become very urgent under that circumstance. Someone who lives in that situation will defend himself in different way whether to avoid the situation and find another safe
place to stay or even to fight back to annihilate those threats. Instinctively, they will not even think other needs besides safety needs first.
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3. The Belongingness and Love Needs
If both the physiological and the safety needs are already achieved, there will emerge the love, affection and belongingness needs. Now the person will feel hunger
for belonging needs. He needs accompany in his life and desperately hunger to love and to be loved from other people. It can be from friends, a sweetheart, a wife or
children whether in small group like a family or in broader group. This condition occurs because when both needs below, the physiological and safety needs, have
already fulfilled at certain point someone will feel sharply the sudden of loneliness, of rejection, and of friendlessness. That is why someone desperately hunger for
belonging and love needs. Humans generally need to feel belonging and acceptance, whether it comes
from a large social group, such as clubs, office culture, religious groups, professional organizations, sports teams, gangs or small social connections
such as family members, intimate partners, mentors, close colleagues, confidants. They need to love and be loved, sexually and non-sexually, by
others. In the absence of these elements, many people become susceptible to loneliness, social anxiety, and depression. This need for belonging can often
overcome the physiological and security needs, depending on the strength of
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the pressure. For example, an anorexic ignores the need to eat and the security of health for a feeling of belonging.
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Maslow believes that the tremendous and rapid increase in a society and other personal growth groups and intentional communities may in part be motivated
by this unsatisfied hunger for contact, for intimacy, for belongingness and by the need to overcome the widespread feelings of alienation, aloneness,
strangeness, and loneliness. Such phenomenon have been worsened by mobility, by the breakdown of traditional groupings, the scattering of families,
the generation gap, the steady urbanization and disappearance of village face- to-faceness.
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It should be understood that love and sex has different meaning. One thing
that must be stressed at this point is that love is not synonymous with sex. Sex may be studied as a purely physiological need. Ordinarily sexual behavior is multi-
determined, that is to say, determined not only by sexual but also by other needs. The important notion is the fact that the love needs involve both giving and receiving
love.
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4. The Self-Esteem Needs
