TRANSLATION OF THE WRITTEN DISCOURSE COMPLETION TASK FEMALE RESPONDENTS PROBLEM 1 RESULTS: Respondent 1

  

TRANSLATION OF THE WRITTEN DISCOURSE COMPLETION TASK

FEMALE RESPONDENTS

PROBLEM 1

RESULTS: Respondent 1

  “Lebih baik kamu harus bicarakan masalah ini dulu sama pacarmu. Nanti kamu pasti akan dapat penjelasan.” (“You should discuss it with your boyfriend/girlfriend first. You will certainly get his/her explanation later.”)

  Respondent 2

  “Kok kamu belum ngomong sama dia seeh..!! Sudah jelas-jelas dia ketahuan bo’ong. Kamu mesti secepatnya menyelesaikan masalah ini, kalo nggak dia bakalan bo’ong terus sama kamu. Pokoknya kamu harus ngawasin gerak-geriknya, OK!!” (“Why have you not told him? It is obvious that he had lied to you. You must finish this problem as soon as possible. If you do not do it he will always lie to you. Basically, you must control his/her behavior, OK!!”)

  Respondent 3

  “Mending langsung nanya aja ma orangnya. Tanya lagi 2 hari yang lalu itu dia pergi ke mana bareng sapa? Kalo dia masih bohong, bilang aja kebenarannya yang kamu tahu!” (“You should ask it directly to your boyfriend/girlfriend. Ask him/her where and with whom he/she went two days ago. If he/she still lies, tell him/her what you have known about him/her.”)

  Respondent 4

  “Ya udah mending cepetan diomongin, ditanyain baek-baek, kalo dia ngga ngaku, bilang aja kamu liat dia di mall. Tanyain juga kenapa dia bohong!”

  (“You should talk it to him/her as soon as possible. Ask it to him/her carefully. If he still does not admit it, tell him/her that you saw him/her at the mall. Ask why he/she lied to you too.”)

  Respondent 5

  “Harus cepa t dibicarakan agar cepat mendapat jalan keluar dari masalah tersebut.” (“You should discuss it soon so you can get the solution of this problem.”)

  Respondent 6

  “Ya udah, kamu coba temui dia dan bicarakan masalah itu baik -baik dengan dia. Mungkin dia hanya teman biasa. Jangan berprasangka buruk dulu.” (“Try to meet him/her and discuss that problem carefully. Maybe she/he is only a good friend of your boyfriend/girlfriend. Do not prejudice against him/her first.”)

  Respondent 7

  “Kamu harus segera membicaraka nnya dengan dia. Kalau tidak segera, masalahnya tidak akan selesai.” (“You must discuss it with him/her as soon as possible. If you do not do it soon, this problem will not be overcome.”)

  Respondent 8

  “Jangan salah sangka dan marah dulu. Coba tanya baik -baik sapa tahu, pergi ke mall sama saudaranya.” (“Do not misjudge and get angry first. Try to ask it as well as possible to him/her. Maybe he/she went to the mall with his sister/her brother.”)

  Respondent 9

  “Sebaiknya kamu temui dia dan minta penjelasan dar i dia. Bagaimana penyelesaiannya jadi kamu bisa tau kebenarannya.” (“You should meet and ask his/her clarification. Ask how to solve it to know the truth.”)

  Respondent 10

  “Menurut aku, kamu jangan terlalu cepat curiga mungkin itu saudara ato cuman temennya. Kamu omongin secepatnya sama dia. Daripada terjadi salah paham antara kamu dan dia.” (“I think, you should not be suspicious too fast. Maybe it is only his sister/her brother or his/her friend. You had better to discuss it immediately to him/her rather than have a misunderstanding between both of you.”)

  Respondent 11

  “Mending kamu ketemuan sama pacarmu. Trus ditanya baek -baek. Kalau dia ga mau ngaku diputusin aja. Kalau ternyata cewek itu gebetannya, mending diputusin aja, cowok kaya gitu gak bisa dikasih hati.” (“You should meet your boyfriend. Then ask it carefully to him. If he does not admit it, leave him. If actually this girl is his other girlfriend, you should leave him. You can not let him have his way.”)

  Respondent 12

  “Ya udah coba saja kamu bi carakan dengan dia mungkin waktu itu dia ada kebutuhan mendadak yang bikin dia harus pergi ke mall.” (“T ry to talk to him/her. Perhaps he/she has to go to the mall urgently.”)

  Respondent 13

  “Mending kamu ga usah tanya ke dia tentang masalah itu. Kalo so fa r so good, it’s OK. Qta kan ga bisa nglarang -nglarang orang untuk bergaul sama orang lain.” (“You should not ask him/her about this problem. If so far it is good, it is OK. We can not forbid someone to associate with another.”)

  Respondent 14 “Wah X, kalau gitu kamu harus selidiki dahulu donk background dia.

  Jangan-jangan dia tuh orang yang suka nengok kanan-kiri. Bukannya aku manas-manasin kamu. Tapi khan lebih baik kamu tahu sendiri, kalau kamu

  (“Well X, if it is like that you must investigate his background first. Maybe he is a playboy. It does not mean that I incite you. But it is better if you know it yourself. If you ask it directly to him, do you think that he will admit it? Try to investigate it first but calm down yourself, OK!”)

  Respondent 15

  “Lebih baik kamu sesegera mungkin confirm ma dia tentang hal yang sebenarnya, daripada kamu trus dihantui rasa penasaran dan perasaan yang gak enak karena merasa terkhianati. Jangan tunda-tunda.”) (“You would rather confirm to him as soon as possible about the real thing than you are always feel haunted by curiosity and terrible feeling, because you have been betrayed. Do not postpone it.”)

  

PROBLEM 2

RESULTS: Respondent 1

  “Kalo gitu ceritanya lebih baik kamu pindah kos aja tapi nanti apa kamu gak takut bakalan menyesuaikan diri lagi dengan lingkungan baru.” (“If it is like that you should move from your boarding house. Are you not afraid to adapt yourself with the new environment later?”)

  Respondent 2

  “Nggak usah nyari tempat kost baru lagi… Mendingan kamu laporin aja ke ibu kostmu. Biar dia kena marah. Tapi kalo ibu kostmu ga ada mending kamu kompakan ma temen-temen kostmu yang lain. Truez ngomong sama dia… Mungkin dia bakal malu berat….” (“You do not have to find a new boarding house. You should inform it to your landlady. Your roommate will be warned. But if she is not there you should join your other friends. After that, talk to your roommate. He/she will be very embarrassed.”)

  Respondent 3

  “Ihh.. males banget punya temen kos kayak gitu. Langsung pindah aja deh mendingan. Klo gak kamu coba ngomong ke temenmu itu buat ngerubah kebiasaan buruknya itu. Tapi secara halus ya.” (“It must be annoying to have a roommate like th at. Leave your boarding house soon. Or you should try to talk to your roommate to change his/her bad habit. But do it gently.”)

  Respondent 4

  “Ya udah pindah aja.” (“If it is like that, move from your boarding house.”)

  Respondent 5

  “Kamu ngomong baik -baik aja sama dia bahwa sikapnya itu mengganggu kamu.” (“You should talk it carefully to him/her that his/her behavior is annoying you.”)

  Respondent 6

  “Pikirkan dulu tindakanmu, kamu coba bicara baik -baik dengan dia, sapa tau dia dapat mengerti dan berubah.” (“Think about your action first. You should try to talk it as well as possible to him/her. Perhaps he/she will change.”)

  Respondent 7

  “Bagaimana kalau dibicarakan dulu dengan temenmu itu? Kalau dia bisa berubah dan mengerti kan jadi kamu tidak perlu repot-repot pindah kos. Tapi kalau tidak bisa ya mau bagaimana lagi.” (“What if you discuss it first with your roommate? If he/she has changed and has understood, you will not bother to move from your boarding house. But if he/she can not do that, what can you do?”)

  Respondent 8

  “Pertimbangin lagi sebelum bertindak. Coba cari temen sekamar yang

  (“Think it again before you do something. Try to find a perfect roommate . You do not have to move from your boarding house because it will trouble you and it needs adaptation again.”)

  Respondent 9

  “Berkumpul dengan banyak orang kan butuh adaptasi dan saling mengenal satu dengan yang lainnya. Tapi kalau menurutmu kamu dengan pindah kost itu yang terbaik dan kamu nyaman kenapa ndak.” (“Gathering with many people needs adaptation and you can know each other. But if you think that moving from your boarding house is the best way and you feel comfortable, why not?”)

  Respondent 10

  “Sebelum kamu cari te mpat kost baru sebaiknya kamu omongin baek-baek dulu sama temen sekamar kamu. Biar dia tahu kalau kamu keberatan sama kebiasaannya itu.” (“Before you find the new boarding house, you should discuss it carefully with your roommate. Let him/her know that you object to his/her habit.”)

  Respondent 11

  “Mending kamu pindah aja deh. Soalnya kamu kan lama, ga cuma sehari/dua hari daripada kamu makan ati.” (“You should move from your boarding house because you have to live there for a long time not only for one or two days. It is better than you have to suffer there.”)

  Respondent 12

  “Kalo emang ga bisa diajak kompromi ya udah kamu pindah aja malah lebih nyaman.” (“If he/she can not be compromised you should leave your boarding house. It will be more comfortable.”)

  Respondent 13

  “Kamu bicarain dulu sama dia tentang masalahmu dengan baik -baik,

  (“First you discuss it with him/her about your problem carefully. Maybe he/she can realize his/her dirty habit in this way.”)

  Respondent 14

  “Hmm… kamu udah coba ngomong sama anaknya? Mungkin dia tipe orang yang ngga terlalu rapian. Coba aja komunikasi, or bagi tugas ngepel or nyapu. Kamu minta baik-baik siapa tahu dia mau.” (“Hmm… have you talked it to him/her? Perhaps he is not included a neat person. Try to communicate with him/her or share the housework like cleaning or sweeping the floor. Ask it gently. Maybe he/she wants to do it.”)

  Respondent 15

  “Jangan langsung ngambil keputusan seperti itu toh pasti ini semua ada jalan keluarnya yang terbaik ambil langkah awal untuk ngomong ma dia dari hati ke hati kalo emang udah mentok ga mempan ya kamu bisa minta pindah kamar aja.” (“Do not directly make a decision like that. It must be a best solution for this. Take the beginning step to talk to him/her in truthfulness. If you fail, you can ask to move to another room.”)

  

PROBLEM 3

RESULTS: Respondent 1

  “Ah masa sich, kamu tahu berita itu dari siapa? Apa kamu tau sendiri?” (“Is that true? Who told you the news? Do you know it by yourself?”)

  Respondent 2

  “Apa…selingkuh!!! Yang bener. Ya ampun, please dech, kasian banget seeh kamu. Kok pas sebelum kalian jadian, kamu nggak nyari tahu dulu tentang dia. Tanya-tanya sama temen-temennya keq. Tapi kamu ngga usah banyak temen cowok yang masih jomblo lho… ntar aku kenalin dech,OK!!” (“What? Having an affair!! Oh my God, please, shame on you. Why do you not find out about him first before you establish this relationship? Ask his friends. You must not be sad like that. Leave him and keep trying to find another!! I have a lot of single male friends. I will introduce them to you, OK!!”)

  Respondent 3

  “Gila…cowok apa tuch? Yang bener? Jangan -jangan cuman gossip! Kamu tau darimana? Gak lebih baik kamu bicarain dulu ma cowokmu, konfirmasi lebih baik daripada emosi.” (“It is crazy. What kind of man is he? Maybe it is only a gossip! Where do you know it? You should discuss it with your boyfriend. Confirmation is better than emotion.”)

  Respondent 4

  “Putus aja cari yang lain. Masih banyak cowok yang lebih baik dari dia.” (“Leave him and find another one. There are still many men better than him.”)

  Respondent 5

  “Hah masa sih?” (“Wow, is that true?”)

  Respondent 6

  “Oh ya Tuhan, masa? Ya udah relakan dia pergi. Kamu pasti dapet yang terbaik.” (“Oh my God, is that true? You should let him/her go. You will get the best one.”)

  Respondent 7 “Oh ya??? Aku ikut sedih. Tapi kamu lupain aja, kita cari pacar baru.

  Orang kayak gitu gak usah dipikirin.”

  Respondent 8

  “Putusin aja mumpung belum pacaran lama jadi khan kamu gak terlalu sakit hati.” (“Le ave him/her before making a longer date with him/her. So you will not be too offended.”)

  Respondent 9

  “Lebih baik hubunganmu dengan si dia disudahin aja karena dengan bagaimanapun juga diduakan itu ndak enak.” (“You should end this relationship. Because wh atever it is, being betrayed is not good.”)

  Respondent 10

  “Apa kamu sudah yakin kalau dia selingkuh? Kalau yakin dan memang terbukti, tergantung apa kamu mau memaafkan dia dan tetap pacaran sama dia atau ninggalin dia toh cowo’ bukan dia aja.” (“Are you su re that he has an affair? If you are sure and it is proved, it depends on you, to forgive him and still dating with him or leave him. He is not the only man.”)

  Respondent 11

  “Wah ga’ bisa dibiarin gitu aja. Saranku, kamu putusin dia deh. Cowok gak setia tu ga’ bisa dipegang janjinya.” (“Wow, you can not let this happen. My suggestion is leave him. We can not keep this unfaithful man’s promise.”)

  Respondent 12

  “Gitu aja pusing, tinggalin aja napa. Cari yang lain lagi susah amat.” (“You do not have to be c onfused. Find another one. It is not hard.”)

  Respondent 13

  “Sebaiknya kamu putus aja!! Ga’ ada maaf buat orang yang selingkuh.” (“You should leave him/her. There is no forgiveness for an unfaithful person.”)

  Respondent 14

  “Wa? Emang kamu ngga tahu? Kala u kalian memang dekat dan kalau dia memang sayang kamu dia nggak mungkin main belakang gitu. Terus terang aja kalau kamu kecewa, ngomong langsung, OK?” (“Wa? You do not know that? If both of you are close and he/she loves you he/she must not cheat you. Tell him/her the truth that you are disappointed. Tell it directly, OK?”)

  Respondent 15

  “Kamu udah yakin dan 100% percaya ma brita itu? Klo memang itu bener ya untuk pa masih kamu pertahanin langsung putus ja! Ga tau malu aja pacarin senior kita.” (“Do you believe that news 100%? If it is true, why do you still want him/her? Leave him/her immediately. He/she is not embarrassed to have a relationship with our senior.”)

  

PROBLEM 4

RESULTS: Respondent 1

  “Kamu jangan sampai berfikir sedangkal itu, kalau kamu mau keluar dari rumah nanti kamu mau tinggal da mana? Pake uang apa? Lebih baik kamu bicara ama papamu, kasih pengertian bahwa kamu tidak berminat masuk kedokteran. Kuharap beliau tidak akan memaksa kamu lagi.” (“You must not think foolishly. If you want to get out from your house, where will you stay? Using whose money? It is better if you talk to your father and give him some understanding that you do not want to enroll in a medical school. I hope that he will not force you anymore.”)

  Respondent 2

  “E h..jangan lansung nge-kost dulu… Mendingan kamu bicara sama papa kudu ngomong sama mama, biar nanti mama kamu yang ngomong sama papa.” (“Eh… you must not stay in the boarding house immediately. You should talk to your father. Tell the truth that you do not like the medical school. Find the right reasons so he will understand it. But if it does not work, you must tell your mother. Let her talk to your father.”)

  Respondent 3

  “Kenapa? Mending kamu jelasin ke papamu kalo kamu gak srek buat kuliah di kedokteran. Buat papamu mengubah keputusannya. Yang kuliah kan kamu bukan papamu, gimana sich.” (“Why? You should explain it to your father that you are not interested in medical school. Make your father change his decision. The one who will study is you, not your father.”)

  Respondent 4

  “Jangan gitu, emangnya nge -kost enak! Kamu ngomong baek-baek lagi ama papamu. Bilang aja kamu ngga minat di kedokteran daripada nanti gak niat kuliah Cuma habisin duit.” (“Do not be like that. Do you think staying in a boarding house is good? You should discuss it carefully with your father. Tell that you are not interested in medicine so you do not intend to study. It is only wasting money.”)

  Respondent 5

  “Kamu jangan gitu tho. Aku aja pengen masuk kedokteran juga, eman - eman lho.” (“Do not be like that. Actually , I also want to enroll a medical school. It seems a pity to waste this opportunity.”)

  Respondent 6

  “Jangan, masalah itu pasti ada jalan keluarnya. Kamu berdoa dulu dan berusaha membicarakan baik-baik dengan keluargamu.”

  Respondent 7

  “Jangan begitu dong. Lebih baik diomongin dulu dengan keluargamu. Aku berdoa semoga semua bisa lancar sesuai keinginanmu.” (“Do not be silly . It is better to discuss it first with your family. I hope that everything will run smoothly as your willingness.”)

  Respondent 8

  “Wajar orang tua punya tuntutan ke anak, apalagi juga buat masa depan anaknya sendiri, tinggal bagaimana kita membicarakan kemauan kita ke orang tua dan membuat mereka mengerti batas kemampuan kita. Kalo kita emosi dan keluar dari rumah malah kita dan orang tua jadi semakin tegang.” (“It is natural if parents have a demand to their children whereas it is also for their children’s future. It depends on how we talk about our willingness to our parents and make them understand the limit of our ability. If we are emotional and we get out from our home, it will make our relationship with them worse.”)

  Respondent 9

  “Orang tua selalu menginginkan yang terbaik untuk anaknya. Tidak usah keluar dari rumah dan cari tempat kost. Lebih baik sharing dengan keluarga, itu lebih baik!!!” (“Parents always want the best thing for their children. You do not have to get out from your house and find a boarding house. You should share this problem with your family. It is better to do that!!!”)

  Respondent 10

  “Orang tua pasti memaksakan sesuatu karena ingin yang terbaik. Kalau terjadi ketidakcocokan pendapat, lebih baik didiskusikan baek-baek daripada memberontak dengan cara keluar dari rumah. Cara seperti itu kekanak-kanakan dan tidak menyelesaikan masalah.” (“Parents force their children because they want the best thing for them. If should not rebel against your family by moving from the house. It is childish and it will not solve the problem.”)

  Respondent 11

  “Jangan gitu ta. Gimanapun dia itu orang tuamu. Kamu harus menghormatinya. Mending kamu turutin omongan orang tuamu. Soalnya orang tuamu pasti tahu yang terbaik untukmu.” (“Do not be silly. He is your parent anyway. You must respect him. It is better for you to obey your parents’ words because they must know the best for you.”)

  Respondent 12 “Kenapa kamu ga’ coba ngomong aja baik -baik dan pindah jurusan.

  Keluar rumah kan bukan penyelesaiannya.” (“Why do you not try to talk it carefully and join another course? Moving from the house is not the solution.”)

  Respondent 13

  “Jangan buru -buru untuk mengambil keputusan. Bicarakan dulu dan beri pengertian sama papamu kalo kamu ga’ cocok kuliah kedokteran.” (“Do not be in a hurry to take a decision. Discuss it first and give understanding to your father that you are not interested in medical school.”)

  Respondent 14

  “Hmm…memang kamu mau bayar sendiri uang kost -nya? Kan ngga murah X. Saranku, kamu jelaskan sama ayahmu kalau kamu nggak suka bidang kedokteran. Yang nanti kuliah kan kamu lho bukan papa kamu. Lucu juga ya?” (“Hmm…do you want to pay the rent by yourself? It is not cheap, X. My suggestion is that you explain it to your father if you are not interested in medicine. The one who will study is you, not your father. It is funny, right?”)

  Respondent 15

  “Kamu udah ngejelasin kalo kamu bener -bener ga’ minat ma kedokteran? Kalo emang papamu masih ngotot juga turutin aja daripada keluar dari rumah dan kuliahmu jadi berantakan kan malah tambah berabe. Toh kedokteran juga oke dan punya prospek masa depan/kerja yang cerah!” (“Have you explained that you are really not interested in medicine? If your father still insists you, you should obey him, you should not move from the house. Your study will become a mess. It will be more miserable. After all, medicine is also okay and it has a good prospect for the future.”)

  

PROBLEM 5

RESULTS: Respondent 1

  “Kalau gitu kamu harus berusaha mengejar dosen terus, kejar terus sampai ACC.” (“If it is like that, you have to chase your lecturer continually. Chase him/her continually until he/she approves your proposal.”)

  Respondent 2

  “Gini lho man…Kamu ga’ usah stress dulu. Revise aja bagian yang masih salah. Abes itu telpon dosennya en bikin janji buat konsultasi secepatnya. Kamu juga perlu ngomong ma dosenmu tentang rencana kamu untuk lulus taon ini, biar dia juga tau, en nggak lama-lamain skripsimu.” (“Well man, you must not get stressed first. Just revise the wrong parts. Then come to the lecturer and make an appointment to have a consultation as soon as possible. You also need to talk to your lecturer about your plan to graduate this year. Let him/her know it and not drag out your thesis.”)

  Respondent 3

  “Coba lagi! Sabar tinggal selangkah lagi. Buat p roposalmu besok lebih

  (“Try it again. Be patient, it remains one more step. Tomorrow, make your proposal better than before. You said that it is already 6 years, right? Do you want to make it longer? Are you not embarrassed with your age? He…3x”)

  Respondent 4

  “Mungkin kamu kurang konsen ma skripsi kamu. Kamu seharusnya lebih disiplin berkonsultasi dengan dosen.” (“Maybe you concentrate to your thesis less. You should be more discipline to consult with your lecturer.”)

  Respondent 5

  “Kamu segera mengurusnya saja.” (“You should arrange it soon.”)

  Respondent 6

  “Jangan patah semangat dulu. Kerjakan lagi dengan sepenuh hati dan berdoa, pasti bisa.” (“Do not give up. Do it again with all your heart and you have to pray. It will work.”)

  Respondent 7

  “Pokoknya jangan menyerah ya. Kamu harus terus berjuang.” (“Basically, do not give up, OK. You must always keep fighting.”)

  Respondent 8

  “Mungkin kamu belum s erius bimbingan, bicara sama dosen pembimbingmu dan coba minta pendapat gimana akhir dari proposalmu, sapa tahu dosenmu tergerak hatinya.” (“Perhaps you are not se rious to have a consultation. Talk to your sponsor and try to ask his/her opinion about the ending of your proposal. Who knows he/she is willing to do that.”)

  Respondent 9

  “Lebih baik temui dosen pembimbing dan tanya proposal skripsimu sudah

  (“It is better to meet your sponsor and ask if your thesis have been approved or not. Tell also that your examination will be held in the following week.”)

  Respondent 10 “Kamu harus terus berusaha, kalau kita berusaha pasti ada jalan keluarnya.

  Kalau memang harus mengulang 1 tahun lagi mungkin itu jalan yang terbaik untuk kita.” (“You have to keep trying. If we always make an effort, there must be a solution. If we have to repeat one more year perhaps it is the best way for us.”)

  Respondent 11

  “Jangan menyerah ya. Kamu harus semangat. Kasihan ora ng tuamu sudah membiayamu. Aku dukung kamu deh.”) (“Do not give up. You must keep fighting. Take pity on your parents who finance you. I support you, OK.”)

  Respondent 12

  “Kamu ngebut aja. Pasti bisa, semangat aja deh.” (“You must speed up in doing your proposal. You can do it. Keep fighting.”)

  Respondent 13

  “Never give up!! Usahakan dulu sebaik-baiknya, konsultasikan dengan dosen pembimbingmu, okey!” (“Never give up!! Try it well first. Consult it to your sponsor, OK!”)

  Respondent 14

  “Oi! Semangat donk, ka mu nunda-nunda terus ya? Nggak usah perfect- perfect, buat saja dulu sebisa kamu. Terus berjuang, don’t worry deh pokoknya.” (“Oi! Never give up. Do you always delay it? You need not be perfect. Just do it as far as you can. Keep fighting. Do not worry.”)

  Respondent 15

  “Semua tuh butuh yang namanya kesabaran dan ketelitian. Mungkin kamu kurang teliti bikinnya. Jangan nyerah dan terus berusaha. Pasti proposal skripsimu bisa segera di-ACC.” (“Everything needs patience and carefulness. Perhaps you are careless in doing it. Do not give up and always keep fighting. Your thesis proposal will definitely be approved soon.”)

  

PROBLEM 6

RESULTS: Respondent 1

  “Lebih baik kamu bicarakan soal masalah ini pada dekan kita, karena kalau kamu bersungguh-sungguh dalam kuliah pasti Beliau akan maklum atau bahkan Beliau bisa mencarikan orang tua asuh.” (“It is better for you to talk this problem to our Dean because if you are serious in studying he/she will understand it. Even he/she can find foster parents for you.”)

  Respondent 2

  “Pokoknya kamu ga’ boleh balik ke Jogja, ini kan mo final test. Gini aja, kamu nyari pinjaman sama temen-temen kamu se-gank. Siapa tahu mereka bisa bantuin kamu. Yang paling penting, kamu harus cerita tentang masalahmu sama mereka, biar mereka bisa ngerti.” (“Basically you should not come back to Jogja because there will be a final test. Well, you can get a loan from your best friends. Who knows maybe they can help you. The most important thing is that you must tell them all your problems so they can understand it.”)

  Respondent 3 “Wah…gawat tuch! Emh, coba nyari pinjeman temen or saudara yang ada.

  (“What...it is so terrible. Emh, try to find a loan from your friends or relatives. You can return it by installment. You can find a part time job, right?”)

  Respondent 4

  “Kamu bisa cari kerjaan, abis kuliah kamu bisa kerja paling ngga’ ngurangin beban bapakmu. Sabar ya! Gimana kalo kita coba cari lowongan dulu di koran ?” (“You can find a job. After studying you can work. At least, it will reduce your father’s burden. Be patient, OK. How about finding a job vacancy in newspaper first?”)

  Respondent 5

  “Memangnya kamu butuh berapa, misalnya aja aku bisa bantu?” (“How much do you need? Mayb e I can help you.”)

  Respondent 6

  “Coba kamu bertanya pada Andi, siapa tau dia ada kelebihan uang untuk membantumu.” (“Try to ask Andi maybe he/she has money to help you.”)

  Respondent 7

  “Ya udah nyante aja. Nih tak pinjemin dulu.” (“Just be relaxed. I wil l borrow you some money first.”)

  Respondent 8

  “Coba pinjem uang ke saudara terdekatmu. Jangan sampai semester ini gagal. Kalaupun bapakmu ga mampu mungkin semester depan bisa cuti dulu/ cari kerja jadi kamu ga usah drop-out.” (“Try to borrow money from your close relatives. You must not fail this semester. Although your father can not finance you, maybe you can take leave on next semester or find a job. So you do not have to drop out.”)

  Respondent 9

  “Sebaiknya kamu pulang ke Jogja dan sharing ma keluargamu bagaimana

  (“You shoul d come back to Jogja and share your problem with your family. Try to find the best solution.”)

  Respondent 10

  “Lakukanlah yang kamu anggap benar. Mungkin dengan kamu pulang ke Jogja dapat meringankan beban orang tuamu.” (“Do everything that you think is the right one. Maybe your return to Jogja can lessen your parents’ burden.”)

  Respondent 11

  “Aku pengen banget bantu kamu. Aku punya sedikit uang mungkin kamu bisa pinjam. Kamu yang sabar ya. Atau kamu coba cari tambahan uang dengan ngelesi.” (“I really want to help you. I have a little money . Perhaps you can borrow it. You must be patient, OK. Or you can find some extra money by giving private course.”)

  Respondent 12

  “Sebentar sepertinya aku masih ada sisa uang. Mungkin bisa kas ih pinjeman atau kamu cari tambahan pinjaman dari teman.” (“I think I still have a little money. Maybe I can give you a loan or you can find extra loan from your friends.”)

  Respondent 13

  “Mungkin kamu bisa cari solusi laen yang bisa membantu menyelesaikan masalahmu itu! Kamu bisa cari duit sendiri dengan ngasi les privat ke anak-anak SD/SMP/SMU.” (“Perhaps you can find another solution that can help you to solve this problem. You can get your own money by giving private courses to elementary/junior/ senior high school students.”)

  Respondent 14

  “Yaaah…masa kamu nyerah gitu aja? Cari kerjaan sambilan mau? Kita bantu kekurangannya. Temen kamu di sini kan bisa bantu juga! He

  (“Yaaah…do you just want to give up? Do you want to find a part time job? We can help the shortage. Your friends here also can help too, right! He..he..he”)

  Respondent 15

  “Ya udah kamu turutin dulu aja permintaan bapakmu. Sapa tau setelah kamu pulang nanti dan curhat tentang final test akhir bulan ini kamu dan bapakmu bisa dapetin jalan keluarnya yang terbaik. Pasti bapakmu juga bisa ngerti dan berusaha semax mungkin demi masa depan anaknya.” (“You should accept your father’s request first. Wh o knows after your return and your sharing about your final test at the end of this month, you and your father can find the best solution. You father can absolutely understand and try as maximum as he can for his children’s future.”)

  

PROBLEM 7

RESULTS: Respondent 1

  “Ah belum tentu juga, asal kamu dan pacarmu nantinya bisa saling pengertian satu sama lain pasti bisa berjalan lancar.” (“Ah, it is not certain. As long as you and your boyfriend/girlfriend can understand each other, this relationship will run smoothly.”)

  Respondent 2

  “Kalo dipikir-pikir bener juga kata ibu kamu. Lebih baik kamu nyari yang se-iman sama kamu. Tapi kalo kamu emang udah terlanjur cinte ma dia, kamu harus bisa yakinin ortumu. Kan masalahnya cuma tentang beda agama…bilang kalo kalian sama -sama saling cinte.” (“If we think it carefully your mother’s words are true. You had better find another one who has the same religion with you. But if you have fallen in love with him/her you must be able to convince your parents. The only

  Respondent 3

  “B eda agama masih aja jadi masalah! Kamu dah coba jelasin ke ibu kamu kalo itu gak 100% bener. Kasih beberapa contoh positif yang memberatkan pendapatmu.” (“Having different religion still becomes a problem! Have you explained it to your mother if it is not 100% correct? Give some positive examples that support your opinion.”)

  Respondent 4

  “Mungkin ibumu benar. Tapi hal itu tidak akan menjadi masalah selama kalian saling mengerti. Selain itu kamu juga harus siap dalam menjalaninya! Beri ibumu pengertian kalo kamu sudah siap menjalani hubungan itu.” (“Maybe your mother is right. Yet that matter will not be a problem as long as both of you understand each other. Besides, you also have to be ready in doing it. Give your mother understanding that you are ready to do that relationship.”)

  Respondent 5

  “Yang penting kamu jalanin aja.” (“The important thing is just to do it.”)

  Respondent 6

  “Aku setuju dengan pendapat ibumu, sebaiknya kamu pikirkan kembali keinginanmu.” (“I agree with your mother’s opinion. You should reconsider your desire.”)

  Respondent 7

  “Oh, itu gak masalah kok. Yang penting kamu punya jalan keluar dari masalahmu trus kamu bilang ke ortumu. Semoga ortumu bisa mengerti.” (“Oh, that is not a problem. The important thing is that you have the solution. Then tell it to your parents. I hope your parents can understand it.”)

  Respondent 8

  “Bicarakan aja sama pacarmu langsung. Kalo kalian bener -bener serius pastinya ada komitmen buat bagaimana hubungan kalian nanti termasuk masalah agama.” (“Discuss i t with your boyfriend/girlfriend directly. If both of you are really serious, there must be a commitment for your relationship including for the religion problem.”)

  Respondent 9

  “Memang benar beda agama menimbulkan masalah. Orang tua kan selalu berfikir untuk kebaikan anaknya apalagi seorang ibu. Kalo agamanya sama kan lebih enak.” (“It is true that having different religion will cause some problems. Parents, especially mothers, always think for their children’s goodness . If both of you have the same religion, it will be more comfortable.”)

  Respondent 10 “Kamu harus menghargai pendapat ibumu karena itu untuk kebaikan juga.

  Tapi yang menjalani hubungan ini tetep kamu. Tergantung perasaanmu sendiri, apa kamu sudah siap menghadapi resiko pacaran beda agama atau tidak.” (“You have to respect your mother’s opinion because it also for your own goodness. However, the person who experiences this relationship is you. It depends on your own feeling. Are you ready to face the risk to have different religion in one relationship or not?”)

  Respondent 11

  “Memang kalau beda agama pasti susah ketemunya. Tapi kalau kalian bisa saling mendukung dan tidak memaksakan satu dengan lainnya, mungkin bisa dilanjutkan.” (“It is true that having different religion must be difficult to co me together. But if both of you can support and not force each other, maybe this

  Respondent 12 “Sebenarnya banyaknya masalah yang timbul bukan hanya karna agama.

  Tapi karna agama itu prisip hidup dan hal yang sensitif, mungkin pilihannya salah satu dari kalian harus pindah agama atau putus.” (“Actually, a lot of troubles happened not only because of the religion. Since religion is the life principle and it is sensitive maybe the solution should be one of you has to change the religion or break off the relationship.”)

  Respondent 13

  “Kamu bicarakan dulu baik -baik sama ibu dan pacarmu tentang situasi ini, dan jangan lupa berdoa pada Tuhan agar bisa mendapatkan jalan keluar terbaik buat semua orang.” (“Y ou should discuss it as well as possible to your mother and your boyfriend/girlfriend about this situation first. Do not forget to pray to God so you can get the best solution for everyone.”)

  Respondent 14

  “Hmm…Ada benernya juga ibu kamu. Memangnya kamu mau nanti diajak pindah kepercayaan ama pacar kamu? Itu kan masalah pilihan hidup. Coba deh, kamu doa tanya sama Tuhan, boleh nggak kamu pacaran sama dia?” (“Hmm…your mother is right. Do you agree if your boyfriend/girlfriend ask you to change your religion later? That is the problem of life choice. Try to pray and ask to God, are you allowed to have a relationship with him/her or not?”)

  Respondent 15

  “Kalo menurut aku lebih baik turutin aja kata ibu kamu. Kamu inget kan bahwa ridlo Tuhan juga ridlo ortu khususnya seorang ibu. Rasa cintamu pada pacarmu pasti bisa dipupus dikit demi sedikit, pa mao aku bantuin cari penggantinya?”)

  Your love can be ommitted continually. Do you want me to help you find another one?”)

  

PROBLEM 8

RESULTS: Respondent 1

  “Lebih baik kamu bicarakan baik -baik sama pacar kamu, kamu pastikan bahwa kamu sangat mencintainya dan jika dia emang bener-bener sayang dan cinta ama kamu dia pasti akan terima kamu dan sahabatmu.” (“You should talk it carefully to your boyfriend/girlfriend. Tell him/her that you really love him/her so much. If he/she really loves you too, he/she will understand you and your bestfriend.”)

  Respondent 2

  “Kayaknya pacar kamu cemburu deh, liat kamu deket-deket ma sahabat kamu…Mungkin kamu lebih dekat sama sahabatmu daripada ma dia dech. Mending kamu jaga jarak dgn sobatmu dech, kan kasian pacar kamu, klo liat kamu me sobatmu dua-duaan teruz.” (“Perhaps your boyfriend/girlfriend is jealous to see you are close to your bestfriend. Maybe you are closer to your bestfriend rather than to him/her. You should keep a distance with your bestfriend because it is so pity for your boyfriend/girlfriend to see you and your bestfriend always together.”)

  Respondent 3

  “Bilang donk sama cowokmu, kasih penjelasan! Bilang kalo kamu lebih mengenal sahabatmu dulu ketimbang cowokmu. Dengan konsekuen kamu juga harus menyeimbangkan proporsi waktu antara kamu dengan mereka.” (“Tell it to your boyfriend. Give an explanation to him! Tell that you have known your bestfriend longer than you have known him. With the consequent, you can balance your time with them.”)

  Respondent 4

  “Kalo ngga ngerti -ngerti kamu harus sabar kasih pengertian ke dia. Bilang aja kamu ga bakal bisa milih antara pacar/sahabatmu. Bilang juga kamu sayang ma mereka berdua.” (“If he/she can not understand, you must be patient to give understanding to him/her. Tell him/her that you will not be able to choose between him/her and your bestfriend. Tell also that you love them both.”)

  Respondent 5

  “Ya kamu harus nerangin ke dia tentang perbedaan kasih sayang antara sahabat dengan pacar.” (“You should tell him/her the difference between affection to a boyfriend/girlfriend and to a bestfriend.”)

  Respondent 6

  “Coba bicaralah baik -baik dan beri pengertian padanya. Pasti dia mau mengerti keadaanmu. Bagaimanapun keadaannya, teman itu pasti lebih berharga. Pacaran dapat putus tetapi persahabatan sejati akan kekal.” (“Try to talk as well as possible to him/her. Give some understanding to him/her. He/she will understand it definitely. Whatever the situation is, a friend is more worthy. Relationship with a boyfriend/girlfriend can be break off but a real friendship will be everlasting.”)

  Respondent 7

  “Gimana kalo kamu kasih pengertian dulu ke pacarmu. Trus kamu kenalin sahabatmu itu biar mereka akrab, pasti pacarmu lama-lama bisa ngerti juga.” (“How about giving understanding to your boyfriend/girlfriend first? You can introduce your bestfriend to him/her next. Later your boyfriend/girlfriend can absolutely understand it.”)

  Respondent 8

  “Kalo aku jadi kamu mungkin aku akan piker -pikir lagi karena ga enak dan temanmu memang terlalu or lebih deket ya jangan sampai jadi temen tapi mesra.” (“If I were you , maybe I would think it again. It is uncomfortable to have a boyfriend/girlfriend who always controls you. However, if your relationship with your bestfriend is too close, do not be intimate friends.”)

  Respondent 9

  “Memang untuk saling pengertian itu sulit, lebih baik jelasin sama pacar kamu kalo dia hanya sahabat kamu ndak lebih.” (“It is hard to understand each other. You had better explain it to your boyfriend/girlfriend if this boy/girl is only your bestfriend and not more.”)

  Respondent 10

  “Pacaran vs sahabatan masalah yang umum dihadapi seseorang. Kamu harus bisa menegaskan batas antara pacar dan sahabat kamu.” (“Dating vs having friendship is a common problem for everyone. You must be able to assert the limitation between boyfriend/girlfriend and bestfriend.”)

  Respondent 11 “Kamu kasih pengertian ke pacarmu. Gimanapun temen lebih penting.

  Yah, mungkin kamu perlu kasih sedikit perhatian ke pacarmu biar dia tidak cemburu.” (“You should give understanding to your b oyfriend/girlfriend. However, a friend is more important. Ya, maybe you have to give little attention to him/her so thst he/she will not be jealous.”)

  Respondent 12

  “Kamu bilang aja, sebelum ada pacarmu kan kam u udah kenal sahabatmu dan dia lebih ngerti kamu, di mana kalian biasa berdua. Selagi kamu masih bisa jaga hubungan dengan pacarmu baik-baik. It’ s OK!” (“You just have to tell that before you know your boyfriend/girlfriend you have known your bestfriend and this bestfriend understand you more. Both

  Respondent 13

  “Kamu beri pengertian baik -baik sama pacarmu, beri penjelasan ke dia kalo kamu deket cuma sebatas temen/sahabat aja.” (“You should give understanding to your boyfriend/girlfriend carefully. Explain to him/her that this boy/girl is only your bestfriend.”)

  Respondent 14 “Ah? Dia kan cuma cemburu. Mungkin kamu lebih berat ke sahabatmu.

  Ya maklum sih… b agi waktu saja, kalo pacar kamu possessive banget nggak lha yaw….” (“Ah? He is only jealous. Maybe you are closer yo your bestfriend. Ya, it is natural. Share your time. If your boyfriend/girlfriend is so possessive, No way…”)

  Respondent 15

  “Kamu udah coba ngomong ma pacarmu kalo kamu dan sahabatmu udah deket dari kecil? Truz juga bilang kalo kamu janji akan lebih adil dalam membagi waktu baik tu dengan pacarmu ato sahabatmu. Pasti lama-lama dia bisa ngerti kok. Percaya deh.” (“Have you tried to tell to you r boyfriend/girlfriend that you and your bestfriend have known each other for a long time? Then have you told him/her that you promise to be fairer in sharing your time for him/her and your bestfriend? Later he/she will understand it. Believe me.”)

  

PROBLEM 9

RESULTS: Respondent 1

  “Kamu harus tegas, kamu harus bisa menolaknya karena hal itu bukannya membantu teman tapi menjerumuskan teman. Teman qta jadi tidak mengerti apa-apa, dia hanya menggantungkan hidupnya padamu. Kalau

  (“You must be distinct. You must refuse it because this will not help him/her but drop him/her. Our friend will understand nothing. He/she will just entrust his/her life on you. If he/she insists, you must tell it to your lecturer. Let this lecturer talk to your friend.”)

  Respondent 2

  “Ga’ sopan banget seeh dia…Kapan dia bisa mandiri, kalo mesti kayak gitu. Niat kuliah gak seeh?? Kayaknya kamu harus ngomong dech sama dia. Biar nggak keterlaluan gitu ama temen, OK!!” (“He/she is so impolite. When can he/she be independent if he/she always does like this? Does he/she want to study? You should talk to him/her so he/she will not go too far to his/her friend.”)

  Respondent 3 “Gila…tuch! Males b anget lagi. Hari gini masih ada aja yang ngikut.

  Ngomong aja ke dia langsung. Bilang juga kamu gak bakalan bikinin tugas dia lagi coz itu gak baik buat dirinya juga.” (“It is so crazy. It is so miserable. There is still a dependable person in this modern day. Talk to him/her directly. Tell him/her that you will not do his/her assignment anymore because it will not be good for him/her also.”)

  Respondent 4

  “Jangan mau lagi! Enak banget dia!!” (“D o not do it anymore!! He has gone too far.”)

  Respondent 5

  “Ya kamu harus tegas dong sama dia. Toh lagian tugas itu buat dia.” (“You must be distinct to him/her. After all, that assignment is for him/her.”)

  Respondent 6

  “Coba jelaskan ke dia, tindakannya itu salah dan pasti akan merugikannya sendiri di kemudian hari.” (“Try to explain to him/her that what he/she has done is wrong and it will

  Respondent 7