b. Marrying a Bengali Man
The Indian tradition makes the Indian women’s position weak. The women cannot have the same treatment as men. The tradition rules the women in every
way. For example, the Indian believe that education for a girl is not important. They will not use their knowledge after they are married. The only thing a girl
should learn is how to serve her husband and take care the family Mayo 50. Ammu experiences the same thing. She has to wait for a proposal. While she
waits the proposal, she dreams of escaping from Ayemenem, from her bad tempered father and long suffering mother. She makes a little plan to go to her
distant aunt in Calcutta and her father agrees her plan. There, Ammu meets her future husband. He is a Bengali man. Five days after their first meeting, he
proposes Ammu. She just accepts the proposal. She thinks that it will be better to accept the proposal than coming back home to Ayemenem Roy 39.
In fact, Ammu breaks the rules. The Indian tradition only lets women wait for a proposal and get married to the man of her father’s choice. Ammu ignores
the rules. She gets married with a Bengali man based on her choice. Ammu is a worst transgressor towards the tradition. She does an intercommunity marriage
and love marriage which is forbidden in her tradition. According to Mayo 75, the Indian society believes that spontaneous love is unreliable in the marriage.
Through some ways, she tries to get the recognition, acceptance and trying to be equal with men. She decides to take her own way and live her life based on her
choice. PLAGIAT MERUPAKAN TINDAKAN TIDAK TERPUJI
Ammu’s marriage does not take a long time. After the children are born, their marriage is getting worse. Ammu and her husband often quarrel. Sometimes
it involves her children. The climax is when Ammu’s husband, Baba, cannot give the family a decent living. The only thing he can do is only getting drunk. Based
on this problem, Ammu asks to divorce her husband Roy 42. However, Indian society does not allow a woman to divorce her husband.
They think that being a divorce widow is sinful. They think it will be better being a widow if her husband dies. It is more honorable than a divorce widow Mayo
46. Ammu divorces her husband because she wants to be free and to be equal with men. She wants to prove that she can do what a man does. She wants to be
free from the situation that makes her unsure about the future. She can not count on her husband anymore because her husband does not give her a decent living for
her and the family. Based on Maslow’s theory of needs, Ammu looks for the second category of
esteem needs, the respect from others. She tries to look for recognition from the society, reputation, acceptance as her being divorce widow, attention, equal status,
and appreciation from the society for her being. She wants to prove that she is able to do something different. She tries to be equal with men.
c. Being a Single Parent
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