The Description of Deedi The Description of Ali Buksh
wife with respect http:www.ehow.co.ukinfo_8553423_eldest-sons-
responsibility-islam.html. The quotation above related to the Sahid’s position in the play, Sahid’s command
have to be obeyed by the family members and he has the important role to make any decision in the family as well. Thus, everyone in the family have to give
respect and shows submissive attitude towards him. Nazo the eldest daughter on the play respect and support him in any other situation, she also warns her
younger sisters to respects him as well. It is stated on the play, NAZO. To BINIDA and ROONA Would you both just stop it. Show
some respect for your eldest brother. He is in your fat her’s place now
Sharif, 1992:275. Nazo’s is such an obedient sister, she obeys the patriarchal rule that her family
teach her. She warns her sisters to keep respect and polite towards Sahid even though they are on the tension situation.
Another patriarchal practice of unequal position among women and men is also reflected through the character Ali Buksh, the family servant. He gives
comment towards Bindia’s smoking habit, as stated on the play, ALI BUKSH.
It’s not good Begum Bindia - not good, in Pakistan - it is not good for a woman to smoke you are Muslim woman - not good
– Muslim country woman smoking is not good. You lose your health and
wealth Summarizes these lines in Urdu Sharif, 1992:266.
In other words, he tries to say that Pakistani women that have smoking habit will get negative image from the society. His words about Bindia clearly show that her
habit considered as a taboo and smoking is a men-only activity. The writer found that Ali Buksh has the mindset of common Pakistani; he still thinks that smoking
is an activity of men while women are not allowed to smoke. His paradigm is
related to other Pakistani thought, as stated on Erum Salikh’s article, entitled “Is smoking banned for women in Pakistan?”,
Smoking in a patriarchal society is a men-only activity. Quaid-e-Azam, the founder of this nation, smoked but the women of this country were
prohibited from doing so. Why? Social taboos being converted into religious prohibitions reflects the
confusion faced by the average Pakistani. Citing the damage smoking causes to human health seems a more plausible stance to take when
labelling smoking a taboo, than stooping to the men-can-do-what-they-like attitude. Unfortunately, in accordance with the general consensus in
Pakistan, smoking seems only to be injurious to the health of women. To get an overview of the mindset of the average Pakistani, all one has to
do is Google articles on women
— spoilt-liberal-fascist-socialites of loose character as they are commonly referred to
— smoking in Pakistan and look at the thread of comments that follow. Deeming a woman unfit for
marriage or a workplace due to her ‘extracurricular activities’ — despite her male counterparts indulging in the same activity
— is not only unfair but lacks reasonable judgment
http:blogs.tribune.com.pkstory14815is-smoking-banned-for-women- in-pakistan.
The quotation above shows that smoking in patriarchal society is only allowed for men. It is not only taboo for health reason but also the impact of negative
assumption towards women. Salikh also states that in some little matters women do not have an equal rights compare to men, thus, it is not a surprised that women
still treated unfair in some important circumstances; such as workplace, marriage, and so on. It is not a reasonable reason, because women and men are human and
they have the same rights to do what they deserve. The definition of unequal position in this play reflects through the
characters Sahid and Ali Buksh, both of them show that men have the privilege while women are in the second priority. The character of Nazo in this play also
shows that she obeys the patriarchal culture; she respects the men position in his life. Nazo’s perspective is different compare to Bindia and Roona, they have the
awareness of being suppressed and they want to get in the equal position also they seems not to agree the patriarchal rules and practices in their life.
Unequal position also seen through Deedi’s experience. She has to be
struggle in tough condition between her and her husband. Deedi, the youngest sister who chooses her own husband by herself still has to sustain the risks
1992:271. Even if she chooses her own husband, it does not mean she can avoid the patriarchal culture in her life. In some circumstances, an arranged marriage
does not happen in the Muslim family because parents are more concerned to the happiness of their children as the ultimate goal. Becher also wrote,
The idea came up several times in terms of letting children choose their own marriage partners, or only sanctioning a marriage if their child was
willing. Ensuring children were themselves happily settled appeared to be an important goal to many parents Becher, 2008:50-51.
Parents let their children to find their own happiness, they give the freedom to choose their partner by themself, and they hope their children will get what they
deserve. Even though Deedi chooses her husband by herself, still she cannot avoid the
patriarchal culture in her family. As Roona said in the play, ROONA. . . . if they choose the wrong men, like Deedi did, then we, the
parents, will never forgive them.
Roona statement above shows that she admit Deedi chooses the wrong man, it means Deedi’s husband is not a good husband for her. Her husband control
Deedi’s life under the patriarchal role. Deedi’s husband is a jobless person, one thing that he can do is sell Deedi’s gold to feed the children 1992:369. However,
Deedi has to be an obedient wife although her husband does not have