4.2.3.2 Understanding
The second important thing that someone has to have in friendship is understanding. Peterson 1 on his characteristics of friendship states that
understanding gives a strong support to a friendship because we will not leave our friend who is in trouble. Understanding is the key to know and understand our
best friend better Hosseini 33, know about his true character and know his way of thinking Hosseini 23. Knowing our best friend better will make someone
easier to be a good listener whenever needed, know how to give an honest affirmation or correction, to understand what our friend really needs and know the
correct way how to calm our friend’s down in certain situations. Understanding is also needed to build a feeling that between friends they
need each other. It makes someone not to be selfish because they have to understand each other like they also want to be understood. It also creates a
feeling to receive and love our friend just the way they are. By understanding, one can accept his best friend wholeheartedly since they realize that friendship is a
mutual action between friends.
4.2.3.3 Caring
Another important element in friendship for Hassan is caring. In the characteristics of friendship proposed by Peterson 1, care is closely linked to
emotional respect which refers to the action to stay closer to a friend when nobody is near. Every one wants to be cared for by others especially by their close friends.
Care and attention can make someone happy and feel special. No matter how little care and attention that one gives to his friend, it means so much to him Hosseini
53-54. Through caring one will not feel alone because their best friend will always stay close to them. It also shows some respect about how great is the
meaning of sincerity and without care a friend will be like any common friend. Furthermore it is also needed to build atmosphere of ease between friends.
4.2.3.4 Sacrificing
In friendship, if those three important elements are evident in a good friendship then sacrificing will automatically appear. If we relate sacrificing to
characteristics of friendship by Peterson 1, it is closely linked to service which refers to some helping action that we can do to our friends. Sacrificing can be
proof how solid and sincere a friendship is Hosseini 63-64. That is why it is a must in building a long lasting friendship. Moreover, it teaches one not to be
selfish since he has to make sacrifices for his friend. Sacrificing for a friend can be in a form of care, attention, time, understanding and action Hosseini 36-37.
When one is giving his time to stay close to his friend and listen about his bad story, it means that he is sacrificing his time to listen.
Sacrificing is needed in friendship because a best friend is sometimes like a brother or family. It is a deep proof of a true friend because a quality of
friendship can be measured also by how great and sincere is his sacrifice. In addition, it comes from one’s true love to his best friend because when one
sacrifices his time or effort for his best friend he does not hope for anything in return. It also means that one is hoping everything the best for his friend whatever
the risk taken as long as the friendship lasts forever.
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