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concerning his high-social status. This is the beginning of communication in their relationship towards love. Darcy, after knowing the reason, immediately explains through his writing to Lizzie and accepts her judgment of his fake love. This is what true love can bring, he starts to change his attitude especially his pride to prove his love to Lizzie. The way he proves his change can be seen in the way he treats the Gardiners, helps Lydia and Wickham’s marriage and helps Bingley’s relationship towards Jane. Moreover, at the end of the novel he explains that now he sees Lizzie not from her family’s inferiority, learns to respect her family and says that the changes happen because he thinks ‘only’ of her 331. While Lizzie is in a process of learning love and reasonable marriage in this novel, she meets Wickham and feels the attraction but after knowing that Wickham searches for financial consideration instead of mutual relationship; she begins to learn that love, based only on romance and physical attraction, seems to be superficial. When she meets Charlotte and her financial marriage with Collins, she learns that marriage also needs financial consideration. Jane Austen’s wittiness to tell the readers that Darcy is Lizzie’s perfect partner in life is clearly seen. When Elizabeth sees Pemberly at first, admires the view and says that ‘to be mistress of Pemberly might be something’ 223, the author, Jane Austen here wants to reveal Elizabeth’s love for Darcy and Jane continues to give us more clues by providing the description of Darcy’s personality from his housekeeper that he is ‘good-natured, sweetest tempered and the most generous hearted boy in the world’ 226-227. She begins to learn that Darcy really changes his pride and starts to like him. Lydia’s embarrassing elopement and marriage with Wickham makes Elizabeth uncertain with her chance with Darcy and she starts to realize that he completes her search of love. She began now to comprehend that he was exactly the man, who, in disposition and talents, would most suit her. His understanding and temper, though unlike her own, would have answered all her wishes. It was an union that must have been to the advantage of both; by her ease and liveliness, his mind might have been softened, his manners improved, and from his judgment, information, and knowledge of the world, she must have received benefit of greater importance. 283 This is the point where Elizabeth shows that she really loves Darcy because he completes her. After learning the meaning of true love and realistic marriage, throughout the process in this novel she gains her maturity of love. All these learning of love conclude Darcy to be the winner of her heart. This also tells us that Darcy in the beginning of the novel is actually a bad choice for a partner considering his pride. However, throughout the process of maturity in Darcy’s love, thanks to Elizabeth’s ‘tough advice’, he is willing to change his pride because of his love for Elizabeth. From this story, we can see how love could change them to be people with better personality. At the end of this novel, Lizzie shows her admiration for him because he has no improper pride like the one he used to in the past. Darcy’s change of personality makes Lizzie to be more confident in choosing Darcy as her partner in marriage. Darcy appreciates her bravery to ‘teach’ him a lesson of how bad pride could be. While Lizzie appreciates Darcy for his explanation of how bad prejudice could be. Those two complete each other because they develop their personality together into a better one for love and this should be more than enough to make their way to marriage. It is interesting that in this novel, love is actually described as something with many forms. On the journey of finding the true meaning of love we will find fake love based on physical attraction, financial reason or like what Quilliam said in her book of criticism, Penguin Passnotes: Jane Austen Pride and Prejudice as ‘flattering romance’ 95. The fake love is ‘id’, one of the personality structures that operates on pleasure principle. In this case, ‘id’ is the desire to find his or her true love. However, their imagination of love in marriage is only limited to those three aspects above. This results in no good due to the next test of maturity in love that is marriage. Marriage is the ‘ego’, the one that operates on reality principle. The ‘ego’ in marriage is the reality that relationship also needs mutual relationship besides social and financial consideration to maintain the marriage. Therefore, their marriage depends on their determination to maintain their mutual relationship along with the existence of both social and financial consideration. This later will prove how strong their relationship and happiness of their marriage can last. In the Victorian Age, the time setting of the novel, Jane Austen chooses to discuss marriage that depends on those three aspects in this novel because marriage is being viewed as social or financial contracts. The ‘superego’, the one that functions as morality principle, sees marriage with social or financial PLAGIAT MERUPAKAN TINDAKAN TIDAK TERPUJI contracts as the only way to create happiness in the relationship. While the true love in this novel is the love that improves their personality. From that point, the writer concludes that the real object on love and marriage is not those three options mentioned above or the ‘id’. However, it is from the ‘ego’ or the self- development that a true relationship brings. It means that true love is not based on merely physical attraction, financial reason or even ‘flattering romance’, but it comes from their interaction that later creates self-development in order to maintain relationship and love. From my analysis, Fitzwilliam Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet in this novel both are amazing characters. They are very brave to decide their own life and choose their own couples. Based on the theory of psychoanalysis, the writer finds the meaning of love in the view of id, ego and superego. The id of love is the desire to find true love by imagining the three aspects, namely physical attraction, financial reason and romance into reality, the ego is the realistic way that finds true love with mutual relationship beside social and financial consideration and superego finds love and happiness of the relationship in social or financial contract of marriage. While on the theory of Emotional Intelligence, the writer finds out that they experience the complex process of searching for love. Their love problems develop their personality development into maturity throughout five basic emotional competencies. Those five are Emotional Self-Awareness, Emotional Self-Regulation, Emotional Self-Motivation, Empathy and Nurturing Relationship. From those competencies, they increase their level of Emotional Intelligence into a better stage and this affects their personality development. PLAGIAT MERUPAKAN TINDAKAN TIDAK TERPUJI