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3. There are times when people may be able to give up on relationship, but never give up on relating.
4. Divorce, fighting arguing will never solve human problems; better to try to understand, warmth, and flexibility.
5. Do not become involved in pettiness, ego, and childish, hurts, these will only serve to degrade human relationships and prevent
closeness. 6. Learn to listen to others.
7. Do not allow the relationship to die or neglect.
2.1.3. Theory of Friendship According to Beebe
According to Beebe 412 in his book entitled Inter Personal Communication Relating to Other states an explanation about the nature or
friendship. He says that a friend is someone we trust, the one whom we share a good and bad time with. Someone who will always be there for you, even in the
worst time, hold your hand when you are lonely and wipe your tears when you cry.
Beebe 43 also takes the opinion about friendship that there are three reasons about friendship they are:
1. The need of Inclusion It suggests that each of us has a need to be included in the activities.
Everybody needs human contact and fellowship. We need to be invited by other to
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join with and perhaps we need to invite others to join us in certain situation. It will be different to treat one to another because everybody is not the same.
2. The Need for Control It suggests that someone also need some degrees of dominion over the
relationship we establish with other. Someone must exercise control in order to predict how others will respond. He or she also needs to be controlled by others
because he or she desires some level of stability and comfort in his or her interaction with others.
3. The Need of Affection People need to give and receive love, support warmth and intimacy,
although the amount is different from person to person. From that statement I can draw a conclusion about the need of having a companion, the man’s inclusion,
control and affection needs. It is better if they can actively seek other as friend, because of these needs social isolation can negatively affect our physical and
mental health. Research suggests that the most stressful event in life is losing a friend or companion.
Beebe 413 in his book states the meaning of friendship dealing with our physical and mental needs: “Besides helping us enjoy a healthy life, friends help
us to cope with the stress, take care of physical needs even help us in the development of our personality. Friends help us cope with uncertainty and have a
profound influence on our behavior.”
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From that statement I can also conclude that friends are the main influence for someone’s personality. As evidence there are many people who trust their
friends rather than their parents when they had problems.
2.1.4. The Relationship between Psychology and Literature
