Thus, the ego can ensure that the id can be expressed in an acceptable manner of the real world.
3. Superego
The superego is a set of ethical standards or rules for behavior. It has two parts; the conscience and the ego ideal. The conscience lists the thing that should
not be done in a social life, while the ego ideal lists the thing that should be done to obtain proud feelings. The superego functions as morality principle. As a result,
violating the rules may cause guilty feeling. In conclusion, the superego leads to perfection and is, therefore, unrealistic as the id.
Between the two extremes of superego and id lies ego, the balance of rationality. The ego must not only satisfy the id but also must not violate the
standards of the superego therefore the perfect action is accomplished. In brief, the key to healthy personality is a balance between the id, ego, and superego.
D. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Emotional Intelligence consists of five basic emotional competencies Goleman, 1995: 43, or abilities, you can develop to use your emotions more
effectively. The first three, Emotional Self-Awareness, Emotional Self-Regulation and Emotional Self-Motivation, is the intrapersonal set of skills that deals with
managing our emotions. After that we could manage our relationship with others in the interpersonal skills that consists of empathy and nurturing relationship.
According to Byron Stock 2008: 7-8, in his book of EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE What It Is and Why It’s Important: a Preview of SMART
EMOTIONS for Busy Business People, he explains all of the five basic emotional competencies and the first one is the explanation of Emotional Self-Awareness.
It has to do with being aware of what you’re feeling in the moment … If you don’t know what emotion you’re feeling, you don’t have
the information you need to decide whether to stay in the emotion or to change it. 7
Therefore, we can conclude that Emotional Self-Awareness is about knowing your emotion as the basic in Emotional Intelligence.
He also explains the second competence that is Emotional Self-Regulation as follows.
This is not about “stuffing, holding in, or hiding” our emotions; rather it is about being able to choose our emotions ... If we don’t
like the emotion we’re experiencing, it would be beneficial if we were able to choose a better one, or transform it into a more
positive, productive emotion. 8
After knowing our emotion, we will be able to identify it and if we do not like our emotion at that time, we can choose another emotion that suits us better
depending on the circumstances. The third is Emotional Self-Motivation which is defined as follows.
This is about having the skill to activate positive, productive emotions … The two key words associated with this competency
are persistence and success. Our ability to call up and use positive emotions such as excitement, enthusiasm, joy, courage, etc., is
critical to self-motivation. 8
The ability to be persistence on releasing positive and productive emotions by motivating ourselves here proves to be related to success in life and works.
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