Speech Past life Theory of Character and Characterization
“To the growing girl, the father serves as reinforce of her feminity. Thus he teaches her what it means to be a woman” Martin and Stendler, 1959:370. The
adolescent girls without fathers because of the divorce will behave differently from girls without father because of the father‟s dying. Girls without fathers
bec ause of the father‟s dying tend to be shy, timid and socially inhibited around
males. In contrast to girls without father because of the divorce, they are noticeably forward with males and tent to seek their attention.
As distressing as a father‟s death may be, it constitutes unavoidable and understandable reason for his absence. When a father is gone because of a
divorce, however, his absence may signify rejection and abandonment of the family. This can expose children to painful self questioning and disturbing
comments from their friends and teacher... Kimmel and Weiner, 1985:258. The father absence in a family because of death is more understandable than
the father absence because of divorce. The death is something that cannot be avoided. People will not ask about the absence of a father figure in this kind of
family. Otherwise, if the absence of father figure because of a divorce, it can gives more effects to the daughter. Daughter can think that her father rejects her and
leaves the family. It can give painful feeling to the daughter itself. People also will ask why the divorce happens in that family.
Absence of the father or rejection by the father may create unsatisfied need in the girl. Martin and Stendler state that:
Fatherless children may develop a number of problems. Sometimes they become excessively dependent upon the mother; sometimes they grown
rebellious and defiant, difficult for the mother to control. Antisocial behavior in the form of stealing may also break out the following the loss of
father 1957:331.
Mother may become breadwinner and homemaker in the family to substitute the father figure in the family. But the absence of such a figure has certain effect
to the children.