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2.2 The triangular Theory of Love
Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love, 119
The triangular theory of love is the nature of love and with loves in different kinds of relationships.
The triangular theory of love subsumes other theories and can account for a number of empirical findings in the research
literature, as well as for a number of experiences with which many are familiar firsthand. It is proposed that the triangular theory provides a comprehensive basis
for understanding many aspects of the love that underlies close relationships psycnet.apa.org.
The triangular theory of love explains the topic of love in an interpersonal relationship. Psycho
logist Robert Sternberg’s describes types of love based on three different scales: intimacy, passion, and commitment. It is important to
recognize that a relationship based on a single element is less likely to survive
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than one based on two or more www.hofstra.edu. Stenberg further explains about the three different scales as follow:
2.2.1 Intimacy
The first scale in Stenberg’s triangular theory of love is
intimacy.Intimacyrefers to those feelings that foster closeness, bondedness and connectedness to a partner
. It can be considered the ‘warm’ componentof love for it encompasses the feeling of comfort and tenderness
in a relationship 22.
2.2.2 Passion
The second scale is passion.Passion consists of motivational and other sources of arousal, including not only sexual arousal, but also need
for self-esteem, affiliation, dominancesubmission and self-actualization. It may be considered t
he ‘hot’ component, in that it usually includes the most intense feelings 22.
2.2.3 Commitment
The last scale is commitment. Commitment involves deliberate choice, first in the decision to loves someone and then in the decision to
maintain that love. Because this is the most premeditated aspect of love, it may be considered the ‘cold’ component 22.
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CHAPTER 3 DISCUSSION
This chapter p resents the finding of Isabelle’s interpersonal relationship in
novel entitled The Kiss by Danielle Steel. The data will be analyzed from the research problems based on the triangular theoryof love. Then, the result of the
data analysis will discuss further in the section of discussion.
The analysis on Isabelle’s interpersonal relationship focuses on her
relation with Bill Robinson. Bill is not her husband. He is a broker Isabelle met at
a party, in the middle of her unhappy marriage with Gordon. 1.1
Intimacy
The intimacy between Isabelle and Bill has bondedness. It starts when they have met four years before at reception by the American ambassador to France.
Bill was in politics, and was known to be one of the most powerful men in Washington. Their friendship had begun since then, via telephone and letters. He
called from time to time.
““Why should he?” she asked, sounding surprised. She didn’t want to discourage his calls. She enjoyed talking to him so much, and there were
so many interests they shared. In an odd way, he had become her only real contact with the outside world. Her own friends had stopped calling years
before.”
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This quote tells about Bill who called Isabelle every few weeks. It makes Isabelle feels very happy. She enjoys talking to Bill, because she has lost contact
with her old friend for long time. Unexpectedly, Bill gives a surprise to Isabelle. This is including
connectedness when he invites her for some days to come to London. Because he cares about Isabelle, he wants to make Isabelle to be happy. This conversation
happens after the plane landed. “How was the trip?”
“Very easy,” Isabelle smiled when she heard him. They had synchronized their arrivals, and she had checked in twenty minutes before. “How was
yours?” “Fine.” He looked like a boy, as he smiled. He had that all-American
boyish quality that had always attracted women to him. “It felt like it was taking forever, I couldnt wait to get here,” he said, as they both laughed a
little nervously. It had been nearly six months since theyd last seen each other in Paris. He had planned to come back sooner, but unexpected
political complications had kept him away longer this time, and he was anxious to see her. “Are you tired? Do you want some time to relax?”
“After an hours trip?” She laughed. “I think Im all right. How are you?” “Hungry. Do you want to go out and get something to eat?” It was three in
the afternoon.
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It explain that when they arrive, they asks how the trip. It means that Isabelle and Bill care about each other. In Bill conversation, he has a
connectedness to Isabelle. He also gives his feeling, attention, anda little joke.Heasks to Isabelle for takes her out for eating.
