An Inability to Develop Relationship IDR
                                                                                The  following  dialogue  contains  the  example  of  NC  represented  by Temple Grandin.
In Bronxville, New York, at Christmas in a family gathering Temple
:  I  published  two  articles  in  the  Arizona  Farmer- Ranchman.
Scott : The Arizona...
Temple : The Arizona Farmer-Ranchman interrupt. One was
on good moos and bad moos. The other was on head restraints  in  cattle  chutes  and  killing  pens.  Theyre
really badly designed. Just terrible systems Just... Scott‟s mom   : Its lovely to see you, Temple.
Datum 32FNC The  above  utterance  is  uttered  by  Temple  when  she  is  celebrating
Christmas  Party.  She  meets  many  people  in  the  party.  One  of  them  is  Scott‟s family.  Temple  and  Scott  are  old  friends.  Temple  is  explaining  about
“The Arizona Farmer-
Ranchman”, a magazine that she is used to publish her articles. Temple  gives  more  detailed  information  about  the  magazine  until  Scott  and  his
parents feel confused to her. Then, they decide to leave her alone. When Temple says
“The Arizona Farmer-Ranchman interrupt. One was on  good  moos  and  bad  moos.  The  other  was  on  head  restraints  in  cattle  chutes
and  killing  pens.  Theyre  really  badly  designed.  Just  terrible  system s  Just...”,
actually  she  just  wants  to  say  what  happen  in  cattle  about  which  she  has  ever made  an  article.  She  says  that  the  cattle  have  a  bad  design  and  terrible  system.
When  she  talks  about  the  detail  information  of  cattle,  it  indicates  that  she experiences NC. She fails to build a communicative conversation to other people
because she only says what she wants to say without realising that the hearers do not understand at all.
Another example of NC can be shown in the example below when Temple is talking about Chestnut, a horse in her boarding school.
Dr Carlock : Temple?
Temple : Where do they go? look at a dead horse
DrCarlock :  I  dont  know.  Heaven,  maybe.  Somewhere.  Temple,
when  animals  and  people  die,  they  stay  with  us  in  our minds. We can still see them. So I think it would be best
not to remember Chestnut like this. Okay?
Temple : I see it the day I arrived.  I see grooming Chestnut. I
see  a  picture  of  a  horse  just like  Chestnut in  a  book. We passed a Chestnut horse on route 199 near a feed
store. On a calendar at Aunt Ann‟s. There was one in Life magazine opposite the page of Mr Kennedy.
Datum 22FNC The conversation between Dr Carlock and Temple takes place in the horse
stable  at  Hampshire  boarding  school.  Temple  is  seeing  Chestnut  that  has  been dead.  She  does  not  believe  that  Chestnut  is  dead.  She  asks  to  Dr  Carlock  where
Chestnut goes. Then, Dr Carlock tries to calm her down that Chestnut is still alive in their minds but Temple is still shocked to see it. She tries to remember the day
when she meets Chestnut until she gives more detailed information about a horse that she has ever seen. She experiences NC by saying
“I see a picture of a horse just like Chestnut in a book. We passed a Chestnut horse on route 199 near a feed
store. On a calendar at Aunt Ann’s. There was one in Life magazine opposite the page of Mr Kennedy.
The next example also contains NC experienced by Temple Grandin. She always ignores Dr Carlock‟s utterances and only says what she wants. She does
not  make  the  communicative  conversation.  The  phenomenon  occurs  in  the following example.
in Dr Carlock’s house, Temple is knocking the door
Dr Carlock : Are you talking about a slaughterhouse?
Temple : Well, of course theyre gonna get slaughtered. Do you
think wed have cattle if people didnt eat them every day?  Theyd  just  be  funny-looking  animals  in  zoos.
No,  we  raise  them  for  us.  That  means  we  owe  them some respect. Nature is cruel, but we dont have to be.
I wouldnt want to have my guts ripped out by a lion. Id much rather die in a slaughterhouse if it was done
right
Dr Carlock : Well, it seems to me that you should be  the one whos to
design... Temple
:  We  can  easily  do  it  in  a  way  where  they  dont  feel pain  and  they  dont  get  scared.  And  their  cortisol
levels go through the roof Okay. Dr Carlock
: Did you hear what I said, Temple? I think youre the one who should design the slaughterhouse.
Datum 35FNC The conversation between Temple and Dr Carlock takes place in Carlock‟s
house. Temple visits Dr Carlock because she has a problem in her slaughterhouse. In the above example, Temple has already arrived in Dr Carlock‟s home. After the
door is opened, she is just talking what she wants to say. Even, Temple does not listen  what  he  asks.  She  ignores  his  utterances  and  keeps  talking.  When  Dr
Carlock asks Temple about a slaughterhouse, she gives more detailed information about  what  is  going  on  there.  She  does  not  use  adequate  words  in  giving
explanation about the slaughterhouse until Dr Carlock admonishes her by saying “Did your hear what I said, Temple?” This indicates that Temple fails in building
the  communicative  conversation.  Therefore,  she  experience  NC  in  having conversation with Dr Carlock.