Jawanda Family Type of Parenting Style

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3.2.1 Jawanda Family

3.2.1.1 Emotion detachment Sukhvinder Jawanda was not attractive and not the same as other family members who were genius. She always bullied by her classmate, Fat Wall. Fat posted unpleasant remarks on her facebook page about her sexuality and appearance, called her hermaphrodite, a lesbian and a girl-child covered with hair. Sukhvinder in fact was mentally exhausted because of that, but she couldn’t tell anyone although it was her own mother. Never would it have occurred to Sukhvinder to tell either of her parents about the ape grunts or about Stuart Wall’s endless stream of malice. It would mean confessing that people beyond the family also saw her as sub- standard and worthless. In any case, Parminder was friends with Stuart Wall’s mother. p.165 3.2.1.2 High demandingness mother Parminder liked to compare Sukhvinder to her other perfect children. She won’t think twice for throwing a bad words to Sukvinder when she did something wrong or when she failed her. She did’t care if her words were hurt her daughter mentally. “ Why? Why? Is this copying the London girl, again – are you trying to impress her? Jaz and Raj never behave like this, never – why do you? What’s wrong with you? Are you proud of being lazy and sloppy? Do you think it’s cool to act like a delinquent? How do you think I felt when Tessa told me? Called at work – I’ve never been so ashamed – I’m disgusted by you, do you hear me? Do we not give you enough? Do we not help you enough? What is wrong with you, Sukhvinder? ” p.358 3.2.1.3 Passive and Indifferent father. Vikram was not as dominant parent as Parminder. He neither deny nor grateful that he had a daughter like Sukvinder. Vikram seemed not want trouble himself with something complicated when he was already busy at the hospital. “Poor old Jolly,” Vikram would say carelessly, after glancing through her report. But her father’s indifference was preferable to her mother’s anger. p.164 From the explanation above, researcher can cocludes that Parminder Jawanda used Authoritarian and her husband, Vikram had a tendency of using Uninvolved Parenting style. 7

3.2.2 Wall Family