14 Finally, some theorists have emphasized the idea that the basic motive of
all human is to become a personally fulfilled as one can. These actualization approaches stress the positive nature of behavior and argue for understanding
motivation from the point of view that one strive to control or affect an environment.
2.1.2.3 Theory of Love
Love has great influence in everyone‘s life. Love makes someone feel happy, peace, or even sad. Throughout the history of human’s existence, man’s
strive for love has caused actions, some were beyond imagination. Man will do anything to show his or her love to their beloved person. According to Fromm
1956: 18, love is an activity, not a passive affect; it is a “standing in”, not a “falling for.” In the most general way, the active character of love can be
described by stating that love is primarily giving, not receiving. The most
widespread misunderstanding is human assumes that giving is “giving up” something, being deprived of sacrificing.
For the woman, in the act of receiving, she gives. If the woman is incapable of giving or if she can only receive, it means that she is frigid. With her
acts of giving occurs again, not in her function as a lover, but in that as a mother, she will feel whole. She gives herself to the growing child within her, her milk to
the infant, and her bodily warmth. Not to give would be painful for her. Fromm says that love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it
is an attitude, an orientation of character which determines the relatedness of a PLAGIAT MERUPAKAN TINDAKAN TIDAK TERPUJI
15 person to the world as a whole, not toward one “object” of love 38. Saying that
love is an orientation which refers to all and not to one does not imply, however, the idea that there are no differences between various types of love, which
depends on the kind of object which is loved. This study uses one type of love, motherly love. According to Fromm,
motherly love is unconditional mother’s love to her child’s life and the child’s needs 41. A mother’s love towards her child’s life has two aspects; one is the
care and responsibility absolutely necessary for the preservation of the child’s life and her growth. Another aspect is attitude which conducts in the child, such as a
love for living, which gives her the feeling: it is good to be alive, it is good to be a little boy or girl, and it is good to be on this earth. The relationship of mother and
child is by its very nature one of inequality, where one needs all the helps and the other give it. Moreover, motherly love is feeling of love which wants nothing for
oneself.
2.1.2.4 Theory of Katresnanism
