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most possible way to solve it is to either leave the conflict or choose one better alternative over the others.
The third is approach-avoidance type. An individual who wants to do something but has fears or doubts or is repulsed by it at the same time is
experiencing an approach-avoidance conflict. The resolution of this conflict is often very difficult and depends generally on the person’s finding added reason to
choose one alternative over the other. The fourth is a double approach-avoidance conflict. An individual must choose between two goals or more alternatives, each
of which has attractive and unattractive aspects. In other words, this type concerns with choosing one goal and as a consequence in giving up the other goals.
Adler and Towne 1990: 376-380 propose three manners of taking the decision to do or not to do something in interpersonal conflict. The first manner is
win-lose problem solving in which the party gets what shehe wants while another party is not. Therefore, there will only be one satisfied party. The second manner
is lose-lose in which neither side is satisfied with the decision. The third manner is win-win. It is aimed to satisfy both parties. It does not involve compromise in
which one should give up something or find the most correct solution for everybody with similar problem, but it works when the individual can find the
right answer to the problem.