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inclusive pronouns, such as „we’ and ‘us’, to invite addressees into conversations.
Women tend to use minimal responses such as „mmhmm‟ and „uh-huh‟ to show support and attentiveness, use suggestions such as „let’s‟, to maintain respect, to
weaken their statements and modal verbs such as „may’ and ‘could’ to maintain equality and receive approval. From the features above, it can be seen that women
aim to understand other feelings when communicates. The objectives of communicate for them are to share and to understand each other feeling.
b. Men’s Speech Style
The differences between women and men when interact with each other may be the result of different socialization and acculturation patterns. Speech
pattern can be learned by analysing and researching on groups talk. The ways people communicate are different to be sex-specific. The miscommunication
which occurs between women and men may well attributable to the different expectations each sex has the function of the interaction, and the ways it is
appropriately conducted. Men have different features compare to women. “In
many ways, the masculine style of speech is directly opposite from the feminine style. Men seem to avoid self-disclosure, and prefer to talk about more impersonal
topics such as current affairs, travel, or sport ” Coates, 1997, p. 119. Coates also
says that the topic when women and men talk is very different. Women are usually better at expressing their feelings through words.
Klerk as cited in Coates, 1987, p. 108 states that “Men are prone to use stronger expletives, such as damn, shit, or worse,
than women‟s oh dear, or goodness.” Men always use stronger expletives, such as „damn‟ and „shit‟, whereas women
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prefer to use softer expletives, such as, „God,‟ „Goodness,‟ „dear,‟ and „Jesus.‟
However, nowadays these particular differences are rapidly disappearing. Coates 1987 believes that the way women talk is starting to change.
Men‟s speech style is different from women‟s speech style. The men‟s speech style tends to avoid self-disclosure. Men tend to avoid talking about
feeling or story that related to other feelings. They prefer to talk about an impersonal topic such as sport, news, or something that based on the facts. There
are some features of men‟s speech according to Haas 1979, such as the frequent
use of slang, the use of profanity and obscenity, the use language are to lecture, to argue, to debate, to assert and to command, the use of nonstandard form, directive,
and coarse.
1. Men’s Speech
Besides, women‟s speech, Wood 1993b also gives some features of
men‟s speech which are spoken by the masculine speech communities. Based on Wood 1993b
, men‟s speech tends to regard talk as a way to exert control, preserve, independence, entertain, and enhance status. There are some features of
men‟s speech style, such as:
A. Status and Control
Men often speak to exhibit knowledge, skill, or ability to establish their own status and value. Equally is the
typical tendency to avoid disclosing personal information that might make a man appears weak or vulnerable. Tannen believes
that the tendency to give advice is a common thing in men‟s speech. Men tend to
use commands such as „give me‟ and „turn over‟ to show the leadership Larner,
