Keeping Her Baby or Having an Abortion

2. Conflict Resolution of Moving into the New Apartment or Staying in the

Old Apartment The second conflict resolution is used by Kimberly when she faces the conflict about moving into the new apartment or staying in the old apartment. Kimberly lives in the cold and small apartment. One day her neighbor tells her that the goverment will build new building so that the their block will be broken down. Kimberly and her mother are very surprised when they hear that. That news creates conflict in Kimberly‟s self. She gets confused whether she has to move or stay. In her confusion she decides to stay in the old apartment no matter what will happen until she and her mother can pay their debts to Aunt Paula. Kimberly really does not understand why Aunt Paula does not tell her and her mother about the Goverment‟s plan. Kimberly tries to ask her mother to move to another apartment. However, her mother does not want to move because they still have to pay their debts to Aunt Paula. Moreover, her mother respects Aunt Paula so much because Aunt Paula has done many things to help her. “Ma, let‟s run away. We can find a new job at another factory. Aunt Paula doesn‟t have to know.” Back in Hong Kong, I would never have dared to talk to Ma like this, to openly argue with her about such grown-up topics, but I had never had the responsibilities there that now I did. I had never been so desperate to change our living situat ion. Ma‟s eyes were intense. “And our debt to her, then? She spent the money to cure me, for our green cards and tickets. It‟s not a question of what we can get away with, it‟s a question of honor.” “To her?” I tugged at a lock of my hair, frustated by Ma and her integrity p. 33. Even though Kimberly has asked her mother to move into the new apartment but her mother wants to stay in the their old aparment. Therefore, Kimberly chooses to keep staying in that apartment until they can pay their debt to Aunt Paula. Based on that situation, Kimberly solves her conflict by using the first type of negotiation which is integrative negotiation. Integrative negotiation is useful and helpful problem-solving process. The goals are first, to make as great as possible the importance between two individuals. Second is to keep the connection. Staying in the old apartment until they can pay their debt to Aunt Paula is considered as making as great as possible the importance between Kimberly and her mother and Aunt Paula. By choosing to stay until their debt is paid can also mantain the connection between Kimberly‟s family and Aunt Paula‟s family because Kimberly and her mother have shown their responsibility to Aunt Paula‟s family.

3. Conflict Resolution of Accepting or Refusing Luke’s Challenge

The next conflict resolution is used by Kimberly to solve the conflict of accepting or refusing Luke‟s challenge. Kimberly has a friend whose name is Luke. His hobby is bullying his friends at school. Kimberly is also one of his victims. One day Luke challenges Kimberly to fight with him. Actually Kimberly is very afraid of Luke because Kimberly has never fought before and she is also just a girl. Annette, her best friend, has told her to tell someone else. However, Kimberly does not want to tell somebody else because she is afraid that her Mother or Mr. Bogart will know and finally they will meet and the result is all her lies will be revealed. Therefore, Kimberly chooses to accept Luke‟s challenge. Many times Annette warns Kimberly to tell other people about Luke. She also offers Kimberly to go home in Annette‟car so that she can take Kimberly to her home. Yet, Kimberly does not want to listen to Annette. She thinks it is not a good idea to tell it somebody else. She is afraid that Annette will know about her cold and small apartment. She is also worried about her mother‟s reaction if she knows it. Moreover, the worse is perhaps Luke will always wait for Kimberly everyday. Therefore, Kimberly prefers fight Luke Annette gra bbed my wrist. “Okay, you just come home with me, then. We‟ll get in the car and drive away. We can drop you off at your place.” I wanted to agree. But how could I show them where I lived? And Ma was expecting me at the factory. Besides, Luke would just wait for me tommorow, or the day after that. It would only get worse. He‟d been staring at me for a while now. “No, “I said. “I fight him.” p. 36 Kimberly solves her intrapersonal conflict by using the second type of conflict-handling skill which is know who is involved. This conflict-handling skill proposed by Decenzo and Silhanek 2002 is suitable for those who want to face the conflict rather than to escape. Kimberly chooses to accept Luke‟s challenge rather than to refuse it. Kimberly has considered about the character and the emotion of Luke, the impacts of Luke‟s challenge toward herself, the reaction of the people around her, and so forth.

4. Conflict Resolution of Studying at The Private School or the Public