others. Mary lost her temper when Colin had been rampaged because he forbade her to meet up with Dickon. She thought he had no right to interfere her best thing. Her
less-sympathy about his pitiful life did not make change her minds. 33 Marys lips pinched themselves together. She was no more used to
considering other people than Colin was and she saw no reason why an ill-tempered boy should interfere with the thing she liked
best. She knew nothing about the pitifulness of people who had been ill and nervous and who did not know that they could control
their tempers and need not make other people ill and nervous, too. When she had had a headache in India she had done her best to see
that everybody else also had a headache or something quite as bad. And she felt she was quite right; but of course now she felt that
Colin was quite wrong. Burnett, 2013:4.
From those quotation and explanation above, the writer conclude that each
neglected children has emotional problem as a consequences. They may find difficult to have a bond to their peers and other people around them. Also, they careless about
understanding the emotions of others, regulating their own emotions or forming and maintaining relationships with others. Then, they Have a limited ability to feel
remorse or empathy, which may mean that they could hurt others without feeling their actions were wrong.
4.3.3 Social Problem
In the explanation before, neglected children had emotional problem in a matter of built emotional bonds to others. Those may result they difficult to get interaction with
their peers and other adults. In The Secret Garden, Mary did not interest to have interaction to others. However, a child commonly like to be approach by adults who
showed their welcome and interest. But, Mary had been reacted different when Mrs.
Crawford welcomed and tried to close by kissed and patted her. It also happened since Mrs. Crawford told her that she would move to her uncle in England, she
showed uninterested about that. 34 But she thought over it a great deal afterward; and when Mrs.
Crawford told her that night that she was going to sail away to England in a few days and go to her uncle, Mr. Archibald Craven,
who lived at Misselthwaite Manor, she looked so stony and stubbornly uninterested that they did not know what to think about
her. They tried to be kind to her, but she only turned her face away when Mrs. Crawford attempted to kiss her, and held herself stiffly
when Mr. Crawford patted her shoulder. Burnett, 2013:7
Due her spoiled character and her entire life who always full of her self. She
found out that people never like her. In her mind, people always quite annoying they always laughing and making noises, she did not understand yet that was fun to every
people. It can be seen in quotation 35 below.
35 People never like me and I never like people, she thought. And I never can talk as the Crawford children could. They were
always talking and laughing and making noises. Burnett, 2013:25.
Where did the rest of the brood fly to? she asked. Theres no knowin. The old ones turn em out o their nest an
make em fly an theyre scattered before you know it. This one was a knowin one an he knew he was lonely.
Im lonely, she said. She had not known before that this was one of the things which
made her feel sour and cross. She seemed to find it out when the robin looked at her and she looked at the robin. Burnett, 2013:27.
I have no friends at all, said Mary. I never had. My Ayah didnt like me and I never played with
anyone. Burnett, 2013:28.
From that quotation above, Mary never attracted someone and something,
also never made other attractive to approach her. But, she changed after meet Robin, a male bird who lived inside the secret garden. For this unattractive kid who never
like to had interaction, his existence may changed her life. Mary found out that Robin and her had similarities. Both of them were alone, Robin lived alone in the secret
garden and he was left out by his parents, so he must survive during in early childhood. This similarity made Mary consider that each of them can share their
lonely live. Colin also shared similarities for having social problem. He made the servants
dislike him because of his tantrum. He would rage when he was in bad mood or sick. Misselthwaite manor had been not in peace when he was in that condition.
36 Was he? cried Martha. Art tha sure? Tha doesnt know what hes like when anything vexes him. Hes a big lad to cry like a baby, but when hes
in a passion hell fair scream just to frighten us. He knows us darent call our souls our own.Burnett, 2013:95.
Another similarity was Colin also did not have a friend. He had hated to be looked at, because he despises the pity and morbid fascination he inspires. He refuses
to leave the manor house, and spends all his time shut up in his grand gloomy room. He hated people before she met Mary, so did Mary who hated people before she met
Robin, Dickon, Ben, especially Ben Weatherstaff who had ‗nasty‘ temper. Colin thought that he would like them to because of their likely background. It can be seen
in these following Quotations 37 between Colin and Mary. 37 I wish I was friends with things, he said at last,
but Im not. I never had anything to be friends with, and I cant bear people.
Cant you bear me? asked Mary. Yes, I can, he answered. Its very funny but I even like you.
Ben Weatherstaff said I was like him, said Mary. He said hed warrant wed both got the same nasty tempers. I think you are like
him too. We are all three alike
—you and I and Ben Weatherstaff. He said we were neither of us much to look at and we were as sour
as we looked. But I dont feel as sour as I used to before I knew the robin and Dickon.
Did you feel as if you hated people? Yes, answered Mary without any affectation. I should have
detested you if I had seen you before I saw the robin and Dickon. Burnett, 2013:128.
From the explanation and quotation above, the writer assumed that neglected
children cannot control their emotion. They have less ability to feel sympathy and empathy who causes their careless whether what they did will be hurt them and not
due to their life been full of themselves.
When children focus on themselves they fail to develop empathy toward others. Children who lack empathy can be insensitive toward
other people‘s feelings and unable to sympathize with them during times of distress, unhappiness, grief, or loss.
4.3.4 Mental Problem
