An Inability to Develop Relationship IDR
The following dialogue contains the example of NC represented by Temple Grandin.
In Bronxville, New York, at Christmas in a family gathering Temple
: I published two articles in the Arizona Farmer- Ranchman.
Scott : The Arizona...
Temple : The Arizona Farmer-Ranchman interrupt. One was
on good moos and bad moos. The other was on head restraints in cattle chutes and killing pens. Theyre
really badly designed. Just terrible systems Just... Scott‟s mom : Its lovely to see you, Temple.
Datum 32FNC The above utterance is uttered by Temple when she is celebrating
Christmas Party. She meets many people in the party. One of them is Scott‟s family. Temple and Scott are old friends. Temple is explaining about
“The Arizona Farmer-
Ranchman”, a magazine that she is used to publish her articles. Temple gives more detailed information about the magazine until Scott and his
parents feel confused to her. Then, they decide to leave her alone. When Temple says
“The Arizona Farmer-Ranchman interrupt. One was on good moos and bad moos. The other was on head restraints in cattle chutes
and killing pens. Theyre really badly designed. Just terrible system s Just...”,
actually she just wants to say what happen in cattle about which she has ever made an article. She says that the cattle have a bad design and terrible system.
When she talks about the detail information of cattle, it indicates that she experiences NC. She fails to build a communicative conversation to other people
because she only says what she wants to say without realising that the hearers do not understand at all.
Another example of NC can be shown in the example below when Temple is talking about Chestnut, a horse in her boarding school.
Dr Carlock : Temple?
Temple : Where do they go? look at a dead horse
DrCarlock : I dont know. Heaven, maybe. Somewhere. Temple,
when animals and people die, they stay with us in our minds. We can still see them. So I think it would be best
not to remember Chestnut like this. Okay?
Temple : I see it the day I arrived. I see grooming Chestnut. I
see a picture of a horse just like Chestnut in a book. We passed a Chestnut horse on route 199 near a feed
store. On a calendar at Aunt Ann‟s. There was one in Life magazine opposite the page of Mr Kennedy.
Datum 22FNC The conversation between Dr Carlock and Temple takes place in the horse
stable at Hampshire boarding school. Temple is seeing Chestnut that has been dead. She does not believe that Chestnut is dead. She asks to Dr Carlock where
Chestnut goes. Then, Dr Carlock tries to calm her down that Chestnut is still alive in their minds but Temple is still shocked to see it. She tries to remember the day
when she meets Chestnut until she gives more detailed information about a horse that she has ever seen. She experiences NC by saying
“I see a picture of a horse just like Chestnut in a book. We passed a Chestnut horse on route 199 near a feed
store. On a calendar at Aunt Ann’s. There was one in Life magazine opposite the page of Mr Kennedy.
The next example also contains NC experienced by Temple Grandin. She always ignores Dr Carlock‟s utterances and only says what she wants. She does
not make the communicative conversation. The phenomenon occurs in the following example.
in Dr Carlock’s house, Temple is knocking the door
Dr Carlock : Are you talking about a slaughterhouse?
Temple : Well, of course theyre gonna get slaughtered. Do you
think wed have cattle if people didnt eat them every day? Theyd just be funny-looking animals in zoos.
No, we raise them for us. That means we owe them some respect. Nature is cruel, but we dont have to be.
I wouldnt want to have my guts ripped out by a lion. Id much rather die in a slaughterhouse if it was done
right
Dr Carlock : Well, it seems to me that you should be the one whos to
design... Temple
: We can easily do it in a way where they dont feel pain and they dont get scared. And their cortisol
levels go through the roof Okay. Dr Carlock
: Did you hear what I said, Temple? I think youre the one who should design the slaughterhouse.
Datum 35FNC The conversation between Temple and Dr Carlock takes place in Carlock‟s
house. Temple visits Dr Carlock because she has a problem in her slaughterhouse. In the above example, Temple has already arrived in Dr Carlock‟s home. After the
door is opened, she is just talking what she wants to say. Even, Temple does not listen what he asks. She ignores his utterances and keeps talking. When Dr
Carlock asks Temple about a slaughterhouse, she gives more detailed information about what is going on there. She does not use adequate words in giving
explanation about the slaughterhouse until Dr Carlock admonishes her by saying “Did your hear what I said, Temple?” This indicates that Temple fails in building
the communicative conversation. Therefore, she experience NC in having conversation with Dr Carlock.