11 According to Dweck 2008, experience is including the effect of domestic
violence, abuse, or maternal depression. b.
External Aspect External aspect is the other factor that influence people‟s life especially in
children. The external aspect is the social intervention. Social intervention related with the environment outside the children itself and
the family. Social environment is the first step for everyone to deal with the circumstances, they will learn and adapt the new thing in their life and try to
analyze it. This part take an imp ortant part and play a big rule in one‟s
development.
f. Theory of Motivation
Herbert 1981 states that motivation is the concept to describe the acting and the direct behavior. The concept of this theory is to indicate the factor
problems and the direction of the behavior itself as the effect of the problems. Interaction in the environment with other also can generate and direct the
behavior. Floyd 1950 also states that motivation is the performance of human that influenced by the results of their activities. It is impossible to study
personality without major constructs in motivation such as energy, social interaction, cognitive processes, and growth motivation.
Besides, Aiken 1969 states that motivation is the influence from an internal state of the organism that directs the behavior to one condition or object
that is called goals. Since the motivation always has relationship with behavior, it
12 is true that a motive or motivation explains the behavior that needed. Aiken
1969 gives an example of an animal. An animal is hungry because it is observed eating food, and an animal eating food because it is hungry. It is obviously clear
that motivation is about energize the behavior and how the way to reach the goals.
g. Theory of Love
According to May 1969, love is the cross-fertilization of mortality and immortality. Lee 1973 provides six categories to classify the types or the styles
of the love. a.
Eros Eros is love that related with sensual, beauty, romantic and pleasure.
There are no good or bad for this style. This style always pays attention to the sex, beauty, smell, touch and etc.
b. Ludos
Ludos is related with a game or playful love. This style describes a love as a game. They tend to play more rather than being involved in
the feeling. Ludos describes love is for fun, nothing at all. c.
Storge Storge is the most peaceful love also known as companionate love.
Storge starts from friendship that goes deeper into feeling of love. If the love ends, they become friends again.
13 d.
Mania Mania describes love as a mixture of conflict and romantic from Eros.
Mania lovers rarely achieve happiness in love. Extreme jealousy is reasonable as a proof of love. Mania refers to the helpless obsession of
love, their love feelings beyond the rational control. e.
Pragma Pragma is taken from the words pragmatic. Pragma always satisfied
and loved the other lovers because of the characteristics such as intelligence and wealth. Pragma always focuses on the detail and
qualities from the other person or couple. f.
Agape Agape has so much relation with Christian love. Agape is related with
love to serve rather than receive or also known as the love of God for mankind.
Robert Stenberg 1986 adds that love is a term of of three components that formed into a triangle. Those three components are intimacy, passion, and
commitment.
a. Intimacy
Intimacy deals with feelings of closeness and connected to each other in relationships. This part deals with the experience of warmth in
relationship.
