Emma is a stubborn girl
Marriage, in fact, would not do for her. It would be incompatible with what she owed to her father, and with what she felt for him. Nothing should
separate her from her father. She would not marry, even if she were asked by Mr. Knightley. Austen, p. 326
But, after Mr. Knightley says that he loves Emma, actually Emma feels doubt. Emma gets the happiest moment in her life after knowing that Emma and
Mr. Knightley love each other. But, Emma also thinks about her father, she never wants to leave him alone. Emma thinks that it must be only an engagement
between her and Mr. Knightley while Mr. Woodhouse is still alive. Emma has an idea to sacrifice her own happiness in order to give her father happiness. Austen,
p. 340 When Emma and Mr. Knightley decide to think again about the plan of
their marriage, Emma was thinking hard about both her father and Mr. Knightley. Emma never thinks to quit her father if she gets married with Mr.Knightley. On
the other hand, Emma also thinks about Mr. Knightley. If Mr. Knightley moves from Donwell Abbey, he must be sacrificing a great deal of independence of
hours and habits; that in living constantly with her father, and in no house of his own, there would be much, very much, to be borne with. Austen, p. 351
Mr. Knightley’s love toward Emma is really deep. Mr. Knightley agrees to stay in Hartfield and stay together with Mr. Woodhouse, after their marriage in
order to make Emma feels happy Austen, p. 352. In this situation, Emma realizes that Mr. Knightley is her true lover. After John and Isabella, and every
other friend, were agreed in approving Emma and Mr. Knightley’s marriage Austen, p. 377, Emma and Mr. Knightley try to tell Mr. Woodhouse about the
plan. This is a sensitive topic for Mr. Woodhouse, but they try to tell him carefully.
When first discussed on the subject, he was so sad, that, they were almost desperate. A second time, gave less pain. He began to think that he could not
prevent it. But, something happened to Mrs. Weston’s poultry house. It was robbed. This situation took an effect toward Mr. Woodhouse. The Knightleys
decided to take care of him in Hartfield. Austen, pp. 377-378
This situation gives positive impact for Emma. This situation gives positive impact for Emma. After Mr. Woodhouse has approved their marriage, she
can fix the day for her marriage. This moment really makes Emma and Mr. Knightley feel happy. Finally, Emma married with Mr. Knightley and they
become a happy couple forever. In this case, Emma faces an intrapersonal conflict in the form of a double
approach-avoidance conflict. According to Worchel and Cooper, p. 461, such a conflict is the situation when an individual should choose one between two goals,
each of which has both positive and negative aspects. Emma faces it after knowing that she falls in love with Mr. George Knightley and she wants to marry
with him. But, if she becomes Mr. Knightley’s wife, Emma gets dilemma in deciding where Emma stays in Hartfield or Donwell Abbey. Actually, after her
marriage, Emma never thinks about leaving her father alone, but Emma really understand if they stay in Hartfield, it will be hard for Mr. Knightley because he
has to leave his own house and his habits in order to live together with Emma and Mr. Woodhouse in Hartfield.
In order to solve the conflict, Emma chooses mediation. According to Isenhart and Spangle, pp. 45-152, mediation is a problem solving process that