4.3 .4 Tom’s Final Action as a Result of the Suppresssing Condition in the
Matriarchal Family
From the various changes Tom experiences above, I would like to enlighten his final action in the matriarchal family. Undoubtedly, the communication in the
family influences him. The influences come from the unconscious imitation of the attitudes Hurlock, 1974: 352. Amanda often acts unwisely to Tom. She sometimes
expresses her desire to Tom with the manner that offense his feelings. This manner of communication is the trigger of Tom’s uncomfortable feeling to come out. He is also
shoved to expresses it uncontrollably. The relationship with Amanda makes Tom cannot manage his emotion and evil plan to leave the family.
Bursteln 1990: 264-267 states the importance of good communication amongst the members of the family. He states that through good communication
parents can make the children feel supported to face problems and they can notice the personalities of their children. He adds that the pressuring communication will only
teach children to be afraid and hate. Tom lives in the family that the good relationship is sometimes broken by the
awful communication. Since his father’s leaving, he lives with his mother and his elder sister. Afterward, there is no good communication between him and his father.
The same thing also happens to the relationship with his mother, he has no good relationship with her as well. In the family, he has to struggle by himself in almost
everything. He is also to deal with his own agitating feeling. The communication in the family after Tom’s father’s leaving is pressuring to Tom because the mothe r tend s
to dominate the family—Tom obeys her. This condition makes the hatred to the father is safely held in the empty family relationship between him and his mother.
The pressuring atmosphere makes him a hateful person. Although Tom has undergone the succession of progressive changes to adapt
himself, but he is still a person who possesses wishes. Based on the analyses of the drama script, I can conclude that the communication with the mother has provoked
Tom to erase his painful feeling by living in his own world—introvert. He just gets along very well with his beloved sister. He does not make a good relationship with
any other person around him. This fact can be observed through his inability to notice that Jim has already had a fiancée Williams 1740.
Amanda fails to identify Tom’s wishes that he wants to be treated nicely. For example, he cannot perceive the love of the mother through good communication
manner. The leaving of the father is aggravated with the bad relationship with Tom’s mother who affects him very much. In line with Parsons 1987: 124, Tom does not
feel comfort at home and he wants to run away. Moreover, he wants to satisfy his desire to do adventure and to leave the intolerable home life. As matter of fact, Tom
is man who loves adventure Williams 1711. Being provoked by the two main problems in the family, Tom is being a determined person. The determination to leave
the family as his father did is triggered by the final conflict between him and his mother Williams 1740-1741.
Tom has left the family as his father did to the family 16 years ago William 1725. He does not consider how Laura will live her life without him. He also does
not consider how the matriarchal family will survive without the existence of the family breadwinner. Here, he does not worry about Amanda, but he worries about
Laura. Even though Tom is not always close to her physically, but she closes to her emotionally. This fact is apparent when he keeps on remembering her although he has
left the family Williams 1741-1742. TOM: I didnt go to the moon, I went much further - for time is the longest
distance between places. Not long after that I was fired for writing a poem on the lid of a shoebox. I left Saint Louis. I descended the step of this fire-
escape for a last time and followed, from then on, in my fathers footsteps, …. Then all at once my sister touches my shoulder. I turn around and look
into her eyes ... Oh, Laura, Laura, I tried to leave you behind me, but I am more faithful than I intended to be …
It is apparent that Tom worries about Laura because he keeps on remembering her. The apprehensive feeling about her emerges because he loves her sister. He actually
does not want to leave the family, but the uncomfortable condition makes him determine to go away. Referring to the affectionate feeling to Laura, he actually
regrets his going away from the family. PLAGIAT MERUPAKAN TINDAKAN TIDAK TERPUJI
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