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freedom. Her entire body is prepared to be harvested whenever her sister needs it. She has to give the leukocytes, stem cells, bone marrow, etc. Therefore, she
cannot go far from Kate. Anna has to be ready on Kate side. This causes depress feeling for Anna. She gets no freedom as what a common child has. Deep inside,
Anna really wants to have a normal life. She wants to enjoy her childhood moment freely, playing with her friends, doing her hobby and doing everything
she wants as a child. However, she has no opportunity to do that. She is trapped in unfortunate situation as well as in unfortunate family. Even, she pretends that
Fitz’s family is not her real family. “I used to pretend that I was just passing through this family on my way to my real one.” 47
1. Intrinsic Motivation
a. To Get Her Parents’ Attention and Affection
Kate is sick since she was two. Since that time, her mother, Sara, devotes most of her time and energy to take care for Kate, moreover if Kate is being
hospitalized. This situation makes her time for doing the household chores is very limited.
To be a mother is not a simple job. In the household, a mother plays important roles. A mother needs to manage the entire household chores like
keeping the house, cleaning the house, cooking, taking care of the children, shopping, etc. Those are not simple jobs, moreover if the mother is not a totally
homemaker. Some mothers are also working outside as executives. A busy mother
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sometimes does not have enough time for take care her children, meanwhile child needs hisher mother closeness after being away from hisher all day.
Anna’s mother is not a working mother. She used to be a lawyer but since Kate fell ill, she decided to stop her job for totally keeping an eye to Kate.
Although Sara is not a working mother she is alike an executive mother who spends most of her time outside the house. She spends almost her time in the
hospital to give treatments for Kate. Therefore, she does not have sufficient time to take care her other two children, Anna and Jesse. She often leaves them in the
house. It seems unfair for Jesse and Anna, but it seems too fair for Kate. It is a normal situation when Sara pays more attention to her sick child rather than her
healthy children. However, it is out of normal when it happens more than 13 years. Sara too focuses on Kate’s health and unintentionally she ignores her other
children. Children need hisher mother’s affection and attention. It is important
since it affects their development. However, Sara cannot share her love to the other two children equally since taking care for Kate is time consuming. Such
condition causes bad influence for other children’ development. Freud, as cited in McClelland, stated that disharmony and disease resulted from the failure of the
love instinct to develop normally 334. Kasschau 143 adds that lack of love or esteem makes people anxious and tense. Jesse, who since his early ages feels
being neglected by her mother, grows up becomes a troublemaker involved in alcohol, drugs, theft, arson and other criminal actions. He feels depress, anxious
and tense. That is why he acts badly in order to have the attention of others,
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especially her mother. However, he is not alone. There is Anna who also has the same problem, which is being neglected. Different from Jesse, Anna gets extra
attention from her mother. Of course if it is in the relation to Kate’s health. However, Anna is not better than Jesse is, even she is worst.
When Anna falls into trouble, her mother does not even realize it. She assumes that Anna’s problem is just because she is entering the teenager moment.
Sara thinks that Anna is fine if it is compared with Kate’s health. Even when Brian, Anna’s father who realizes that there is something wrong with Anna, tries
to discuss about the changing of Anna’s behavior Sara seems does not pay much attention on it. She tries to make sure Brian that Anna is fine. “Compared to
Kate’s kidneys and Jesse sociopathy, I’d say she’s doing fine.” 42. “May be she’s just being teenager.” 42
As a mother, Sara is careless. She does not pay attention on Anna’s development. Moreover, every child expects to get the equal love from hisher
parents. In the development processes, each child needs parent’s affection and attention. It is like what is stated by Sara’s sister, “We all know you’re supposed
to love your children equal, but that’s not always how it works out.” 144. Once, Anna realizes that she could find only a very few pictures of her in
the house. At first, she tries to think positively. It maybe she is the third child in that family that her parents tired of keeping a catalogue of life or they forgot to
put her picture. However, she feels that although those are just pictures it has meaning behind it.
It’s no body’s fault, and it’s not a big deal, but it’s a little depressing all the same. A photo says, You were happy, and I wanted to catch that. A
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photo says, You were so important to me that I put down everything else to come watch
. 128 It seems a simple matter but if it is applied in Anna’s condition, it proves
that Anna is not equally loved. On the other hand, though Anna feels that she does not get enough attention and affection from her mother, Sara thinks that she has
done her best for her daughters, she states that she loves both of them equally 156. Sara understands that she has two daughters who need her attention and
affection. Nevertheless, it is confusing her much. One of her daughters is extremely ill and the other is extremely unhappy. To be equal and fair in sharing
love is complicated. In fact, Sara tends to pay attention to Kate rather than Anna. Like what happens when Anna has to donate her bone marrow. She gets
hurt after the transplant. She needs her mother’s companion, but at the same time, Kate needs her mother too because she gets relapse. “‘Can you stay here?’ I shake
my head. ‘Kate’s sick. I’m going to have to go back.’ Anna pulls away. ’But I’m in the hospital,’ she says, ‘I’m in the hospital’” 230.
It seems unfair. Anna is sick but her mother still does not give his attention. She is hurt, she needs her mother, but still, she does not have it. Instead
of giving companion for Anna, Sara gives Anna more medicine doses for her pain so that Anna will not feel the pain anymore. After giving that medicine, she leaves
Anna then moves to her other sick daughter. It hurts Anna much more than the pain she gets after the operation. She has given her best for saving Kate, but she
cannot get her mother’s attention. Anna really wants to be loved by her mother. As being stated by Maslow
in Feist Feist, he says that people who get lack of affection will be motivated to
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find it 334-335. Moreover, Maslow adds “people who have received only a little amount of love have strong needs for affection and acceptance than do people
who have received either a healthy amount of love or no love at all.” 282. Anna
files the lawsuit because she is motivated to get her mother’s attention and affection. Anna hopes that through sending the lawsuit, her mother will see her
problem seriously. She wants her mother understand her needs. Therefore, when her mother states that they will fix anything wrong, she is willing to continue in
helping Kate. “My mother holds me tighter. ‘We walk to the judge, and explain it. We can fix this, ‘she says. ‘We can fix everything,’ and because those words are
really all I’ve ever wanted to hear, I nod.” 57. Anna thinks that what is meant by ‘fix anything’ is that her mother will fulfill her love need.
From the mother’s action and reaction on Anna, it can be derived that Anna does not get enough attention and affection from her mother. Anna is
getting sick of the condition. She wants to be equally loved by her parents, especially her mother. She wants to fulfill her lovebelonging needs.
Everybody needs love and to be loved by other. It is like what is stated by Petri, he says that human needs to feel the sense of belonging by small or large
social group family, collegues, religious group, etc 305. Therefore, Anna is motivated to get her mother’s attention and affection.
b. To Avoid the Pain During the HarvestOrgan Donation
