3.1 Discussing Stage
In this stage, there are a meeting and a discussion between man’s family and woman’s family. This stage includes the first discussion until asking for a marriage
and fixing the wedding day.
3.1.1 Seulangkee
In this stage, the man’s family delegate someone to asking for a marriage to the woman’s family and seeking for informations about the situation and condition of
them. The main duty of the delegation is asking whether the woman is still single or there is another man who has binded her.
3.1.2 Meulakee
In this stage, the parents of the man bridegroom to be should send an envoy or envoys to the parents of the woman bride to be, proposing that their son is willing
to marry their daughter. Nowadays, for practical reason, the parents of both sides could talk directly. The parents of the couple should approve the marriage planning.
They should fix the convenient and good days of wedding. The parents of the man should send again an envoys seulangkee to talk about the stage of wedding. This
stage consist of: a. Talking about the dowry
b. Talking about the ways of implementation c. Talking about a good implementation
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In this stage of engagement, if man’s family ended the relationship, so the gifts tanda kong haba will be lose. On the contrary, if the woman’s family ended their
relationship, so the woman’s family should be return double gifts.
3.1.3 Tanda Kong Haba
Tanda kong haba means giving a set of equipments to accelerate the procession of wedding until it is finished. It brings by the head of region keuchik,
the master of religious Teungku meunasah, and some people from the man’s region and also seulangkee delegation. The family of bridegroom should give some
symbolic things which have the certain meanings, they are: • Gold ring, it is rounded with no brake. It means that love is everlasting along
their life as a couple. • A set of woman’s outfit, includes cloth, shoes, underwears,etc. It means that
the woman should be able to keep her secrets of another person. • Fruits, wishing a good health.
• Ranub betel vine, it’s a traditional custom from Aceh • Red and green eggs that was boiled and put on a large basket.
Actually, in Tanda kong haba, the bride’s family should respond it, that is: • Two or three trays of halwa meuseukat dishes from Aceh and one tray of
betel vine.
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3.2 Pre-ready Stage
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