Christopher versus his mother
hard to breathe and a man came up and asked if I was OK and Mother Said,” well, What doest it look like to you?” and he went away. 206
This fact makes Christopher upset but he cannot do anything to realize his dream to do his A Math Level examination this year. It makes him feel painful.
His mother also has no solution that can solve the problem between them. According to Bryna Siegel, an autistic child has lack of social and emotional
reciprocity. An autistic child is uninterested in doing things to please his parents or others. He is uninterested to learn a new thing to earn attention or approval of
other people 91. An autistic child has low desire to please other people and low response to
social praise. Christopher also has this characteristic. It can also be seen when he persists to do his A math level test, even though his mother has told him to do it
the following year. Christopher’s persistence to do his A math level test shows that he ignores his mother decision. But, since he is in London, it is difficult for
him to realize his desire to do his A math level test in Swindon, Christopher’s hometown. So he really needs his mother approval and help to realize his desire. It
can be said that Christopher’s lack of social and emotional reciprocity has a role in the conflict between Christopher and his mother.
And mother said,” I told you. I rang your head mistress. I told her you were in London. I told her you’d do it next year.”
And I said, “But I’m here now and I can take it.” And mother said,” I’m sorry Christopher. I was trying to do things
properly. I was trying not to mess things up.” And my chest began hurting again and I folded my arms and I rocked
backward and forward and groaned. And mother said,” come on this isn’t going to solve anything. 209-210
Christopher’s mother has tried to use informal problem – solving discussion as an approach to solve the conflict between her and Christopher. It can be seen
when she discusses the problem with Christopher. Even though, this approach cannot solve the problem between them. “The next day mother drove me to school
in Mr. Shears’s car because we missed the bus.” 210. Christopher’s mother finally gives up and accompanies Christopher to his school in order to do his A
math Level test. This decision automatically ends the conflict between her and Christopher.
According to Moore, this conflict resolution is called non violence approach. This approach is applied when there are people or a group of people who do not behave
as they should. This approach forces them to behave in a desired manner. Usually this approach can be effectively used when the dispute-parties must rely on each
other for their living. Christopher and his mother are relying on each other. As a mother, child is everything and Christopher’s mother realizes this fact and finally
she decides to fulfill what Christopher desire. As a result, it can be concluded that this conflict is solved by applying non-violence approach.
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