behavior and also by learning the reinforcement” 1983: 320. We can learn emotion by observing other’s emotion. For example, a child will be afraid to go to
a doctor because he or she once watched a person suffering from pain after being injected by the doctor. It is clear that social learning emphasizes the role of
‘models’ in transmitting the behavior.
3. Theory of Love
Love can be interpreted as different meaning to different people. Expressing the feeling of love can also be different for each person, which is
actually would be the same goal at the end that is to get good responses from the person they love. By loving others, people will start to build relationship;
sometimes they want the special one, in order to share, to take and give, and to realize that they can complete one and another. In order to know what love is
revealed in the story of the play The Matchmaker, there are theories of love to be considered.
Rubin in Kasschau’s Understanding Psychology writes that there are probably as many reasons for loving as there are people who love. In each case,
there is a different constellation of needs to be gratified, a different set of characteristics that are found to be rewarding, a different ideal to be fulfilled.
1995: 342 While most people say that they love their parents, their friends, and
maybe their brothers and sisters, they attach a different meaning to love when referring to a boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse. As the writer have stated, love
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Rubin distinguishes between “liking” and “loving”. According to Rubin, “liking” usually involves respect or high regard for another person. It is
based primarily on respect for another person and the feeling that he or she is similar to you. On the other hand, love usually involves liking plus three other
elements: great attachment to and dependency on the person; a caring for or to help the person; and the desire to have an exclusive, intimate relationship with the
person. Kasschau, 1994: 342, 433 The other expert, Hatfield, distinguish between two types of love:
“passionate love” and “companionate love”. “Passionate love” is very intense, sensual, and all-consuming. It has a feeling of great excitement, of intense
sexuality, yet there is almost an element of danger that it may go away at any moment. Passionate love is an intensely emotional and sexual fascination with a
mate and a strong desire of exclusiveness. Feeling of excitement, anxiety, tenderness, and jealousy are all common in passionate love. Passionate love is
what is commonly referred to as “romantic love” in which lovers’ long for their partners and seek to capture their affection. 1995: 342, 433
In contrast to the relativity short-life passionate love, “companionate love” is defined as the affection we feel for those with whom our lives are deeply
intertwined. Companionate love is more stable love. People who share a mutual concern and care for each other and who have strong, frequent, and long-term
interactions are likely experienced companionate love. Friendship, understanding, and the willingness to make sacrifices for each other are the characteristics of
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4. Psychology and Literature
