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as those mental elements in awareness at any given point in time. Freud suggests that much of our behavior is motivated by unconscious influences. Unconsciousness
relates to phenomena that we are unaware of and cannot become aware except under special circumstances. It is all because unconscious contains all those drives, urges,
or instincts that are beyond our awareness but that nevertheless motivate most of our words, feelings, and actions. For example, a man may not fully understand all the
reasons for the attraction, some of which may even seem irrational. This study later on, will apply the theory of motivation along with the majors
of personality and also the mental life by the hope that it can help to analyze the motive s that drive the personality, relationship, and problems occurred in Alicia and
John Nash’s marriage.
4. Theory of Love and Marriage
This theory consists of three sections functioning as the basis to understand more the relation between Alicia and John Nash. The sections are The Concept of Love,
Theory of Marriage, and The Association of Motivation between Love and Marriage. These three theories expectantly are beneficial to elicit the analysis of the love trigger
and significance happened in Alicia and John Nash marriage.
a. Concept of Love
Love is always interesting for many people to talk about. Though the word love itself has an abstract meaning in which there is no direct reference for it, but
people can still feel its presence and its effects on their life. Love can happen in PLAGIAT MERUPAKAN TINDAKAN TIDAK TERPUJI
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many ways and it can emerge uniquely in each individual. For some people, love may come to them accidentally from the first encounter with others because of
particular reasons, like having an instant interest in one’s physical appearance or performance. Whereas for some others, love may come during the process of their
interaction with the other in order to fulfill their needs and desires in everyday life. It usually happens that after knowing each other better, people fall in love each other.
As stated by Hauck 1983: 22 that love was a feeling that we have for people who did
in the past, are in the present, or will in the future satisfy our deepest desires and needs.
Hauck 1983: 16-17 also presents various kinds of love such as intimate love and puppy love. Intimate love has to do with one’s partner, parents, children,
relatives, or close friends. These are the people who affect us in our daily lives and for whom we are willing to make enormous sacrifices. Puppy love is a powerful
emotion which rises out of the expectations and experiences of one person with another. The use of the word puppy implies that this love is not a very serious one; it
is cute, but it is not long- lasting, not deep, and is based only on the flimsiest consideration. And whatever else a person may say about it, the common thinking
has it that puppy love is certainly no t ‘true’ love. Puppy love can be exquisitely deep, sincere, and just painful when it breaks up as any adult romance.
From the great effects of love, love can have a big power in people’s life. When someone is falling in love, realizing it or not, heshe will experience some
changes in his or her life. The lover may have more inspirations in creating some innovations for the improvement of his or her self-potential or skills, more
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motivation in doing the activities, paying more attention to the appearance, and more careful in the attitudes or behavior. Because of love, life can extremely change into
joyful or tragic as someone’s personality develops or relationship between individuals becomes deeper or worse. Furthermore, love in some cases can also be
the only one which people can do or have to overcome their problems. According to Pines 1999: 25, there are four kinds of love in western
tradition. One is sex, or what we call lust, libido. It is kind a playful love. The second is romantic love called eros, the drive of love to procreate or create-the urge, as the
Greeks put it, toward higher forms of being and relation-ship. A third is philia, or friendship, brotherly love. The fourth is agape or caritas as the Latins called it, the
love which is devoted to the welfare of the other, the prototype of which is the love of God for man. Every human experience of authentic love is a blending, in varying
proportions, of these. Hence, love can take different forms not only because of the different components that define it but also because of the different objects to which
it is directed. According to Fromm 1956: 39, there are some types of love depend on the kind of object which is loved; those are love between parent and child,
brotherly love, motherly love, erotic love, self- love and love of God.
b. Theory of Marriage
