PEDOMAN Persiapan “Perkawinan Katolik”
PEDOMAN Persiapan
“Perkawinan Katolik”
Dr. Petrus Admadja, SpB
Rumah Sakit
Pondok Indah
Jakarta
PERKAWINAN KATOLIK
Sabda Alkitab mengenai "Perkawinan"
Kejadian 2 : 18,21 - 24 :
18) TUHAN Allah berfirman : "Tidak baik, kalau
manusia itu seorang diri saja. Aku akan
menjadikan penolong baginya, yang sepadan
dengan dia."
21) Lalu TUHAN Allah mernbuat manusia itu tidur
nyenyak, ketika ia tidur, TUHAN Allah mengambil
salah satu rusuk dari padanya, lalu menutup
tempat itu dengan daging.
22) Dan dari rusuk yang di-ambil TUHAN Allah dari
manusia itu, dibangunNyalah seorang
perempuan, lalu dibawaNya kepada manusia itu.
23) Lalu berkatalah manusia itu: "Inilah dia, tulang
dari tulangku dan daging dari dagingku.la akan
dinamai perempuan, sebab ia diambil dari lakilaki."
24) Sebab itu seorang laki-laki akan meninggalkan
ayahnya dan ibunya dan bersatu dengan istrinya
sehingga keduanya menjadi satu daging.
Matius 19 :3 - 6:
3) Maka datanglah orang-orang Farisi kepadaNya untuk mencobai
Dia.Mereka bertanya: "Apakah diperbolehkan orang
menceraikan istrinya dengan alasan apa saja?"
4) Jawab Yesus: "Tidakkah kamu baca, bahwa IA yang
menciptakan manusia sejak semula menjadikan mereka lakilaki dan perempuan?
5) Dan firmanNya: Sebab itu laki-laki akan meninggalkan ayah
dan ibunya dan bersatu dengan istrinya, sehingga keduanya itu
menjadi satu daging.
6) Demikianlah mereka bukan lagi dua, melainkan satu. Karena itu,
apa yang telah dipersatukan Allah tidak boleh diceraikan
manusia."
Perkawinan itu apa ?
Menurut Konsili Vatikan II
(Dekrit "Gaudium et Spes"
no 48), perkawinan ialah :
Persatuan Hidup dan Persatuan Cinta, yang menuntut
kesetiaan
(artinya, tak terceraikan) dan menuntut kesatuan (Kej 2 : 24).
Dia "didirikan" oleh Allah dan diatur dengan hukum Ilahi
(Mat. 19 : 4 - 6).
Dia merupakan "kontrak" perjanjian :
* Antara suami istri
** Secara pribadi yang bebas, dan
*** Tak dapat ditarik kembali (Mat. 19 : 4 - 6).
Dia merupakan "lembaga" yang abadi, menurut kehendak
Allah (Mat. 19 : 4 - 6) dan manusia.
Dan Dia dianugerahi dengan "kebaikan-kebaikan" yang harus
dijaga dan dianugerahi dengan "tujuan-tujuan" tertentu yang
harus dicapai.
Menurut Undang-Undang Perkawinan R.I. 1974,
Bab I pasal 1,
perkawinan ialah:
Ikatan lahir batin
Antara seorang pria dan seorang wanita (Mat. 19:4-6).
Sebagai suami istri (Kej 2 : 24).
Dengan tujuan membentuk keluarga bahagia
Dan kekal sifatnya (Mat. 19:4-6).
Berdasarkan Ketuhanan Yang Maha Esa (Mat. 19:4-6).
Perkawinan dilakukan dengan persetujuan pribadi yang bebas
1. Tanpa paksaan, artinya :
- tanpa paksaan orang lain
- tanpa paksaan situasi,
- tanpa terdorong nafsu sex,
- tanpa paksaan kemiskinannya, dsb.
2. Bebas, berarti, dilaksanakan secara TAHU dan MAU :
- Tahu, artinya punya Rasio, bisa memakainya, waras
pikirannya, sudah dewasa, mengetahui sifat-sifat
perkawinan yang sejati.
- Mau, artinya tulus, jujur, bebas, tanpa paksaan apapun.
3. Kasus : kalau “pemudi hamil dahulu”.
Selidikilah pertama-tama, apakah ada Cinta, apa secara tahu dan mau. Kalau tidak
ada, tidak boleh dikawinkan. Sebab untuk sahnya perkawinan dituntut Cinta dan
Tahu - Mau (tetapi tentu saja si pria yang menghamilinya itu tetap harus
mempertanggung-jawabkan perbuatannya : ganti rugi, menjamin kehidupan si
pemudi,mensahkan anaknya dan menjamin kehidupan anak itu seumur hidup).
4. Tidak baik, perkawinan melalui perantara atau wakil. Harus langsung orang tuanya.
Kapan suatu perkawinan itu sah ?
1. Menurut Gereja Katolik, perkawinan
itu
baru sah kalau:
- Ada persetujuan bebas
- Tidak ada ikatan lain, misalnya :
sudah
beristri, terikat sumpah sebagai
pastor/suster.
- Tidak ada halangan yang
"membatalkan"
2. Menurut negara (Undang-Undang Perkawinan nomor I tahun 1974
tatadilakukan
cara keagamaan
pasal 2 no (1) : "Perkawinan adalah- Dengan
sah apabila
menurut
.
hukum masing-masing
agamanya dan kepercayaan nya itu".
Perkawinan yang hanya secara catatan sipil saja, tidak sah, itu bukan
perkawinan.
Sex Education
&
family planning
Dr. Petrus Admadja, SpB
R S. PONDOK INDAH
JAKARTA
Natural Family Planning
Natural family planning is a way to help
a couple determine when sexual
intercourse can and cannot result in
pregnancy.
Natural family planning refers to
methods of avoiding (or achieving)
pregnancy that cooperate with a
couple's fertility rather than suppress it
through the use of drugs or
contraceptive devices.
Natural family planning methods
Many couples choose a natural method because of religious
or personal beliefs. Some natural family planning methods
are as follows:
Abstinence
Abstinence, or the avoidance of sexual intercourse, is the only
fully effective way to prevent pregnancy.
Withdrawal, or coitus interruptus. The penis is withdrawn from the
vagina before the male ejaculates. This method has a high failure
rate because sperm may enter the vagina before the penis is
removed.
Douching after sex. This involves flushing the vagina with a liquid.
This method is not very effective. Many sperm continue up to the
ovary and can fertilize the egg.
The rhythm method. This means a woman avoids sex during the
middle of her menstrual cycle. This method has a high failure rate.
It should only be used by women who have regular, predictable
cycles.
Breastfeeding. This method is not entirely reliable in preventing
pregnancy.
What is ovulation?
When a young woman reaches puberty, she begins to ovulate -- a
process in which a mature egg cell (also called an ovum), ready for
fertilization by a sperm cell, is released from one of the ovaries (two
female reproductive organs located in the pelvis)
If the egg does not become fertilized as it travels down the fallopian
tube on its way to the uterus, the endometrium (lining of the uterus) is
shed and passes through the vagina (the passageway through which
fluid passes out of the body during menstrual periods; also called the
birth canal), a process called menstruation.
As the average menstrual cycle lasts 28 days (starting with the first
day of one period and ending with the first day of the next menstrual
period), most women ovulate on day 14. At this time, some women
experience minor discomfort in their lower abdomen, spotting, or
bleeding, while others do not experience any symptoms at all.
What is menstruation?
Menstruation is one part of a woman's menstrual cycle which
includes the shedding of the endometrium (lining of the uterus) that
occurs throughout a woman's reproductive life.
When does menstruation begin?
On average, menarche (a young woman's first menstrual period)
occurs between the ages of 12 and 14 years old - generally two
years after her breast budding (average age 10 to 12 years old), and,
in most cases, not long after the onset of pubic hair (average age 12
years old) and underarm hair.
How long is a menstrual cycle?
For menstruating women, an average menstrual cycle lasts 28 days starting with the first day of the last period (which, on average, lasts
six days, with some women having a very light flow and others
having a very heavy flow) and ending with the first day of the next
menstrual period. However, the length of women's cycles varies,
particularly for the first one to two years after menarche (a young
woman's first menstrual period). Women may have cycles as short
as 23 days, or as long as 35 days
Ovulation Prediction Methods
Basal Body Temperature Method
(BBT)
This method is useful to confirm that a
woman is ovulating each month and by
recording her temperature on a chart over
several months she can begin to predict
when the most fertile days of her cycle are
going to be, which is of course necessary
for couples either trying to obtain, or trying
to avoid, pregnancy.
Fertility Indicator uses your body
temperature and your cycle length to
predict when you will be most fertile
Viscosity of Vaginal Fluids
This method involves checking the mucus
secreted by your vagina every day. Some
women may be aware of this method if
they have previously been interested in
natural family planning.
When it comes to
sex education,
and whether adolescents
become sexually active,
parental guidance is most
influential when it delivered
with warmth, openness, and
ongoing effort
the external and
internal male reproductive
and
urinary anatomy.
On the outside, there are five major things you can see:
the glans or head,
the corona,
the frenum,
the urethral meatus, and
the shaft.
For uncircumcised men,there is a sixth,
The prepuce or foreskin.
Go get yourself a mirror,
make sure you have some
real privacy (or at least a
door that locks) and use
some quality time to get
to know your body and
yourself. We'll just look at
what you can see and
feel, to get you started.
Sit with your panties off,
and your legs spread
open, and get ready to
take a good look.
The proper name for the outer female
genitals is the vulva (vuhl-vah).
Basic Anatomy
The
female organs of the repro
ductive system
are divided into two
categories:
(1) Primary (makes
gonads{sex cels}) sex
organs are the two ovaries
(2) Accessory (aids in the
development of sex cells)
sex organs which are
divided into external and
internal groups.
Am I still a virgin if I had oral
sex, or if someone fingered me?
I haven't had intercourse, so my
hymen is still not broken, right?
Can my partner tell if I'm a
virgin?
If I am a virgin, will I bleed a lot
when I have sex?
This woman has engaged in vaginal intercourse
There is no obvious hymeneal tissue visible
The presence or absence of a hymen in no way indicates a girl's virginal state.
No one can determine by physical examination alone whether a woman or teen has
engaged in vaginal intercourse. Only about 50% of teens and women experience
bleeding the first time they have intercourse, so blood stained bed sheets are not a
reliable indicator of prior virginity. The hymen of some women tear on more than one
occasion. There are even hymen that are elastic enough to permit a penis to enter
without tearing, or tear only partially. This is usually true only if the dilation first
occurs very gradually with fingers or other objects over an extended period of time.
Virginity is a spiritual attribute, not a physical one.
The hymen does not magically disappear when something is inserted into thevagina,
it will only stretch or tear sufficiently to permit entry of whatever is being inserted.
If for example, a teen inserts two fingers into her vagina while masturbating, her
hymen may still tear when she has vaginal intercourse for the first time, since the
average penis is larger than her two fingers. A woman who has had vaginal
intercourse may still have hymeneal tissue present; this remaining tissue can be the
cause of pain during intercourse. If a woman's current partner has a larger penis than
her prior partners, or a couple tries a new technique or position during intercourse,
her hymen may tear again, or for the first time. When doctors examine preadolescent
and adolescent girls for evidence of sexual abuse, they look for injuries to the hymen;
the hymen may still be intact except for a single tear.
Remnants of the hymen are usually present until a woman delivers a baby vaginally..
THE MENSTRUAL CYCLE
The menstrual cycle
involves the
development and release
of ovum (matured egg
cell) for fertilization and
the preparation of the
uterus to receive the
fertilized ovum. The
mentrual cycle is
separated into two
phases: The follicular
phase and the luteal
phase.
Female Ejaculation
For the last 100 years people thought only men ejaculated.
Actually 10% of women in the U.S. do ejaculate upon reaching
an orgasm! The G-spot has been identified as the "trigger" for
ejaculatory fluid.
On average women have more sexual spasms than men during orgasm. A
man's ejaculation lasts approximately 10 seconds and most of the semen is
expelled after 5 or 6 thrusts of the pelvis. Each contraction takes slightly
less than one second. On average, female orgasms last 10 to 15 seconds but
are capable of lasting up to one minute. Healthy women will have about 8
to 12 vaginal contractions for an intense orgasm. There can be 3 to 5
contractions for a mild orgasm or for a woman of older age.
Need to check out what
your sexually
transmitted disease or
infection risk might be
in a jiffy?
Based on any ONE instance of the following, you
may have been at risk for transmitting (giving to
someone else) or contracting (getting it yourself) the
following diseases or infections:
Unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse, or
vaginal intercourse with a condom that has
also been used for anal intercourse:
Bacterial Vaginosis
Chlamydia
Cytomegalovirus (CMV)
Gonorrhea
Hepatitis B
Herpes Simplex
Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV)
Human Papilloma Virus (HPV, Warts)
Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID)
Pubic Lice
Scabies
Syphilis
Trichomoniasis
Unprotected oral sex:
("blow job," "giving head," "going down,“
"rimming,")
Cytomegalovirus (CMV)
Gonorrhea
Hepatitis B
Herpes Simplex
Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV)
Human Papilloma Virus (HPV, Warts)
Syphilis
Unprotected manual sex:
("hand job," or "fingering")
Bacterial Vaginosis
Cytomegalovirus (CMV)
Herpes Simplex
Human Papilloma Virus (HPV, Warts)
Pubic Lice
Scabies
"Thank you, safe sex."
"Here are some of the results of 25 years of addressing
this problem with the "safe sex" ideology:
Ten percent of all 15 to 19 year-old females become
pregnant each year.
More than 80 percent of pregnant girls under age 17 who
give birth and keep their babies end up on welfare,
costing society a staggering $21 billion a year.
Three million new cases of STDs among teens are
reported each year.
Up to 29 percent of sexually active adolescent girls have
been found to be infected with chlamydia.
A study of sexually active college women showed that 43
percent acquired HIV infection within a 3-year period
birth control
(contraception, family planning)
Definition
Birth control refers to a
conscious decision that
sexually active couples make
to prevent unwanted
pregnancy. The decision may
result from personal
situations or medical
conditions.
Traditional barrier methods
Barrier methods use physical or chemical blocks to keep sperm
from fertilizing the woman's egg. These methods include the
following:
Condoms, or synthetic sheaths.
Male condoms cover the penis and keep
semen from going into the vagina.
Female condoms(4) cover the external
genitals and the walls of the vagina.
Spermicides. These are chemicals that
kill the sperm in the vagina. They come
in the form of jellies, foams, creams,
films, or suppositories.
A diaphragm. This is a flexible rubber
cap that is placed inside the vagina.
A cervical cap. This is smaller than a
diaphragm and covers the cervix.
Hormones
Combinations of female hormones can be used to prevent
pregnancy. These combinations include:
oral contraceptives, or birth control pills, which prevent ovulation
progestin-only birth control pills, or minipills, which do not have
estrogen
progestin implants, which are small plastic rods that are placed
beneath the skin to supply small daily doses of hormones
injections of synthetic progestins, which are hormones given every
3 months
monthly injections of progestin and estrogen in combination
Intrauterine devices
Intrauterine devices, or IUDs, are placed in the uterus. They
keep the fertilized egg from being implanted. IUDs have been
linked with an increased risk of sexually transmitted disease.
They can also increase the risk for pregnancy outside the
uterus, or ectopic pregnancy.
Sterilization
Surgery can be performed on a man or woman to prevent pregnancy. A
vasectomy in a male involves cutting and tying off the tubes that carry sperm.
A tubal ligation in a woman involves cutting and tying off the fallopian tubes.
Surgical removal of the uterus, or hysterectomy, also causes sterilization.
Emergency contraception
Emergency contraception means birth control that is given after unprotected
intercourse has taken place. Hormones can be given over a 24-hour period,
within 72 hours of the unprotected sex. Another method uses an
intrauterine device, or IUD. This is placed into the woman's uterus within 5
days after unprotected sex.
Keep God FIRST!
Pray Together!
Respect and honor each other!
Encourage each other to grow together!
Read the Bible together as much as possible!
Be swift to hear & slow to speak!
Make time to communicate with each other!
Protect and honor your marriage vows!
Do not let others come between your marriage!
Have a "Mission Statement" for your Marriage&Family!
Thank God everyday for your Mate & the Life you have
together!
Understand that "love" is a choice, not a feeling!(You
must choose everyday to Love your mate)
“THE END”
"May I have the patience
and humility to believe
things can get better,
The willingness and
courage to avoid blaming
and to look at my
contribution to each
situation,
And the energy and
flexibility to keep trying
new ways to create more
love and less stress in our
lives.“
“MAY OUR LORD
BLESS YOUR
MARRIAGE”
“Perkawinan Katolik”
Dr. Petrus Admadja, SpB
Rumah Sakit
Pondok Indah
Jakarta
PERKAWINAN KATOLIK
Sabda Alkitab mengenai "Perkawinan"
Kejadian 2 : 18,21 - 24 :
18) TUHAN Allah berfirman : "Tidak baik, kalau
manusia itu seorang diri saja. Aku akan
menjadikan penolong baginya, yang sepadan
dengan dia."
21) Lalu TUHAN Allah mernbuat manusia itu tidur
nyenyak, ketika ia tidur, TUHAN Allah mengambil
salah satu rusuk dari padanya, lalu menutup
tempat itu dengan daging.
22) Dan dari rusuk yang di-ambil TUHAN Allah dari
manusia itu, dibangunNyalah seorang
perempuan, lalu dibawaNya kepada manusia itu.
23) Lalu berkatalah manusia itu: "Inilah dia, tulang
dari tulangku dan daging dari dagingku.la akan
dinamai perempuan, sebab ia diambil dari lakilaki."
24) Sebab itu seorang laki-laki akan meninggalkan
ayahnya dan ibunya dan bersatu dengan istrinya
sehingga keduanya menjadi satu daging.
Matius 19 :3 - 6:
3) Maka datanglah orang-orang Farisi kepadaNya untuk mencobai
Dia.Mereka bertanya: "Apakah diperbolehkan orang
menceraikan istrinya dengan alasan apa saja?"
4) Jawab Yesus: "Tidakkah kamu baca, bahwa IA yang
menciptakan manusia sejak semula menjadikan mereka lakilaki dan perempuan?
5) Dan firmanNya: Sebab itu laki-laki akan meninggalkan ayah
dan ibunya dan bersatu dengan istrinya, sehingga keduanya itu
menjadi satu daging.
6) Demikianlah mereka bukan lagi dua, melainkan satu. Karena itu,
apa yang telah dipersatukan Allah tidak boleh diceraikan
manusia."
Perkawinan itu apa ?
Menurut Konsili Vatikan II
(Dekrit "Gaudium et Spes"
no 48), perkawinan ialah :
Persatuan Hidup dan Persatuan Cinta, yang menuntut
kesetiaan
(artinya, tak terceraikan) dan menuntut kesatuan (Kej 2 : 24).
Dia "didirikan" oleh Allah dan diatur dengan hukum Ilahi
(Mat. 19 : 4 - 6).
Dia merupakan "kontrak" perjanjian :
* Antara suami istri
** Secara pribadi yang bebas, dan
*** Tak dapat ditarik kembali (Mat. 19 : 4 - 6).
Dia merupakan "lembaga" yang abadi, menurut kehendak
Allah (Mat. 19 : 4 - 6) dan manusia.
Dan Dia dianugerahi dengan "kebaikan-kebaikan" yang harus
dijaga dan dianugerahi dengan "tujuan-tujuan" tertentu yang
harus dicapai.
Menurut Undang-Undang Perkawinan R.I. 1974,
Bab I pasal 1,
perkawinan ialah:
Ikatan lahir batin
Antara seorang pria dan seorang wanita (Mat. 19:4-6).
Sebagai suami istri (Kej 2 : 24).
Dengan tujuan membentuk keluarga bahagia
Dan kekal sifatnya (Mat. 19:4-6).
Berdasarkan Ketuhanan Yang Maha Esa (Mat. 19:4-6).
Perkawinan dilakukan dengan persetujuan pribadi yang bebas
1. Tanpa paksaan, artinya :
- tanpa paksaan orang lain
- tanpa paksaan situasi,
- tanpa terdorong nafsu sex,
- tanpa paksaan kemiskinannya, dsb.
2. Bebas, berarti, dilaksanakan secara TAHU dan MAU :
- Tahu, artinya punya Rasio, bisa memakainya, waras
pikirannya, sudah dewasa, mengetahui sifat-sifat
perkawinan yang sejati.
- Mau, artinya tulus, jujur, bebas, tanpa paksaan apapun.
3. Kasus : kalau “pemudi hamil dahulu”.
Selidikilah pertama-tama, apakah ada Cinta, apa secara tahu dan mau. Kalau tidak
ada, tidak boleh dikawinkan. Sebab untuk sahnya perkawinan dituntut Cinta dan
Tahu - Mau (tetapi tentu saja si pria yang menghamilinya itu tetap harus
mempertanggung-jawabkan perbuatannya : ganti rugi, menjamin kehidupan si
pemudi,mensahkan anaknya dan menjamin kehidupan anak itu seumur hidup).
4. Tidak baik, perkawinan melalui perantara atau wakil. Harus langsung orang tuanya.
Kapan suatu perkawinan itu sah ?
1. Menurut Gereja Katolik, perkawinan
itu
baru sah kalau:
- Ada persetujuan bebas
- Tidak ada ikatan lain, misalnya :
sudah
beristri, terikat sumpah sebagai
pastor/suster.
- Tidak ada halangan yang
"membatalkan"
2. Menurut negara (Undang-Undang Perkawinan nomor I tahun 1974
tatadilakukan
cara keagamaan
pasal 2 no (1) : "Perkawinan adalah- Dengan
sah apabila
menurut
.
hukum masing-masing
agamanya dan kepercayaan nya itu".
Perkawinan yang hanya secara catatan sipil saja, tidak sah, itu bukan
perkawinan.
Sex Education
&
family planning
Dr. Petrus Admadja, SpB
R S. PONDOK INDAH
JAKARTA
Natural Family Planning
Natural family planning is a way to help
a couple determine when sexual
intercourse can and cannot result in
pregnancy.
Natural family planning refers to
methods of avoiding (or achieving)
pregnancy that cooperate with a
couple's fertility rather than suppress it
through the use of drugs or
contraceptive devices.
Natural family planning methods
Many couples choose a natural method because of religious
or personal beliefs. Some natural family planning methods
are as follows:
Abstinence
Abstinence, or the avoidance of sexual intercourse, is the only
fully effective way to prevent pregnancy.
Withdrawal, or coitus interruptus. The penis is withdrawn from the
vagina before the male ejaculates. This method has a high failure
rate because sperm may enter the vagina before the penis is
removed.
Douching after sex. This involves flushing the vagina with a liquid.
This method is not very effective. Many sperm continue up to the
ovary and can fertilize the egg.
The rhythm method. This means a woman avoids sex during the
middle of her menstrual cycle. This method has a high failure rate.
It should only be used by women who have regular, predictable
cycles.
Breastfeeding. This method is not entirely reliable in preventing
pregnancy.
What is ovulation?
When a young woman reaches puberty, she begins to ovulate -- a
process in which a mature egg cell (also called an ovum), ready for
fertilization by a sperm cell, is released from one of the ovaries (two
female reproductive organs located in the pelvis)
If the egg does not become fertilized as it travels down the fallopian
tube on its way to the uterus, the endometrium (lining of the uterus) is
shed and passes through the vagina (the passageway through which
fluid passes out of the body during menstrual periods; also called the
birth canal), a process called menstruation.
As the average menstrual cycle lasts 28 days (starting with the first
day of one period and ending with the first day of the next menstrual
period), most women ovulate on day 14. At this time, some women
experience minor discomfort in their lower abdomen, spotting, or
bleeding, while others do not experience any symptoms at all.
What is menstruation?
Menstruation is one part of a woman's menstrual cycle which
includes the shedding of the endometrium (lining of the uterus) that
occurs throughout a woman's reproductive life.
When does menstruation begin?
On average, menarche (a young woman's first menstrual period)
occurs between the ages of 12 and 14 years old - generally two
years after her breast budding (average age 10 to 12 years old), and,
in most cases, not long after the onset of pubic hair (average age 12
years old) and underarm hair.
How long is a menstrual cycle?
For menstruating women, an average menstrual cycle lasts 28 days starting with the first day of the last period (which, on average, lasts
six days, with some women having a very light flow and others
having a very heavy flow) and ending with the first day of the next
menstrual period. However, the length of women's cycles varies,
particularly for the first one to two years after menarche (a young
woman's first menstrual period). Women may have cycles as short
as 23 days, or as long as 35 days
Ovulation Prediction Methods
Basal Body Temperature Method
(BBT)
This method is useful to confirm that a
woman is ovulating each month and by
recording her temperature on a chart over
several months she can begin to predict
when the most fertile days of her cycle are
going to be, which is of course necessary
for couples either trying to obtain, or trying
to avoid, pregnancy.
Fertility Indicator uses your body
temperature and your cycle length to
predict when you will be most fertile
Viscosity of Vaginal Fluids
This method involves checking the mucus
secreted by your vagina every day. Some
women may be aware of this method if
they have previously been interested in
natural family planning.
When it comes to
sex education,
and whether adolescents
become sexually active,
parental guidance is most
influential when it delivered
with warmth, openness, and
ongoing effort
the external and
internal male reproductive
and
urinary anatomy.
On the outside, there are five major things you can see:
the glans or head,
the corona,
the frenum,
the urethral meatus, and
the shaft.
For uncircumcised men,there is a sixth,
The prepuce or foreskin.
Go get yourself a mirror,
make sure you have some
real privacy (or at least a
door that locks) and use
some quality time to get
to know your body and
yourself. We'll just look at
what you can see and
feel, to get you started.
Sit with your panties off,
and your legs spread
open, and get ready to
take a good look.
The proper name for the outer female
genitals is the vulva (vuhl-vah).
Basic Anatomy
The
female organs of the repro
ductive system
are divided into two
categories:
(1) Primary (makes
gonads{sex cels}) sex
organs are the two ovaries
(2) Accessory (aids in the
development of sex cells)
sex organs which are
divided into external and
internal groups.
Am I still a virgin if I had oral
sex, or if someone fingered me?
I haven't had intercourse, so my
hymen is still not broken, right?
Can my partner tell if I'm a
virgin?
If I am a virgin, will I bleed a lot
when I have sex?
This woman has engaged in vaginal intercourse
There is no obvious hymeneal tissue visible
The presence or absence of a hymen in no way indicates a girl's virginal state.
No one can determine by physical examination alone whether a woman or teen has
engaged in vaginal intercourse. Only about 50% of teens and women experience
bleeding the first time they have intercourse, so blood stained bed sheets are not a
reliable indicator of prior virginity. The hymen of some women tear on more than one
occasion. There are even hymen that are elastic enough to permit a penis to enter
without tearing, or tear only partially. This is usually true only if the dilation first
occurs very gradually with fingers or other objects over an extended period of time.
Virginity is a spiritual attribute, not a physical one.
The hymen does not magically disappear when something is inserted into thevagina,
it will only stretch or tear sufficiently to permit entry of whatever is being inserted.
If for example, a teen inserts two fingers into her vagina while masturbating, her
hymen may still tear when she has vaginal intercourse for the first time, since the
average penis is larger than her two fingers. A woman who has had vaginal
intercourse may still have hymeneal tissue present; this remaining tissue can be the
cause of pain during intercourse. If a woman's current partner has a larger penis than
her prior partners, or a couple tries a new technique or position during intercourse,
her hymen may tear again, or for the first time. When doctors examine preadolescent
and adolescent girls for evidence of sexual abuse, they look for injuries to the hymen;
the hymen may still be intact except for a single tear.
Remnants of the hymen are usually present until a woman delivers a baby vaginally..
THE MENSTRUAL CYCLE
The menstrual cycle
involves the
development and release
of ovum (matured egg
cell) for fertilization and
the preparation of the
uterus to receive the
fertilized ovum. The
mentrual cycle is
separated into two
phases: The follicular
phase and the luteal
phase.
Female Ejaculation
For the last 100 years people thought only men ejaculated.
Actually 10% of women in the U.S. do ejaculate upon reaching
an orgasm! The G-spot has been identified as the "trigger" for
ejaculatory fluid.
On average women have more sexual spasms than men during orgasm. A
man's ejaculation lasts approximately 10 seconds and most of the semen is
expelled after 5 or 6 thrusts of the pelvis. Each contraction takes slightly
less than one second. On average, female orgasms last 10 to 15 seconds but
are capable of lasting up to one minute. Healthy women will have about 8
to 12 vaginal contractions for an intense orgasm. There can be 3 to 5
contractions for a mild orgasm or for a woman of older age.
Need to check out what
your sexually
transmitted disease or
infection risk might be
in a jiffy?
Based on any ONE instance of the following, you
may have been at risk for transmitting (giving to
someone else) or contracting (getting it yourself) the
following diseases or infections:
Unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse, or
vaginal intercourse with a condom that has
also been used for anal intercourse:
Bacterial Vaginosis
Chlamydia
Cytomegalovirus (CMV)
Gonorrhea
Hepatitis B
Herpes Simplex
Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV)
Human Papilloma Virus (HPV, Warts)
Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID)
Pubic Lice
Scabies
Syphilis
Trichomoniasis
Unprotected oral sex:
("blow job," "giving head," "going down,“
"rimming,")
Cytomegalovirus (CMV)
Gonorrhea
Hepatitis B
Herpes Simplex
Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV)
Human Papilloma Virus (HPV, Warts)
Syphilis
Unprotected manual sex:
("hand job," or "fingering")
Bacterial Vaginosis
Cytomegalovirus (CMV)
Herpes Simplex
Human Papilloma Virus (HPV, Warts)
Pubic Lice
Scabies
"Thank you, safe sex."
"Here are some of the results of 25 years of addressing
this problem with the "safe sex" ideology:
Ten percent of all 15 to 19 year-old females become
pregnant each year.
More than 80 percent of pregnant girls under age 17 who
give birth and keep their babies end up on welfare,
costing society a staggering $21 billion a year.
Three million new cases of STDs among teens are
reported each year.
Up to 29 percent of sexually active adolescent girls have
been found to be infected with chlamydia.
A study of sexually active college women showed that 43
percent acquired HIV infection within a 3-year period
birth control
(contraception, family planning)
Definition
Birth control refers to a
conscious decision that
sexually active couples make
to prevent unwanted
pregnancy. The decision may
result from personal
situations or medical
conditions.
Traditional barrier methods
Barrier methods use physical or chemical blocks to keep sperm
from fertilizing the woman's egg. These methods include the
following:
Condoms, or synthetic sheaths.
Male condoms cover the penis and keep
semen from going into the vagina.
Female condoms(4) cover the external
genitals and the walls of the vagina.
Spermicides. These are chemicals that
kill the sperm in the vagina. They come
in the form of jellies, foams, creams,
films, or suppositories.
A diaphragm. This is a flexible rubber
cap that is placed inside the vagina.
A cervical cap. This is smaller than a
diaphragm and covers the cervix.
Hormones
Combinations of female hormones can be used to prevent
pregnancy. These combinations include:
oral contraceptives, or birth control pills, which prevent ovulation
progestin-only birth control pills, or minipills, which do not have
estrogen
progestin implants, which are small plastic rods that are placed
beneath the skin to supply small daily doses of hormones
injections of synthetic progestins, which are hormones given every
3 months
monthly injections of progestin and estrogen in combination
Intrauterine devices
Intrauterine devices, or IUDs, are placed in the uterus. They
keep the fertilized egg from being implanted. IUDs have been
linked with an increased risk of sexually transmitted disease.
They can also increase the risk for pregnancy outside the
uterus, or ectopic pregnancy.
Sterilization
Surgery can be performed on a man or woman to prevent pregnancy. A
vasectomy in a male involves cutting and tying off the tubes that carry sperm.
A tubal ligation in a woman involves cutting and tying off the fallopian tubes.
Surgical removal of the uterus, or hysterectomy, also causes sterilization.
Emergency contraception
Emergency contraception means birth control that is given after unprotected
intercourse has taken place. Hormones can be given over a 24-hour period,
within 72 hours of the unprotected sex. Another method uses an
intrauterine device, or IUD. This is placed into the woman's uterus within 5
days after unprotected sex.
Keep God FIRST!
Pray Together!
Respect and honor each other!
Encourage each other to grow together!
Read the Bible together as much as possible!
Be swift to hear & slow to speak!
Make time to communicate with each other!
Protect and honor your marriage vows!
Do not let others come between your marriage!
Have a "Mission Statement" for your Marriage&Family!
Thank God everyday for your Mate & the Life you have
together!
Understand that "love" is a choice, not a feeling!(You
must choose everyday to Love your mate)
“THE END”
"May I have the patience
and humility to believe
things can get better,
The willingness and
courage to avoid blaming
and to look at my
contribution to each
situation,
And the energy and
flexibility to keep trying
new ways to create more
love and less stress in our
lives.“
“MAY OUR LORD
BLESS YOUR
MARRIAGE”