One to Three Years

My mother grabs the book and shoves it in my arms. “Don’t you ever tell a child something’s too hard,” she snaps. “And never – NEVER – this child.” Next thing I know I am being yanked out to the door, hanging tightly the Jules Verne. I feel like we have just robbed a bank, my mother and me, and I wonder if we’re going to get in trouble Albom 52. The choice to fix children’s failure of psychosocial development can happen in the short time or in the later stage. However, the point is to give the children supports to foster healthy and productive psychosocial development. Parents and other social environment can show a care giving practices, educational programs, advices, and social organizations Bukatko 26. Another thing to see the industry versus inferiority is coming from Chick’s feeling when he realizes that his father and mother split. At that time, he is still eleven years old, but he feels more responsible for the family because he is the only man in the family. He thinks that both of his mother and sister are only females therefore they cannot do a man’s duty. He states that, “I remember wanting to cry myself, but it had already dawned on me that there were now three of us, not four and I was the only male. Even at eleven, I felt an obligation to manhood Albom 57.” The feeling of obligation to manhood is an industrial feeling shown by Chick. This happens because of the situation in the family. In this stage, children acquire skill and perform work in order to support the family Hurlock 26. Therefore, Chick wants to support the family by becoming a man that can save the family because the family loses a manhood figure of his father as a result of divorce. Chick also builds his sense of pride in his accomplishment in this stage. When his mother asks him to choose a skill to develop to fulfill his time, he chooses baseball Albom 60. He tries to accomplish all of the time to practice baseball even he should ignore his mother’s invitation to accompany her and his sister when she gets fired from the hospital. He rejects the invitation to have ice cream together with them to accomplish the rules from his coach. For him, the accomplishment of the project is more important than anything. “How about some ice cream?” She said. “Yeah Yeah” My sister said. “I have practice,” I said. “Oh, why don’t you skip the practice, OK?” “No, I protested. “You can’t skip practice; you have to go.” “Says who?” “The coaches and everyone.” “I wanna go I want a cone” Roberta said. “Just fast ice cream?” my mother said. “Gaw No OK Albom 83?”

4.3.1.4 Puberty to Adulthood

The name of this stage is identity versus role confusion. As adolescent grows older the children attempts to discover his or her identity and place in society by trying out many roles in order to answer question, “Who am I” Bukatko 26. When Chick is fourteen years old, he tries to smoke. His mother actually already knows it before. Then, she enters Chick’s room and finds his cigarette in the drawer. She takes the cigarette and reprimands Chick. Chick feels insecure with his own identity because he thinks that his freedom is limited by his mother for prohibiting him to do this or that and by entering his own room. She has found my cigarettes. They are in my sock drawer. I am fourteen years old. “It’s my room” I yell. “Charley We talked about this I told you not to smoke It’s the worst thing you can do What’s the matter with you?” “You’re a hypocrite” “Don’t you use that word” “Why not, mom? You always want me to use big words in a sentence. There’s a sentence. You smoke. I can’t. My mother is a hypocrite Albom 85” Here, Posey also does not mean to limit Chick’s freedom. She just advises Chick to avoid bad behavior but Chick realizes in different way. Bukatko states that after the divorce usually mother tends to adopt a more authoritarian style of parenting. She can give out numerous commands, prohibitions and restrictiveness especially for boy because usually he becomes less compliant Bukatko 451-452. Chick thinks his mother is not fair because she smokes but she prohibits him smoking. He thinks that his mother is a role model for him. He thinks it is all of about his attempts to find his own identity. However, here he sees that his mother is truly a matter of confusion because she does not do what she asks Chick to do. Therefore, he says that his mother is a hypocrite. Actually, a high level of restrictiveness, does not refer to clear parental expectation of socially appropriate behavior or achievement which, although sometimes these restrictiveness may be seen as “restricting” the children’s freedom to do or not to do what they want, actually these are encouraging them to develop capabilities and another beneficial talents rather than boxing them in Conger, 223. Then, Chick thinks that the way his mother dress makes him feels inconvenient because the clothes show off her figure. He feels uncomfortable with