c. The Expression of Love
True love does not merely lay on nice words of the lover but it needs one’s approval. To prove his or her love, the lover needs some expressions. Thus, the
expression of love plays important role as a means to show how the lover loves the beloved one.
Davieslove in his article Time: The Best Expression of Love defines that the essence of love lays on how much one gives herself to the beloved one. Love is
focused on attention that the lover forgets his or her own life because the lover concentrates so intently on the loved one. To prove lover’s attention, the lover
gives most of his or her precious time. Whenever the lover gives it, she or he makes a sacrifice and sacrifice is the essence of love. Thus, love means giving up,
yielding the lover’s preference, comfort, goal, security, money, energy or time for the benefit of one loved http:gleez.comarticlesrelationshiplove-harmonytime-
the-best-expression-of-love.
4. Motherhood
A woman has a desire to be a mother either of her own or foster child. As a good mother, a woman will be responsible for the children’s life. She actively
fulfills the need of her children, preserves them and sacrifices herself for the sake of her children. The time and experience of doing those are called motherhood.
Becoming a mother provides new opportunities for presentation of self which involves an embodied experience of responsibility and being able to meet a
dependent child’s need.
According to Deutsch 18-19, motherhood refers to the relationship of the mother to her child as a sociologic, physiologic, and emotional whole which
extends throughout the physiologic processes of pregnancy, birth, feeding and care. While the motherliness is the quality of character that stamps the women’s
whole personality. It is the emotional phenomena which is conducted with the child’s helplessness and need for care. The motherliness of women divides into
two elements. They are narcissistic tendencies and masochistic. A narcissistic motherly woman wishes to be loved and considers herself absolutely and
exclusively indispensable to her child. A narcissistic mother demands her child’s kind fate and refuses normal human frustration in child’s case. The masochistic of
motherliness reveals the mother’s readiness for self-sacrifice without asking for return from the child. Deutsch states that the masochistic mother is willing to
undergo pain for the sake of her child as well as to renounce the child’s dependence upon her when the child’s liberation comes 19.
Moreover, an excess motherliness of masochistic mother has an influence that can disturb her relationship with her child. Deutsch 22 defines that
excessive motherliness can have a disturbing or furthering influence in the practice of motherly task such as in teaching and nursing. This excessive nursing,
which outlast in the period of the child’s helplessness and need for the mother’s care, will leads to the child’s rivalry. As the mother accompanies and nurses
without loosing her intensity over her child’s life, the child’s emotion is strongly developed that she goes away from her mother.
5. The Mother-Children Relationship
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