Low Self-esteem The Impacts of Social Bullying as Seen Through the Victim of Social Bullying
experienced by the victim of bullying because there is event embarassing the victim of bullying. Embarrassment comes as a form of reaction toward
embarrassed feeling Elsie experiences. On a certain event, Elsie’s skirt falls off. Everyone in class mocks her and
teases her so she feels no one likes her. Jenny wonders whether that is “some kind of striptease” DeClements, 1981: 48 or not. Jack laughs so hard when he looks
at that incident. It makes Elsie embarrassed. Elsie goes away from the class to be hidden and not to be the object of mockery happening.
I turned to Diane. “What’s going on?” “When Elsie stood up, her skirt fell off,” Diane answered me. ......
But it was too late to say anything to Elsie. She bunched the top of her skirt with one hand and pulled the classroom door open with the other.
The door slammed behind her. DeClements, 1981: 48
In the condition showing that her diet is in a good way, Elsie is still embarrassed. Her skirt falls off because she gets thinner. she becomes thinner
because she does her diet. She does not do some kind of striptease. She tries to compensate her physical weakness by obeying her mother’s instruction. Elsie tries
to decrease her weight as a way to overcome her weakness but she does not understand the fact that her classmates does not like her not only for her physical
appearance but also her behavior that the surroundings feel uncomfortable with. Getting her skirt falling off places Elsie in an embarrassing moment. Everybody
in her class can see what they should not see. The result of being embarassed because her skirt falls off is sadness. It is very natural when Elsie wants to be
hidden when she know her skirt falls off. Elsie’s big body is her new classmates focus and on that time, her new classmates get another focus to mock. Robbins
and Parlavecchio states that “in moments of disruption, such as in illness, clumsiness, or exposure to the judgments of other people, the lived body becomes
an object of our attention” 2006: 322. Being a center of attention makes some children face fear of social situation. They cannot handle the feeling of not doing
something stupid. Hersen and Gross state that “socially anxious children often come into treatment believing they “cannot” tolerate their fear in social situations,
or with certainty that they will do “something stupid,” peers will laugh at them, and they will feel greatly embarrassed” 2008: 702. The embarrassment felt by
Elsie results tears. Elsie cries and looks hopeless. The way she cries and goes away from the class is to protect herself from other verbal bullying on the same
time. She feels sad for she sees that everyone laughs at her and no one tries to protect her from that incident.
Elsie was slumped against the wall at the end of the sinks. Her head was tipped back and her face tilted up. Tears were streaming from
her eyes, but she didn’t bother to brush them away. One hand hung at her side. The other still clutched her skirt. She looked sad and hopeless and
alone.
..... Elsie closed her eyes. The tears dripped from under her eyelids.
I stood there for a while. “I’ll go get a safety pin from Mrs. Hanson so you can pin up your skirt. DeClements, 1981: 49
Boys and girls laugh at her. The way “Roy could only shake his head” and “laughing so hard tears wobbled in his eyes” DeClements, 1981: 48 gets Elsie
down. No one defenses her. She is alone and she has to face those aggressions herself. As laughing at ridiculous event can be considered as a bullying, the effect
of that bullying is felt by Elsie. Elsie feels embarrassed because her classmates
mock and laugh at her. Her skirt falls off and no one tries to help her cover the condition, on the contrary, some of Elsie’s classmates bully at Elsie so hard.