareness by
creating a distorted vision
- Projections rather than reflections:
- – “You’re never on time.”
- – “Why can’t you ever keep things in order?”
- – “You must be an artist!”
- – “Why can’t you understand?”
- Genetic determinism:
- – Blame it on your DNA
– That’s how the Irish behave!
- Psychic determinism:
- – That’s how your parents brought you up
- – You remember rejection, failure
- Environmental determinism:
– Your boss / spouse / nation / economic policies are responsible
response, a man has the
freedom to choose.
STIMULUS RESPONSE
THE PROACTIVE MODEL STIMULUS STIMULUS RESPONSE RESPONSE FREEDOM TO CHOOSE FREEDOM TO CHOOSE Self-Awareness
Self-Awareness Imagination
Imagination Conscience
Conscience Free Will
Free Will
THE PROACTIVE MODEL
- Pro-activity proclaims freedom, reactivity resigns to servitude.
- Pro-activity = Responsibility = “Response” + “Ability”
• “I know of no more encouraging fact
than the unquestionable ability of man
to elevate his life by
constant endeavor.”… Eleanor Roosevelt
VICTOR FRANKL’S LADDER
VICTOR FRANKL’S LADDER
OF VALUES
OF VALUES
VICTOR FRANKL’S LADDER
VICTOR FRANKL’S LADDER
OF VALUES OF VALUESEXPERENTIAL CREATIVE ATTITUDINAL
REACTIVITY VS. PROACTIVITY • Act or be acted upon.
• R & I = Resourcefulness
and Initiative.- “Love” is a verb more than a feeling.
- If we let our feelings
control our actions, we
abdicate our responsibility.
REACTIVITY VS.
PROACTIVITY Reactive language Reactive language Proactive language Proactive language There’s nothing I can do.I can choose an appropriate response. response.
I will.
If only.
If only.
I choose.
I choose.
I can’t.
I can’t.
I prefer.
I prefer.
I must.
I must.
I can choose an appropriate
There’s nothing I can do.
I have to do that.
I have to do that.
I control my own feelings.
I control my own feelings.
He makes me mad.
He makes me mad.
I can choose a different approach. approach.
I can choose a different
That’s just the way I am.
That’s just the way I am.
Let’s look at our alternatives.
Let’s look at our alternatives.
I will.
CIRCLES OF CONCERN AND
No concern
INFLUENCE Circle of Concern
Circle of Influence
REACTIVE FOCUS
No concern
Circle of Concern
Circle of Influence
PROACTIVE FOCUS
No concern
Circle of Concern
Circle of Influence No concern
FOR THE POWERFUL…
Circle of Influence Circle of Concern
CLASSIFYING OUR PROBLEMS
Problems
Problems
Direct Control Direct Control
Indirect Control Indirect Control No Control No Control
Private Victory Be Proactive Begin with the end in mind. Put first things first.
Private Victory
Be Proactive Begin with the end in mind.
Put first things first.
Public Victory Synergize.
Think win / win.
Seek first to
understand, then to be understood.Public Victory Synergize.
Think win / win. Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
AA Prayer Courage.
Serenity. Wisdom.
AA Prayer Courage.
Serenity. Wisdom.
EXPANDING OUR CIRCLE OF
INFLUENCE
- It is easier to say, “I am not responsible”, because if I say, “I am responsible”, then I might also have to say, “I am irresponsible.” • Gandhi’s circle of influence – paddy fields.
- Proactive people are NOT pushy or aggressive, rather they are smart, they are value-driven, they read reality and learn what is required.
THE “OUTSIDE-IN” & “INSIDE-OUT” PARADIGMS
- The Outside-In Paradigm:
What’s out there has to change
before we can change (e.g., if only we had a less dictatorial boss, a more patient wife, a more obedient child). - The Inside-Out Paradigm: By being different, we can positively change what is out there.
THE “OUTSIDE-IN” & “INSIDE-OUT” PARADIGMS
- Adopting the inside-out paradigm means:
– Shifting focus from the circle of concern to the circle of influence.
– Shifting focus from what we wish we “had” to what we can “be”.
- – Recognizing mistakes as a means of turning failure into success.
– Recognizing that the power to make and keep commitments, however small, is the essence of developing the habits of effectiveness.
- The problem is never “out-there”, it is always “in here”, where we can change it, or else accept it with serenity.
- Each one of us is ultimately responsible for his or her own effectiveness, even for our happiness & our circumstances.
- Be part of the solution, not of the problem.
- By making and keeping small commitments, we exercise our embryonic freedom, and thereby gradually expand that freedom.
- Focus only on things that lie inside your circle of influence, do not waste more time than necessary over those in the outer circle of concern.
Inter-dependence (We)
Seek first to understand, SynergizeThen to be understood
6 PUBLIC
5 VICTORY Think Win/Win
4 Independence (I)
3
Put firstThings first
1
2 PRIVATE Be Begin with
VICTORY Proactive The end in mind HABIT 2: BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND
PRINCIPLES OF PERSONAL LEADERSHIP WHEN WE’RE DEAD & GONE…
- How we would like to be remembered as:
- – A son or a father or a brother?
- – A friend?
- – Someone others knew at the work-place?
- – A member of our community?
- The Carpenter’s Rule: “Measure twice, cut once”.
- First in their conceptualization, next in their realization.
- We must accept responsibility for both creations, or else spend our lives reactively acting out scripts written in the chaos of our life by our parents, or employers, or sheer pressure of circumstance.
LEADERS & MANAGERS
Are we in the correct jungle?
LEADERSHIP & MANAGEMENT
- “Management is doing things right,
Leadership is doing the right things.”
- No management success can compensate for failure in leadership.
- Made more pressing because of rapidly changing environment, obsolescence of products & services, a globalized & unpredictable market.
PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT
- The essence of Victor Frankl’s
Logotherapy: most mental / emotional illnesses stem from an underlying sense of emptiness or meaninglessness.
- Like a constitution, provides a basic direction to which we can align other goals and means.
SELF-AWARENESS SELF-AWARENESS
CONSCIENCE CONSCIENCE Security
Security Guidance
Guidance Wisdom
Wisdom Power
Power
CREATIVITY
CREATIVITY
CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE
Security Security
Perspective on life
Energy to make
Energy to make
choices
choices Overcome set habits.
Overcome set habits.
Wisdom Wisdom
Perspective on life
Strength, endurance
Sense of balance
Sense of balance
Encompasses:
Encompasses:
Judgment
Judgment Discernment
Discernment Comprehension
Strength, endurance
Capacity to act
Guidance Guidance
Self-Esteem
Sense of worth
Sense of worth
Identity
Identity
Emotional anchorage
Emotional anchorage
Self-Esteem
Capacity to act
Frame of ref
Frame of ref
Sense of direction
Sense of direction
Provides stds & principles
Provides stds & principles
Power Power
Comprehension
PRINCIPLES
SPOUSE (OR FRIEND)-
- Security:
CENTRED MAN
- – Sense of security depends on how spouse treats him
- – Highly vulnerable to moods
– Disagreement - Disappointment
• Guidance:- – Dictated by spouse/ marriage
- Wisdom:
- – Dictated by spouse/ marriage
- Power:
- – Ltd by str of self/spouse
FAMILY-CENTRED
- Security: MAN
- – Founded on family acceptance
- – Volatile against family expectations
- – Self worth = family reputation
- Guidance:
- – Script written by family
- Wisdom:
- – Whatever is good for the family
- Power:
- – Actions ltd by family tradition
MONEY-CENTRED
- Security: MAN
- – Vulnerable to economic insecurity
- – Self worth = financial worth
- Guidance:
- – Profit-driven
- Wisdom:
- – Whatever is good for more money
- Power:
- – Actions ltd by financial resources and imbalanced vision
WORK-CENTRED MAN
- Security:
- – Self definition based on occupation
- – Comfortable only when working
- Guidance:
- – Driven by needs/expectations of work
- Wisdom:
- – Life = work
- Power:
- – Actions ltd by:
- Boss’s perceptions
POSSESSION-CENTRED MAN
- Security:
- – Based on reputation/social status
- – Self worth = worth of possessions
- Guidance:
- – Driven by acquiring/ protecting/ displaying possessions
- Wisdom:
- – Comparative economic/social relation
- Power:
– Actions ltd by what he can buy or
social status he can gain
PLEASURE (OR SELF)-
- Security:
- – Feels secure only on short-lived, anesthetizing, pleasurable “high”
- Guidance:
- – Driven by need for more pleasure
- Wisdom:
- – What’s in it for me?
- Power:
- – Almost negligible
ENEMY-CENTRED MAN
- Security:
- – Vulnerable to en movements
- – Always wonders what en is up to
- – Seeks self-justification from like-minded
- Guidance:
- – Dependent on what thwarts the en
- Wisdom:
- – Narrow, distorted, defensive, paranoid
- Power:
- – Destructive negative energy based on anger, envy, resentment, vengeance
RELIGION-CENTRED MAN
- Security:
- – Vulnerable to religious disappointment
- – Dependent on religion authorities
- Guidance:
- – How others evaluate him in context of
religion teachings & expectations
- Wisdom:
- – Fractured-Believers Vs. Non-believers
- Power:
– Depends on perceived religion role/
position
PRINCIPLE-CENTRED MAN
- Security:
- – Based on changeless principles
- – Repeatedly validated through personal experience
- – Understanding of own development
- – A stable core enables him to look at change as an adventure
- Guidance:
- – An unfailingly consistent compass
- – Decisions based on a principled conscience
PRINCIPLE-CENTRED MAN
- Wisdom:
- – Wise balance & self-assurance
- – A fundamental paradigm for effective, provident living
– Interpret sits as opportunity for self-
development- – A proactive lifestyle, independent of changing circumstances & sits.
- Power:
- – Ability to act reaches far beyond own resources, encourages and is in turn nourished by the freedom of interdependency.
PERSONAL MSN STATEMENT
- Frankl: We detect rather than invent our msn. “Everyone has his own
specific vocation or mission in life… Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated.”
- “Each man is questioned by life… to life
he can only respond by being responsible.”
- Habit 1 says: “You are the programmer,” Habit 2 says: “Write your program.”
STEPPING INTO THE CREATIVITY ZONE
Expand perspective Visualization & affirmation
EXPAND PERSPECTIVE
- By visualizing, in rich detail, events such as:
- – Own funeral
- – Marriage Anny a decade later
- – Retirement / second career
- Results in an affirmation of fundamental principles & values, the pettiness of mundane things, and the power of love.
• Dr. Charles Garfield: All world-
class athletes and peakperformers are visualizers –
they experience it before they do it.- Example of a affirmation:
- – “It is deeply satisfying
(emotional) that I (personal)
respond (present tense) with wisdom, love, firmness and self- control (positive) when my children misbehave.”
ORG MSN STATEMENTS
- IBM:
- – Dignity of the individual
- – Excellence – Service • No involvement, No commitment.
- Promotes self-governance among employees, eliminating criticism, excessive supervision / control / direction.
Inter-dependence (We)
Seek first to understand, SynergizeThen to be understood
6 PUBLIC
5 VICTORY Think Win/Win
4 Independence (I)
3
Put firstThings first
1
2 PRIVATE Be Begin with
VICTORY Proactive The end in mind HABIT 3: PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST
PRINCIPLES OF PERSONAL MANAGEMENT
“
Things that matter most
must never be at the
mercy of things which matter least.” … Goethe WHY PRIORITIZE? THE ROCK & BUCKET STORY
• Start with a bucket, some big rocks enough to fill it, some
small stones, some sand and water.- Put the big rocks in the bucket - is it full?
- Put the small stones in around the big rocks - is it full?
- Put the sand in and give it a shake - is it full? • Put the water in. Now it's full.
- The point is: unless you put the big rocks in first, you won't get them in at all.
LEADERSHIP & MANAGEMENT
- Habit 2 is the mental creation, Habit 3 is the physical creation.
- Leadership decides what “first things” are; management puts them first, day by day, moment by moment.
- “Manage from the left; lead from the right.”
- Hinges on the 4 human endowment: Independent will.
- An effective manager is characterised by inner discipline.
- Discipline derives from “disciple”.
• An effective manager is a disciple of his inner values and their source, and possesses the will to subordinate his feelings, moods and impulses to these values.
FOUR GENERATIONS OF MANAGEMENT
FOUR GENERATIONS OF
TIME MANAGEMENT • Gen 1: Notes, check-lists.- Gen 2: Calendars, Appt Books.
- Gen 3:
– Weighting relative worth of activities against values.
- – Setting specific short, intermediate and long-term goals.
- – Working out a specific daily plan to accomplish goals and activities deemed most worthy.
- Gen 4:
- – Gen 3 management made people feel too scheduled, restricted and non- spontaneous.
- – Gen 4 recognizes that the challenge is not to manage time or things, but ourselves.
- – Focuses on preserving and enhancing relationships as well as accomplishing results- the P/PC Balance.
THE FOUR QUADRANTS OF ACTIVITIES
TIME MANAGEMENT MATRIX
Urgent Not Urgent t Crises Crises Prevention, PC Prevention, PC
I II an Pressing problems Pressing problems Relationship building Relationship building
rt Deadline-driven Deadline-driven Recognizing new Recognizing new o
p projects projects opportunities opportunities Im
Planning, recreation Planning, recreation
Interruptions, some Interruptions, some t
III
IV Trivia, busy work Trivia, busy work
calls calls an
Some mails, some phone Some mails, some phone
Some mails & reports Some mails & reports rt
calls calls o Some meetings Some meetings
p Time wasters Time wasters
Proximate, pressing Proximate, pressing
Pleasant activities Im
Pleasant activities
matters matters t o Popular activities Popular activities
II IV
Stress Stress
Burnouts Burnouts
Crisis management Crisis management
Always putting out fires Always putting out fires
I III
QUADRANT I PEOPLE
QUADRANT I PEOPLE
90% Time 10%Time
Short-term focus Short-term focus
Crisis management Crisis management
Reputation: chameleon Reputation: chameleon character character
See goals & plans as worthless See goals & plans as worthless
Feel victimized, out of control Feel victimized, out of control
Shallow or broken relationships Shallow or broken relationships
III QUADRANT III PEOPLE QUADRANT III PEOPLE
I II
IV
Total irresponsibility
Fired from jobs
Dependent on others or institutions for basics QUADRANTS III & IV QUADRANTS III & IV
I II I QUADRANT II PEOPLE
Vision, perspective
Balance
Discipline
Control
Few crises
Building relationships Writing a pers msn statement
Exercising Long range planning
Preparation
Preventive maint
QUADRANT II PEOPLE
I Opportunity minded, not problem minded
Feed opportunities, starve problems
By thinking preventively, reduce the size of Quadrant I Focus on activities of Quadrant II, which, if done regularly, impact our lives tremendously
QUADRANT II PEOPLE
I Illustration: the shopping centre managers and their tenants The Pareto principle: 80% of the results flow out of 20 % of the activities
MOVING INTO QUADRANT-II
- Initial time to move to Q-II has to come out of Qs-III & IV.
- Learn to say “No” – the good is often the enemy of the best.
- It’s almost impossible to say “No” to the popularity of Q-III, or the pleasure of escape to Q-II, unless we have a bigger “Yes” burning inside.
HABIT 3: PUT FIRST
THINGS FIRST
CRITERIA FOR A QUADRANT-II ORGANIZER
SIX CRITERIA FOR A QUADRANT-II TOOL
- Coherence: Harmony between msn, goals, priorities, discipline.
- Balance: Success in career is not worth a broken marriage, ruined health, or weakness in personal character.
- Plan weekly: The key is not to prioritize what is on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.
… SIX CRITERIA FOR A QUADRANT-II TOOL
- A “People” Dimension: At times, it is worth it to sub-ordinate a schedule to building a relationship with a person.
- Flexibility: Your planning tool should be your servant, never your master.
- Portability.
COMPONENTS OF
IDENTIFYING ROLES &
SELECTING GOALS
Write a pers msn
homework
Individual / Pers Devp Husband / Father Adm Manager
Organize a get-together
Organize a get-together
program
program
Draw up a leave
Draw up a leave
homework
Help with child’s
statement
Write a pers msn
Fix the washing machine
Fix the washing machine
trends
trends
Catch up on networking
Catch up on networking
statement
Help with child’s IDENTIFYING ROLES &
SELECTING GOALS
Identify surplus inventory
Tech Manager Material Manager Staff Devp
Performance review
Performance review
eqpt
eqpt
Org a trg cadre on a new
Org a trg cadre on a new
Monitor down-time
Monitor down-time
minimize costs SCHEDULING
minimize costs
Identify means to
Identify means to
tech activity
tech activity
Select eqpt for certain
Select eqpt for certain
Identify surplus inventory
- Set a two-hour slot aside on Sunday to write a personal msn statement.
- Set an hour aside on Saturday to teach the kid maths.
- Set aside an hour every two days for exercise
- The weekly worksheet
DAILY ADAPTING
- Take a few minutes every morning to review schedule
- Prioritize activities and respond to unanticipated events in light of commitment to personal value-based decisions
LONG-TERM ORGANIZING
Msn Roles Goals Statement WEEKLY ORGANIZING WEEKLY ORGANIZING
Schedule
Roles Goals Plans
Delegate
LIVING IT
• Habit 1: “You are the programmer.” Habit 2: “Write the program.” Habit 3: “Run (‘Live’) the program.”
- Need for commitment, integrity, self- discipline.
• As a principle-centered person, we can
subordinate our schedule to a higher value without guilt.
• People are more important than things.
DELEGATION
PRODUCER
Output Input
MANAGER MANAGER
Output Input
PRINCIPLE OF DELEGATION
“Trust is the highest form of motivation.”
DEGREES OF DELEGATION
- "Wait to be told." or "Do exactly what I
say." or "Follow these instructions precisely."
- "Look into this and tell me what you
come up with. I'll decide."
• "Give me your recommendation, and the
other options with the pros and cons of
each. I'll let you know whether you can
go ahead.“• "Decide and let me know your decision,
but wait for my go ahead."
• "Decide and let me know your decision,
then go ahead unless I say not to."
DEGREES OF DELEGATION
- "Decide and take action, but
let me know what you did."
- "Decide and take action. You
need not check back with me."
- "Decide where action needs
to be taken and manage the situation accordingly. It's your area of responsibility now." TYPES OF DELEGATION • Gofer Delegation.
– “Go for this, go for that, do this, do that,
and tell me when it is done.”– The other person does not develop any
commitment.- – Focused on methods, stay responsible for the results.
- Stewardship Delegation.
- – Clear, mutual, up-front understanding and commitment regarding results.
- Define the task
- Select the individual
- Assess ability and training
needs
- Explain the reasons
- State required results
- Consider resources required
- Agree on deadlines
- Support and communicate
- Feedback on results
- A simple delegation rule is the acronym
SMART, or better still, SMARTER. It's a quick checklist for proper delegation.
- Delegated tasks must be:
- – Specific – Measurable – Agreed – Realistic – Timebound – Ethical
…
- – Recorded
Inter-dependence (We)
Seek first to understand, SynergizeThen to be understood
6 PUBLIC
5 VICTORY Think Win/Win
4 Independence (I)
3
Put firstThings first
1
2 PRIVATE Be Begin with
VICTORY Proactive The end in mind
PUBLIC VICTORY
INTERDEPENDENCE
THE EMOTIONAL BANK ACCT
- Describes the amount of trust that’s been built into a relationship.
Courtesy
Ignoring
Trust Level
Betraying trust
Betraying trust
commitments
commitments
Keeping
Keeping
Ignoring
Discourtesy
Deposits Deposits Withdrawals Withdrawals Courtesy
Honesty
Disrespect
Disrespect
Kindness
Kindness
Discourtesy
Honesty
WITH A TEENAGE SON
Get a haircut”
Turn down the
radio”
radio”
Take him to a movie
Take him to a movie
“
“
Get a haircut”
Just listen to him
“
Just listen to him
and empathize
and empathize
“
“
Don’t forget to take
Don’t forget to take
out the garbage”
Turn down the
“
Deposits Deposits Withdrawals Withdrawals Bring home a
Offer to help on a
Bring home a
magazine
magazine
“
“
Clean your room”
Clean your room”
Offer to help on a
project
cream
project
“
“
Button your shirt”
Button your shirt”
Treat him to ice
Treat him to ice
cream
out the garbage”
SIX MAJOR DEPOSITS
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- Keeping commitments
UNDERSTANDING THE
INDIVIDUAL
- Deposits may be perceived as withdrawals by the other person
- A parent: “Treat them all the same by treating them differently.”
- Habit 2 recognizes and recommits to a person
- Habit 3 subordinates a schedule to a human priority (a six-year old interrupting project work)
ATTENDING TO THE LITTLE THINGS
- In relationships, little things are big things.
- “If I were cold, would you put your coat around me, too?”
- Small discourtesies, little unkindnesses, little forms of disrespect, make huge withdrawals.
CLARIFYING EXPECTATIONS
- Different interpretations of roles:
- – YOU: “When am I going to get a job description?”
- – BOSS: “I’ve been waiting for you to bring me one.”
- – YOU: “I thought defining my job was your role.”
- – BOSS: “That’s not my job at all. Don’t you remember? Right from the start, I said how you do in the job largely depends on you.”
- – YOU:”I thought you meant the quality of my job. I don’t even know what my real job is.”