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4.2.2 Allie’s External Conflict with Her Parents
A relationship between parents and children is very needed to make a good relationship. How the parents act also causing how the children shaped. It can make
the children become good in personality or not. Allie’s external conflict with her parents can be seen when they do not have a close relationship at home. Allie
becomes a quite and closed girl. It can be seen from the quotation below: Sparks 1996:58 states that I know that. I always did. Maybe that’s why my mother
and I always seem to have a distance between us when we talk. From the quotation above the words “seem to have a distance” shows that her
relationship with her mother isnot close as a mother and a daughter. There is something that covered. The geographies of childhood involves how adult society
perceives the very idea of childhood and the many ways the attitudes and behaviors of adults affects childrens lives. This includes ideas about the surrounding
environment of children and its related implications. This requires the role of parent in shaping the character of children.
Childhood is the age span ranging from birth to adolescence. In developmental psychology, childhood is divided up into the developmental stages of
toddlerhood learning to walk, early childhood play age, middle childhood school age, and adolescence puberty through post-puberty. Various childhood factors
could affect a persons attitude formation. Some believe that children should not have any worries and should not have to work; life should be happy and trouble-free.
Childhood is usually a mixture of happiness, wonder, angst and resilience. It is generally a time of playing, learning, socializing, exploring, and worrying in a world
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responsibilities without having to deal with adult responsibilities. The English philosopher John Locke was particularly influential in defining
this new attitude towards children, especially with regard to his theory of the tabula rasa, which considered the mind at birth to be a blank slate. A corollary of this
doctrine was that the mind of the child was born blank, and that it was the duty of the parents to imbue the child with correct notions. John 1986:286 That is why Allie’s
parents act is very needed to teach the good kinds and make a quality time, share each other to make a close relationship. A good communication in family will shape
a good attitude for children to let them do with their choices under parent’s controlling, espesially for Allie. Those kind that she needs very much with her
parents, to let her do whatever she wants as her heart saying. Parenting in teaching the children is the most important lesson for their
personality, especially in their hobby. Because basicly, children were born with their own talents. They may have one or more talent. Here role of parents is very needed
to make that talent become great. Parents should support that talent, teach them and let them do it in positive ways. Allie’s external conflict with her parents can be seen
when she loves painting, but her parents do not agree or support her talent. It can be seen from the quotation below:
“I’ve been drawing and painting since I was a child. I guess that once I got a little older, I began to think I was good at it.
I enjoyed it too.
................................................................................................ My parents didn’t think it was proper for someone like me to
paint for a living. I just stopped after a while. I haven’t touched a brush in years.” She stared at the painting.” Sparks
1996:64-65
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pressure from other parties that bothered her mind. It is because of her parents do not support her hobby. She knows she is very talented in painting and has a lot of talents.
By painting she can make something beautiful as she feels inside. But her parents never support her and it makes her just miss to do painting again and do many things
in art. She has to stop it all to make her parents happy with their wills and make them proud on her. Although deep down in her heart, she doesnot like.
Children develop skills at different rates as a result of differences in these culturally driven parenting practices. Parenting or child rearing is the process of
promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the aspects of
raising a child aside from the biological relationship. The most common partaker in parenting is the biological parents of the child in question. Parenting skills vary,
and a parent with good parenting skills may be referred to as a good parent. Views on the characteristics that make one a good parent vary from culture to culture.
In psychology, the parental investment theory suggests that basic differences between males and females in parental investment have great adaptive significance
and lead to gender differences in mating propensities and preferences. A familys social class plays a large role in the opportunities and resources that will be made
available for a child. Working-class children often grow up at a disadvantage with the schooling, communities, and parental attention made available to them compared
to middle-class or upper-class. Also, lower working-class families do not get the kind of networking that the middle and upper classes do through helpful family members,
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experts. Children that grow up in communities with a collaborative orientation to social interaction, are also able to self-regulate and become very self-confident, while
remaining involved in the community. Parenting styles are only a small piece of what it takes to be a good parent.
Parenting takes a lot of skill and patience and is constant work and growth. Research [citation needed] shows that children benefit most when their parents:
communicate honestly about events or discussions that have happened, also that parents explain clearly to children what happened and how they were
involved if they were
stay consistent, children need structure, parents that have normal routines benefits children incredibly;
utilize resources available to them, reaching out into the community;
taking more interest in their childs educational needs and early development; and
keeping open communication and staying educated on what their child is learning and doing and how it is affecting them
American parents strongly value intellectual ability, especially in a narrow book learning sense. Differences in values cause parents to interpret different actions in
different ways. Asking questions is seen by many European American parents as a sign that the child is smart.
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CHAPTER V CONCLUSION AND SUGGESTION
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