Selfish and Arbitrary The Impacts of Inharmonious Relationship on Grayer’s Attitudes
still busy with their own bussiness. Annie is the only person who shows that she cares Grayer. Her treatments makes Grayer feel comfortable and accepted. The
result is that Annie receives different treatments from Grayer. He considers her to be the only person who loves him. Grayer even tries to be nice to Annie. The
example is that Grayer gives a very special gift that is crooked paper heart to Nanny in the Valentine’s Day.
“Whatcha got there, buddy?” “It’s a Valentine. I made it. You can hold it.”
I look down at the heart, assuming it’s for Mrs. X. “Mrs. Butters spelled for me. I told her what to say and she spelled for
me. Read it, Nanny, read it.” I almost can’t speak, “I LOVE YOU NANNY FROM GRAYER
ADDISON X.” “Yup. That’s what I said.”
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On that moment, Grayer does not give any gift to Mrs. X, but he only says
“Happy Valentine’s Day” to her. Even Grayer does not give any gift and he also does not say anything to his own father, Mr. X on this Valentine’s Day. It seems
that Grayer loves Nanny much more than he loves his own parents. Therefore it is the proof that Grayer is rebellious towards his own parents.
Once Grayer shouts that he needs Annie only when she leaves the X’s family. It happens because Mrs. X fires Annie on the day when the X’s family has
vacation on the Nantucket. “Here.” She hands me the check.
I turn and walk past her onto the gravel driveway, as Grayer’s increasingly hydterical cries echo out into the darkness.
“NAAAANNNNYYYY I NEEEEEED YOOOOUUUUU NOT MY MOTHER”
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It shows that Grayer really does not want to be separated with his lovely nanny,
Annie Braddock, because he already feels that Annie is the only person who shows that she loves and cares Grayer very much. Therefore Grayer does not have
any feeling to his own mother. He thinks that Annie is the only person he needs, not his mother. It is also the proof that Grayer is rebellious towards his own
mother. Based on the analysis above, it can be concluded that a child performs
below his intellectual capacities when they are emotionally disturbed. The emotions of a child also influences how a child view his role in life and his
position in the social group, whether they are happy, frightened, or curious. So the success of his adjustments depends on it. Even emotions also affect social
interaction from pleasure to unpleasant emotions. It results in the child development in relation to their social interaction Hurlock 184-185.
The inharmonious relationship between a mother and her son influences on the son’s performance below his intellectual capacities when he is emotionally
disturbed Hurlock 184-185. Actually managing this inharmonious relationship cooperatively can transform the inharmonious relationship between a mother and
her son into an experience that strengthens a relationship. That is why it is important in maintaining a harmonious relationship between a mother and her son.
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