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CHAPTER IV ANALYSIS AND FINDING
4.1 Allie’s Internal Conflict
Life is full with choices that cannot be fulfilled totally with satisfaction result. When one fails to satisfy the available choices, the result will be a kind of conflict. It
happens so because one must be in the condition of stress knowing his or her choice doesnot come true. In Nicholas Sparks’ The Notebook the story goes on class
difference that results gap humanly. It emphasizes the discriminated wills that make one is different from the others.
Allie’s internal conflict can be seen when Allie wants to have a relationship with a man, Noah, who comes from a poor family. Her parents donot agree with their
daughter choice. It can be seen from the quotation below: “She had to make excuses to her parents whenever they
wanted to see each other. It wasn’t that they didn’t like him— it was that he was from a different class, too poor, and they
would never approve if their daughter became serious with someone like him.” Sparks 1996:25
From the quotation above the words “she had to make excuses to her parents” shows that her parents do not agree with her decisions for her life to be with Noah because
different status. She is very upset to her parents because too set her life. She has to be brave to decide what she wants. From that condition shows that her parents really
want their daughter can be happy in her future with a rich man who can give her everything she wants. But they never think about her choice for her life. She never
think that wealth or money can make her happy and never see it from other person. It
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whatever she wants to do. She knows that what her heart says is right. But her parents do not understand about her willings. They just know what they do is the best
for her without asking first. In psychology there is selfobject that can explain in this case. Self-object is
external objects that function as part of the self machinery - i.e., objects which are not experienced as separate and independent from the self. They are persons, objects
or activities that complete the self, and which are necessary for normal functioning. Kohut 1971:46. Observing the patients self-object connections is a fundamental
part of self-psychology. For instance, a persons particular habits, choice of education and work, taste in life partners, may fill a self-object-function for that particular
individual. When a relationship is established with a new self-object, the
relationship connection can lock in place quite powerfully, and the pull of the connection may affect both self and self-object. In the other words, Allie has self-
object that cannot be seperated, is person Noah that complete the self to choose and taste in life partners.
Kohut 1971:220 said,”when the selfobject-function i.e. what the selfobject does for the self is taken for granted and seems to take place in a blindzone, the
function thus usually does not become visible until the relation with the selfobject is somehow broken.” It means that if the person that she chooses Noah as the
selfobject does not make her to a good decision especially for herself or wrong decision, then the selfobject-function is not becomes visible and somehow broken.
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to clear the choices. Allie’s internal conflict can be seen when Allie has to make a decision for herself. It can be seen from the quotation below:
“Wondering if she’d made the right decision. She’d struggled with it for days—and had struggled some more this
evening—but in the end, she knew she would never forgive herself if she let the opportunity slip away.” Sparks 1996:16
From the quotation above the words “She’d struggled with it for days” shows that she becomes frustration with herself because her choice is not fulfilled to be with
Noah. Every decision-making process produces a final choice that may or may not prompt action. She hopes that her decision made not to regret later on. She has to
accept this condition, having parents like that and all the condition they had in family. Because from the religion side, we are taught to respect parents. That is Allie
recieves in her mind. She has to respect her parents and make decision for her parents kindness, although not for herself. Personal decisions concerned with the
logic of decision-making and rationality leads the invariant choice available. Feeling of frustration is a common emotional response to opposition. Related
to anger and disappointment, it arises from the perceived resistance to the fulfillment of individual will. The greater the obstruction, and the greater the will, the more the
frustration is likely to be. Causes of frustration may be internal or external. In people, internal frustration may arise from challenges in fulfilling personal goals and desires.
Conflict can also be an internal source of frustration; when one has competing goals that interfere with one another. External causes of frustration involve conditions
outside an individual.
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a potential problem for the self, referred to as a frustration as with the traumatic frustration of the phase appropriate wish or need for parental acceptance...intense
narcissistic frustration’. The contrast is what called optimal frustration as holds true for the analogous later milieu of the child, the most important aspect of the
earliest mother-infant relationship is the principle of optimal frustration. However, the scope of optimal or other frustration describes shaping every nook and cranny
of the self, rather than a few dramatic conflicts. Kohut 1971:197 It indicates that something is not fulfilled or realized could lead to frustration or trauma to the self
that shows to Allie’s condition which cannot be fulfilled and it can lead to frustration on herself. Kohut 1971:37 said,”the therapeutic activation of the idealized parent
image referred to as the idealizing transference, is the revival during psychoanalysis of the very early need to establish a mutual selfobject connection with an object of
idealization.” It means that to make a good connection between selfobjects and self, the parent image is the most important to have a good connection for idealization that
not to cause frustrasion.
4.2 Allie’s External Conflict 4.2.1
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