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a. Eros
Eros is a love style characterized by the search for a beloved whose physical presentation of self-embodies an image which is already held in the mind
of the lover. In other words, eros is a type of love which deals with sensual, beauty, romantic and pleasure attraction p. 125.
b. Ludos
Ludos is defined as a playful game. This type describes love as a game. Being involved in feeling is not the first priority. Ludos tends to play for fun
rather than being involved in the feeling p. 125.
c. Storage
Storage is similarly to companionate love. It starts from friendship, goes deeper and become friends again. This types of love also known as the love of
community and family p. 125.
d. Mania
Mania has close meaning with Eros. It describes love as a mixture of conflict and romantic from Eros style of love. People who categorized as Mania
rarely achieve happiness in love. This type of love includes being obsessive, jealous and emotional. Mania love is usually beyond the rational control p. 125.
e. Pragma
Pragma is basically come from the word pragmatic. Pragma always satisfy and love other lovers because of the characteristic such as intelligence and wealth.
Pragma always focuses on the detail and qualities from the other person or couple. Pragma focuses on the detail and qualities of couple p. 125.
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f. Agape
This type of love is related with love to serve other than receive or willing to sacrifice anything for their partner. It is a hybrid of storge and eros. It is also
known as the love of God for mankind p. 125. Sternberg 1997 states that there are three components of love:
a. Intimacy
Intimacy refers to feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness in loving relationships. It gives rise, essentially, to the experience of warmth in a
loving relationship p. 315.
b. Passion
Passion refers to the drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, sexual consummation, and related phenomena in loving relationships. The passion
component includes sources of motivational and other forms of arousal that lead to the experience of passion in a loving relationship p. 315.
c. DecisionCommitment
Decisioncommitment refers, in the short-term, to the decision that one loves a certain other, and in the long-term, to ones commitment to maintain that
love. These two aspects of the decisioncommitment component do not necessarily go together, one can decide to love someone without being committed
to the love in the long-term, or one can be committed to a relationship without acknowledging that one loves the other person in the relationship p. 315.
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