agreed by both side. There are two ways give the dowry. The first, before party is done. The dowry is shared for the persons who have right to accept it, like
Parjambaran Na Gok Suhi Ni Ampang Na Opat and also Parjambaran Na Gok Dalihan Na Tolu. This is done to shorten the time at the marriage ceremony. But
Ulos Herbang which was fixed has to be given at the party. It reminds us that Ulos is going too twisted for those who man has interest. The second, the dowry is
given at the marriage ceremony, so that the program is done until night.
3.5 Wedding Ceremony
Generally, the wedding ceremony for the Batak’s society is done at the woman’s side and it is called Dialap Jual. The marriage of both of newlywed is
legitimated at the chosen day in tradition’s way and religion. In the marriage ceremony, there are some steps will be done, they are:
• Paranak’s side bring custom food called Sibuha-buhai, a certain food which is specialized for Suhut, Parboru, including Parboru’s side also
serve the custom food, is called Dengke, and then they eat together, where Parboru’s side eat Paranak’s side and Paranak’s side eat the Parboru’s
food. • After eat Sibuha-buhai, bride and bridegroom is met and each of them is
given flower that is called Marsilehon Bunga. For the first time, it is given for bridegroom and the last is for the bride. This step is closed by praying
to God in order He may bless them forever. • Blessing Agenda at the church is called Pamasu-masuon, the newlywed
with all of the guests to go to the church to get the bless from the priest.
Universitas Sumatera Utara
Before they get it, the priest asks the newlywed, if they love each other or not? If they answer “yes”, the priest will marry them by the name of the
God. • Giving Tudu-tudu Ni Sipanganon means a mark of custom’s food. It is
part of animal’s such as cow, buffalo and pig body which has been cut such as Ulu the part of head, tanggalan, somba-somba flank, soit part
of hip, upasira. They are put in a big washbasin. Tudu-tudu ni sipanganon is given by man’s side to the woman’s side with custom
language.This shows modesty by saying even though the foods are given just enough, may it brings advantages and blessing spiritual and physical
for everybody, and saying : Sititik ma sigompa, golang-golang pangarahutna
Tung so sadia pen a pinatupa on, sai godang ma panasuna. • Giving Dengke, dengke means fish. The fish that is given is ihan” or
batak fish, a kind of fish that we can found only in Toba Lake and Asahan River in upper. It tastes delicious and special. This fish lives in clear water,
in Batak called Tio. Hula-hula from bride’s sides gives dengke to the both of brides. This giving is as a hope to the couple and also the family so that
they are unanimous and prosperous, easy in looking for livelihood or in Batak called Tio pancarian dohot pangomoan.
• Having eaten together, the people in the party eat together, ussualy it is for lunch. Before eat someone from man’s side gives umpasa, custom
expression:
Universitas Sumatera Utara
Sititik ma sigompa, golang-golang pangaruhutna Tung so sadia pen a pinatupa on, sai godang ma pinasuna.
This expression describes modesty by saying even though the menus are provided what is available but hope everybody can enjoy it and
bless. • Dividing Jambar, Jambar means a kind of getting. Jambar is something
that gotten by someone in a custom. It is had been certain before. Jambar can be in form money or parts of animal that cut such as part of head, tail
and another parts. Each side divides it to their each function. The position of someone is not consistent. The division of Jambar will submit
accordance Dalihan Na Tolu. Sometimes someone can be become as Boru, Hula-hula or Dongan Sabutuha.
• Manjalo Tumpak, tumpak means contribution in money, but here means as a mark of love. Tumpak is given by invitation. After having lunch they
give tumpak. It is done while shaking the bride and bridegroom and say congratulation.
• Pinggan panungkunan is a plate within rice, sirih a kind of plant, tango- tanggo a piece of meat and money 4 pieces. Pinggan panungkunan is a
medium and symbol to begin custom’s talk. • Giving ulos, In Batak custom, ulos is an important thing for hula-hula to
show his bless to his daughters besides giving fish, rice and blessing words. In making ulos it is regarded has power. That is why, even who
received and gives should has certain context, such as from hula-hula to
Universitas Sumatera Utara
his daughter or parent to their children. Nowadays, ulos doesn’t have magic value; it is just a symbol in doing custom ceremony. After giving
ulos, they spread boras sipir ni tondi, the bless rice while saying “ horas” as many as 3 times. Every relatives who gives ulos, should bless the
couple, the may utter umpasa or umpama which exists in Batak tradition. Umpasa is wonderful literary words consist of sampiran and content lines,
which consist of four lines in general. Umpama is proverb consists of one or two lines in general.
3.6 Paulak Une
