Verbal Abuse and Physical Abuse

41 mother forbade him to play with his little sister. He had felt the pressure before reaching the peak of the hard feelings he felt. This kind of thing can lead to a result that turned out of the estimated human mind. It would be nice if we could keep the words and behavior towards children, because mentally children are still very fragile.

4.2.1.2 Verbal Abuse and Physical Abuse

Verbal abuse and physical abuse are one of the triggers mental destruction, especially in children. Abuse can be done by anyone, especially with the people closest to us, for example family. Verbal abuse begins through shocking words that shouted at the children ear. That’s why, a child started speaking or giving some comments about everything still his mother is piqued, less control and begins to spell abusive language. For examples of verbal abuse are spelling curses, obscenities, saying with the vile language or the doer command children authoritatively. This is what Billy’s mother Dorothy did to him when he was at 4 years old. At that time, Billy as Christine who loves to draw is playing with Kathy. Christine makes a puppet doll on the wall near Kathy’s crib. When Billy’s mother knows the drawing on the wall, she scolds and yells loudly at Christine. Then when Christine closes her eyes and goes, and Billy eye opened. He sees his mother angry and yells, she shakes Billy’s body. At that time Billy feels so very frightened. Again Billy feels shaken, mentally begin increasingly fragile. He is afraid of being punished 42 for something he didn’t do. Supposedly, child who still classified as an infant, does not get rough handling such as shouting or words that are less good. “Me not bad” he cried. “You drew that on the wall” she shouted. He shook his head. “Not Billy. Kathy did it.” he said, pointing to the crib. “You mustn’t lie,” Dorothy said, jabbing her forefinger hard against his little chest. “Lying … is … bad. You’ll go to hell if you’re a liar. Now get to your room.” Keyes, 1982: 148 Harsh word, and shout angrily are bad action that can be happen to any individual. Excessive fear can affect the mental development of children, who marched with traumatic. Physical abuse can also cause the same bad things. The trigger of this physical abuse is usually due to an error intentionally or unintentionally committed by an individual against another individual. If physical abuse happen in children, the children certainly will leave deep scars on his mind and his body. The definition of physical abuse is any physical force or action that result in or may result in a non-accidental injury of a child. Physical abuse may involve striking the child a single time or it may involve a pattern of occurrences. Physical abuse is usually connected to physical punishment or is confused with discipline. Such acts of aggression include striking a child with the hand, fist, or foot or with an object; burning the child with a hot object; shaking, pushing, or throwing a child; pinching or biting the child; pulling a child by the hair; cutting off a child’s air. The parent or caretaker may not have intended to hurt the child; the injury is not an accident. It may, however, been the result of over discipline or physical punishment that is inappropriate it the child’s age. According to Aronson 1991: 184 said that 43 physical abuse is application of force that produce pain or injury-spanking, beating, holding hard enough to bruise, cutting, scraping, burning, and tying up a child are forms of physical abuse. Billy as the leading character is again punished by his mother for what he never done. Billy as Christine who had taken Kathy’s doll and bring it to sleep all night. Billy does not know what happened. Billy, again feel the pressure on him. In the morning, Billy was punished for taking Kathy’s doll. Dorothy found it in his bed and shook him and shook him until he felt his head was going to fall off. “Don’t you ever do that again,” she said. “That’s Kathy’s doll.” Keyes, 1982: 149 The younger child was at the onset of physical abuse, the greater the imprint, and thus, the greater the impact. This is particularly evident when the abuse continues throughout the child’s life. Kluft 1987: 30 explain that abuses create in the child a state of an unacceptable and threatening feeling: for example, rage. The child learns that the feeling is unacceptable, and that is must not only be unexpressed, but it must not even be consciously “felt”. The feeling or affect is repressed and remains in the unconscious, outside of awareness. The amount of pressure that felt by the leading character, make him feel frightened in facing any event. Verbal abuse and physical abuse experience, is more nurturing in his mind. The mental is even more fragile and brittle. Billy inadvertently break the cookie jar, when he finds himself unable to fix the jar fragments, he feels very frightened. He doesn’t want to hear his mother yelling and scolding him. He is shaking, and doesn’t want to be punished. He doesn’t want to feel sick or injured. 44 He knew he had done something bad, but he didn’t want to know what was going to happen, didn’t want to hear Mommy screaming at him. He closed his eyes and went to sleep … “Shawn” opened his eyes and looked around. He saw the broken jar on the floor and stared at it. What was it? Why was it broken? Why was he here? Keyes, 1982: 150 The leading character, is again experience multiple personality disorder or dissociative identity disorder. Richard P. Kluft in Childhood Antecedents of Multiple Personality 1987: 27 said that multiple personality disorder is a mode of survival for some individuals who are capable of dissociating in the face of severe infant and child abuse, there is often a relationship between certain abuses and specific alternate personalities. Each alternate personality usually deals with a related set of conflicts and affects.

4.2.1.3 Sexual Abuse