the 21
st
Century. Interpersonal conflict exists when people have different views, goals, and perspectives.
People do not have to be enemies to be in conflict and being in conflict does not make people enemies. Interpersonal conflicts exist whenever two or more
people disagree. Interpersonal conflict is present anytime people have disparate views, opposing perspectives, incompatible goals and a desire to try
to address and resolve their differences 2011: 262.
They also state the possibility to get valuable results through interpersonal conflict. It means that when someone accepts the conflict and manages the conflict with openly
and constructively, the conflict may bring some positive outcomes and one of them is lead to new perception and understanding.
When dealt with openly and constructively, interpersonal conflict may lead to a variety of valuable outcomes such as may bring problems out into the open
where they can be solved, put an end to chronic sources of discontent in relationship and lead to new insights through the airing
2011: 263. b. Intrapersonal conflict
Weiten, Dunn and Hammer state that it “occurs when two or more incompatible motivations or behavioral impulses compete for expression”. This
conflict can develop out of someone’s thoughts, ideas, emotions, values and predispositions 2011: 76.
4. Theories of Maturity
Justin Pikunas in Human Development, An Emergent Science states that “a mature person is one who has acquired a personal identity and has made progress in
integrating his or her total personality into a smoothly functioning system” 1976:
295. It means that maturity is the ability to respond in mature ways under various circumstances and finally accept wholeheartedly his or her own life as it is. A person
can achieve maturity through the adolescent experiences that make them learns from the experiences. Furthermore, Pikunas indicates the idea of maturity in the stage
adolescent. Adolescent is a time for further inquiry, and questions such as “Who am I?”
“What do I want to be?” and “What is the real purpose of my life?” frequently emerge in the mind of the person moving toward adult maturity. Adolescent
maturation is a highly personal task, and the adolescent must deal with himself or herself to find a place in peer and and later adult society and to
achieve a self-gratifying identity 1976 : 189.
From the above quotation it can be seen that the most important task for adolescence is to reach maturity. According to R. Guys Lefrancois in Psychological and Human
Learning, reaching maturity is “related to development which includes growth and learning as a relatively permanent change in the behavior of individual resulting from
experiences” 1982: 107. Experiences that occur in adolescence stage can be in the form of conflict since “adolescence stage tends to produce a period of conflicts”
Atkinson and Hilgard, 1981: 93. Sometimes they need to encounter conflict which later lead them to reach maturity as it is stated by William A. Donohue in Managing
Interpersonal Conflict that “for most people, conflicts pose very grave threats and few of us want conflict or view it as an opportunity for growth” 1992: 19. Pikunas
also adds that “the adolescent task of forming his identity within the family framework, yet separate from it, implies disagreements and conflicts” 1976: 288. It
