Geoff’s Influence on Ed’s Self-Concept of Sex
47 his boss, Cathy, who is beautiful and has kissable lips. He thinks to have a date
with Cathy and end it by having sex. On one occasion, Geoff teaches Ed the Ten Worlds. He teaches that
someone can live in the ten different worlds in every time. The Ten Worlds are the world of Hell, Hunger, Animality, Anger, Heaven, Humanity, Learning,
Realisation, Boddhisattva, and Buddhahood. Hell is the world of suffering, Hunger is the world where someone is driven by his desires but never satisfied,
Animality is the world where someone is dominated by his animal instincts for food, sleep, sex, survival. Anger is the world where someone is not losing his
temper as always thinking that he is the best or always right, and trying to prove it by putting other people down or judging them. He feels that he is always in
competition with other people, or he is always getting into rows and arguments. Heaven is the world where someone feels peace and quiet the whole time.
Humanity or Tranquility is the world where someone is being calm, decent, and reasonable. Learning is the world where someone learns from other people.
Realization or Absorption is the world where someone learns from his experience and observation. Boddhisatva is the world where someone cares for others. The
last world, Buddhahood, is the world where someone has wisdom, courage, compassion and implements Buddhism in his acts. Someone can live in a different
world. It depends on the life situation he is in. Those Ten Worlds can be applied in all things. One of Ed’s friends, Liz, has applied them to money and Ed tries to
apply them to sex after he meets his ex girlfriend, Angie.
48 After breaking up with Angie, Ed still loves her and hopes that someday
they can be together again. He always thinks about her but Geoff does not agree with him. He tells Ed not to make Angie as the focus of his life and slowly, Ed
can forget her. On the other hand, Angie also still loves Ed and wants to get back to Ed. She phones Ed to arrange a meeting and Ed agrees with that. When Ed
comes to meet Angie, she is drunk. Ed takes her to her apartment. In Angie’s apartment, she asks Ed to make love to her but Ed cannot make it. Angie is so
angry and disappointed that finally she falls asleep. Ed leaves her alone in her apartment. On the way to his home, he thinks about it.
… But I’d always thought that sex was sex; almost an automatic thing, at least for men. Clearly not, though. But why? As I
pondered, trudging through the halogen-lit streets of north-east London, it occurred to me that perhaps you could apply the Ten
Worlds to sex, in the same way that Liz had applied them to money. I had time on my hands, so I decided to give it a go. 238
At first, Ed thinks that sex is human nature that happens automatically when a man and a woman are interested in each other. For him, sex does not mean
much. He can have sex with anybody and soon forget it. After his meeting with Angie he realizes that sex is not as simple as that, sex can mean everything. On
the way to home, Ed is thinking how to apply the Ten Worlds into sex. In Hell World, sex can be suffering; it is when someone is forced to have sex. In Hunger,
someone is never satisfied with sex. He wants to have it again and again so that it is possible for him to become a sex maniac. In Animality, someone is having sex
to satisfy himself without thinking of his partner satisfaction. In Anger, it does not mean that he is in a high temper. It relates with human’s ego or prestige. He
49 makes love with someone who is popular, or sexy, or beautiful to raise his
prestige so that he will be proud of himself. In Humanity or Tranquility, he considers sex as a biological thing that every one has. He is having sex to fulfill
his biological needs and he is able to control his desire of having sex because he is not too bothered with sex.
In Heaven or Rapturous, sex is done by a couple who love each other very much and it is done in a romantic way. Someone is in Learning World when he is
learning sex through many sources such as books, or videos and when he tries to make research on sex, he is in the world of Realization. In the Boddhisatva World,
or the world of caring for others, Ed assumes that someone can help other people in solving their sexuality problems, or he does it to make his couple happy.
However, though Ed can apply the nine worlds into sex, he still cannot figure out how to apply the tenth world, Buddhahood, into sex because he does not learn
Buddhism deeply 238-239. Personality changes can be classified into three major categories as stated
by Hurlock. They are better versus worse, quantitative versus qualitative, and slowly versus rapidly 120. Thus, Ed’s personality development is better,
quantitative, and slowly. Ed’s personality developments are categorized as a better change because Geoff’s influence makes his personality better. He is wiser than
he is before. He is able to change his outlook of his life to be more optimistic, has more courage, and takes the wisdom from his conscience. Ed’s change is also
categorized as a quantitative change because his personality changes in the degree
50 of intensity. However, Ed’s changes are slow because the process of his
personality development needs some time.
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