Intrapersonal Conflict Theory of Conflict
last is summary jury trial. It involves some nonbinding steps in resolving the conflict.
Another conflict resolution is from Decenzo and Silhanek 2002. They propose some conflict resolutions that they call as “Conflict-handling skills”.
There are four conflicts-handling skills. The first one is pick your battles. It means that when we encounter a difficult conflict, the most suitable response is to do
nothing. Do nothing perhaps sounds that we attempt to escape from the conflict but actually it is really effective when the situation becomes not possible to
manage p. 288-289. The second conflict resolution is know who is involved. This way is different from the first one because this way is for those who want to
face the conflict rather than to escape it. It is essential for us to know the “key players”. The examples of key players are the person who is taken part in the
conflict, the interest of every group, the importance, the character, the emotion, and the valuable possession or the quality of every person p. 289.
Next is determine the conflict source. It means that conflict happens with reasons. So that we have to look for the reasons beyond the conflict. There are
various causes of conflict but commonly the cause is from the communication differences or personal differences. Communication differences are disputes
emerging from difficult semantic, misconceptions, or unpleasant sound in the communication channel. While personal differences are the conflict from
individual unusual habits and beliefs p. 290. The fourth conflict-handling skill is respond to the conflict. There are four
ways in responding to the conflict. They are avoiding, accommodating, forcing,
and compromising, collaborating. Avoiding is eluding from the conflict when it becomes high tense. Second way is accommodating. It talks about keeping
relationships by placing one’s needs more than our needs. Third way is forcing. Forcing is placing one’s needs more than group’s needs. the fourth way is
compromising. It needs two or more people who back down to achieve a shared goal. The last is collaborating. It searches group advantages. Collaborating is win-
win solution p. 290-291.