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More to the point, women seem weak and dependent, but they are willing to sacrifice and could make themselves determined when their beloved or close-
related persons are in troubles. Thus, in a marriage, a woman often neglects herself and her need for others’ interest and the positive is that it can be the key to
keeping a marriage intact.
D. SEX
1. The Sexual Drive
The sexual drive is second only to the hunger drive in its implications for social living. While our society as a whole does not place many elaborate
restrictions upon the food taking behaviour of its members, sexual expression is very closely governed both by law and by firmly rooted social conventions.
Because the social structure limits an individual’s sexual behaviour, awareness of the sex urge is more persistent and more insistent than that of other drives which
are not so likely to go unsatisfied. This conflict between the sexual drive and the cultural restriction on its expression makes sex one of the powerful forces
influencing human behaviour. Although sexual activity is necessary to the survival of the race, it is not essential to keeping an individual alive. Satisfactory
sexual adjustment, however, is important to mental health and effective living Ruch, 1963, p. 156.
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The most common cause of sexual maladjustment seems to be inadequate –or inaccurate- sex education. Girls especially are taught prudish attitudes toward
sex and often come to feel that they should always deny any sexual feelings. Because their prejudice against sex has become so ingrained, many women find it
difficult to participate freely in sexual relations after marriage and so appear to their husbands as frigid and uninterested. This situation is often aggravated by
lack of understanding or lack of consideration on the part of their husband, who may approach the sexual act in an abrupt manner that is frightening or distasteful
to his partner. Either unpleasant sexual experience or fear of sex can make a woman psychologically frigid, even though she is perfectly healthy biologically
Ibid. p. 157. To analyse the sexual experience that influence the development of her
view about sexual needs, it is necessary to understand sex as a need based on human biological drives.
2. The Joys of Sex
