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d. Esteem Needs
This needs for self-esteem motivate an individual to reach for achievement, strength, confidence, independence and freedom. It involves a desire for
reputation, status, recognition, appreciation by other of one’s abilities and feeling of importance pp. 303-304.
e. Self-actualization Needs
Self-actualization needs are fullfiled when the four levels of needs have been reached. A person needs to reach achievements for him or herself. It means a
person must realize his or her personal potentials, so heshe has motives to seek for personal growth and experience pp. 304-305.
f. The Desires to Know and to Understand
Humans are born with curiosity. It is one of the most universal characteristics. A person may have desire to know and to understand after all their
needs are fulfilled.
4. Theory of Love
Love is a basic human emotion but understanding how and why it happens, is not easy. In fact, a long time ago, many people suggested that love was simply
something primal, mysterious, and spiritual for science to ever fully understand. According to May 1969, love is the cross-fertilization of mortality and
immortality. In understanding what individual’s desire in romantic relationship
are, J.A. Lee 1977 provides six categories to classify the types or the styles of love.
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a. Eros
Eros is a love style characterized by the search for a beloved whose physical presentation of self-embodies an image which is already held in the mind
of the lover. In other words, eros is a type of love which deals with sensual, beauty, romantic and pleasure attraction p. 125.
b. Ludos
Ludos is defined as a playful game. This type describes love as a game. Being involved in feeling is not the first priority. Ludos tends to play for fun
rather than being involved in the feeling p. 125.
c. Storage
Storage is similarly to companionate love. It starts from friendship, goes deeper and become friends again. This types of love also known as the love of
community and family p. 125.
d. Mania
Mania has close meaning with Eros. It describes love as a mixture of conflict and romantic from Eros style of love. People who categorized as Mania
rarely achieve happiness in love. This type of love includes being obsessive, jealous and emotional. Mania love is usually beyond the rational control p. 125.
e. Pragma
Pragma is basically come from the word pragmatic. Pragma always satisfy and love other lovers because of the characteristic such as intelligence and wealth.
Pragma always focuses on the detail and qualities from the other person or couple. Pragma focuses on the detail and qualities of couple p. 125.
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