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first aspect is the desire of power, achievement, sufficiency, preeminence, ability, and freedom. The second aspect is that what people have, is called desire of
having a good name or prestige, status, fame and glory, domination, recognition, dignity, and appreciation. The fulfillment of esteem needs bring the feeling of
believe in one. The obstacles of fulfillment these needs are inferiority and weakness pp. 50-51.
5 Self-actualization needs
Self-actualization needs are the fifth level of hierarchy of needs. Though all needs are fulfilled, people often feel growth a sense of dissatisfied and new
nervousness immediately. The example of self-actualization needs are realizing personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth, and peak experiences
p. 52. Those five levels of hierarchy of needs help to dig out Mameha’s
motivation in building her interpersonal relationship with Sayuri in
Memoirs of a Geisha.
5. Definition of an Interpersonal Relationship
Everybody has her own relationship with others. Beebe et al 1996 define an interpersonal relationship as
‘’an ongoing connection we make with another person that we carry in our minds and metaphorically, in our hearts, whether the
other person is present or not’’ p. 206. It means that the connection between participants creates an interpersonal relationship that goes into thoughts and
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a. Categories of an Interpersonal Relationship
There are two categories of interpersonal relationships. They are relationship of circumstance and relationship of choice. Beebe et al 1996, p. 206
state t hat ‘’a relationship of circumstance form not because we choose them, but
simply because our lives over leap with others’ in some way’’. This relationship
happens within family members, teachers and classmate and this exists because of the situation. On the other hand,
‘’a relationship of choice is when we seek out intentionally develop a relationship with someone’’ p. 206. It means that
somebody decides her own relationship whether she wants to initiate, maintain or terminate the relationship. It happens when somebody seeks a husband, wife, best
friend and lover.
b. Dimensions of an Interpersonal Relationship
There are three dimensions of interpersonal relationships. They are trust, intimacy and power. Beebe et al 1996, pp. 208-209 say that an interpersonal
trust is a kind of safe feeling in sharing personal information to others. It means that somebody lets other people to know who she is. While, intimacy means
somebody who can be herself in front of others then people still accept her. It shows that somebody can be who she is, then people around him still accept her
true identity. Meanwhile, an interpersonal power means the ability to control and influence others. By having power, somebody can ask others to do what she
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