Deciding whether she will confess about her love toward Mr. Knightley or not
The triangular theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Stenberg categorized their love as consummate love. According to Robert Stenberg, love
that Emma and Mr. Knightley have is the complete form of love. They try to express their love each other into different actions in order to maintain their
feeling each other. They want to get married and have a happy family. The psychoanalytical psychology will be used as the approach to find
Emma’s id in this situation. In this condition, the id is that Emma wants to get a good match for her to live with forever as a happy family. Then, it makes Emma’s
ego to act. Emma chooses to find a good match for Harriet that actually represents her own feelings. She realizes it after she knows that Harriet loves Mr. Knightley
and this condition makes Emma so upset.
2.4 Deciding whether Emma will meet with Harriet and let Harriet knows about her relationship with Mr. Knightley or not
One day, the precious moment happens between Mr. Knightley and Emma. Mr. Knightley tries to express his own feeling toward Emma. He says that
actually he loves Emma so much. This situation has been waited by Emma for long time. If Harriet does not have any special feeling toward Mr. Knightley,
Emma would not be in dilemma situation and she could express her true feeling toward Mr. Knightley openly. She would say that she loves Mr. Knightley too, but
the different situation happens. ‘I know that you know what I am, Emma. You hear nothing but truth from
me. God knows, I have been a very indifferent lover. But you really understand me. Yes, you understand my feelings-and return them if you can. At now, I ask
only to hear-once to hear your voice. Austen, p.337
But, the different story goes. In this case, Emma realizes that Harriet also falls in love with Mr. Knightley. Emma remembers the situation when Harriet
knows that Mr. Elton does not love her. It really makes Harriet sad. Because of that reason, Emma is thinking hard for this one. While Mr. Knightley was
speaking, Emma’s thought is trying to comprehend the truth, in order to see that Harriet’s hopes had been groundless all Austen, p.337.
Actually, Emma does not want to give Harriet any hurt feeling anymore for knowing that Emma and Mr. Knightley have a special relationship. But, if
Harriet does not know about this, she will perceive that Emma is betrayed her. It is almost the same with the story of Mr. Elton in the past, but the different is that
Emma is also fall in love with Mr. Knightley. At this situation, Emma was thinking harder than before.
In this case, Emma Woodhouse faces an intrapersonal conflict in the form of an avoidance-avoidance conflict. According to Worchel and Cooper, p. 461,
an avoidance-avoidance conflict is a condition in which a person must choose one alternative of two unattractive goals. Emma faces it after knowing that Mr.
George Knightley and Emma love each other, Emma afraid if this situation will hurt Harriet again. There is no good choice for Emma. She is in dilemma.
How to do her best by Harriet was of more difficult decision; how to spare her from any unnecessary pain; how to make her any possible atonement; how to
appear least her enemy? On these subjects her perplexity and distress were very great. Austen, p.340
Actually, Emma does not want to separate from Harriet but Emma also does not want to hurt Harriet again by seeing her relationship with Mr. Knightley.
Emma decides to avoid a meeting with Harriet and all that need be told by letter Austen, p.340.
In order to solve the conflict, Emma chooses negotiation. According to Isenhart and Spangle, pp. 45-152, negotiation is a conflict resolution in which
the opposing parties compromise or reconcile peacefully to get mutual and beneficial agreement for both of them. This negotiation does not involve a third
party. The negotiation happens through an integrative negotiation. An integrative negotiation is a constructive approach in conflict resolution. In doing this
negotiation, Emma tries to decide whether or not Emma will meet with Harriet and let Harriet knows about her relationship with Mr. Knightley. The result of
negotiation is that Emma decides to avoid a meeting with Harriet by letting her go with Isabella to London for a few weeks in order to give her some amusement p.
340. In deeper analysis, in the process of deciding whether or not Emma will
meet with Harriet and let her know about Emma’s special relationship with Mr. Knightley, Emma gets dilemma. Emma thinks about Harriet’s feeling if she
knows about the fact that Mr. Knightley does not love her. This is the second time for Harriet gets hurt from her own feeling to somebody. They are Mr. Elton and
Mr. Knightley. Emma does not want to meet with Harriet for a while because she does not want to hurt Harriet for the second time. Emma tries to negotiate with
herself in deciding this conflict. It happens because Emma really cares about Harriet. This is pure an intrapersonal conflict for Emma because the decision is
taken after she has long-term consideration in her mind.
Then, after Emma’s reaction in protecting Harriet, according to the triangular theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Stenberg it can be said
that the love that Emma and Harriet have, can be categorized as companionate love. They always do the best effort for each other. They have the same thoughts
in almost everything. Besides, they have great moments as close friends. The separation for a while between Emma and Harriet is the best idea of Emma in
order to give some amusement for Harriet. Next, the motivation that Emma’s has in her decision to separate for a
while with Harriet can be seen using the theory of motivation. In fact that Emma decides to avoid any meeting with Harriet because she wants to protect Harriet
and give her some amusement. In this situation, they only do communication to each other by letter. Emma does not want Harriet get hurt again by knowing that
Emma and Mr. Knightley have a special relationship. Besides, they need time to think about their selves in different places. If the right moment comes, they will
see to each other in better condition. This description can be said as Emma’s social need in friendship.
Besides, in this part, the psychoanalytical psychology written by Sigmund Freud will be examined as the approach to find Emma’s id in this situation. The id
of Emma in this conflict is that Emma feels sorry toward Harriet. Emma does not want to see Harriet feels sad. Then, it makes Emma’s ego to act. Emma chooses to
persuade Harriet to go to London for a while in order to get some amusement.
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CHAPTER V
CONCLUSIONS AND SUGGESTIONS
This part consists of conclusions and also suggestions. After having discussions in chapter IV, conclusions and suggestions are needed in order to get
deeper understanding about the analysis of the novel.