Sara Shepard through her work tries to tell this message. The children do not grow up with money, friends, achievement they get, but also with their parent‟s love.
The competitions on the workplace are becoming high and that means the extra works are needed. Eventhough the extra works are needed, parent should not forget their
children. It is true that the children can handle their own problem. Yet, the children still
need support and love from their parents. These supports and loves make them being confident to face every problem. It is because they feel secure and they know that
their parent will back them up. Parent forgets to give support to their children now. They are too busy with
their own world. They think this matter just a small thing. In fact, it infects the children on their developments, their psychologicals, and their morals. Hart and Carlo
said that family plays an important role on adolescent moral development. Moral on adolescent can develop because of the society, the story they are read, but the most
important thing influencing adolescent moral development is family. It means parent plays an important role to their children. This thing starts to be forgotten by the parent
nowadays. Sara Shepard tries to remain the parent that adolescent still need attention and
love from their parent through this book. She also remains the society does not judge adolescent
‟s actions only by what they do. Sara Shepard tries to tell the society for giving attention to the adolescent about the problems might be faced by adolescent
and help them to solve their problems rather than give the direct judgment. It is because the adolescent want to be accepted and to be loved.
2. Everyone should know who they are
The second value tries to tell by Sara Shepard, someone needs to know who they are. If someone knows who they are, they will realize their purpose of life. Even
though the society tries to change us; it does not matter because we know who we are. It is easy in words but the fact is so hard to apply it.
Hogg and Abrams in Social Identications: A Social Psychology of Intergroup Relations and Group Processes,
explained that Identity was peoples perspective about us, about who we are, also people opinion about our individual related to others
to show the quality of the individual itself. Hogg and Abrams, 1988:2 Identity talks about the perspective of us. Identity also related to other
individual and their perspective. The problem usually occurs if we want others respect us but we do not respect ourselves because we do not know our values. It is
important to know who we are and how precious we are. We can respect ourselves first, others will follow it then.
Hanna Marin gets confusion about how precious she is and how beautiful she is. She focuses on what other think more. This makes her lose confident to herself.
Then, she tries following the standard of the society but she does not look at the PLAGIAT MERUPAKAN TINDAKAN TIDAK TERPUJI
inside of herself. She does anything to be accepted in the society in its standard. Soon, she changes herself according to the society
‟s standard. People need to be accepted by the society. It does not mean we need to change
our identity to be accepted. We just need to adjust and adapt to the society and introduce ourselves to them. The uniqueness of an individual makes the society
become beautiful. In fact, people intend to change and to forget their identity to follow the society. Then, they forget the enjoyment of life.
It happens to Hanna. She tries to change herself to follow the standard of the society. For teenager, beautiful is identical of slim and popular. We must be slim to
be popular. The problem is nobody can get slim instantly. Hanna is someone who cannot get slim instantly and easily. After that she decides to take a short way which
is poked herself. She does anything to be accepted until she forgets herself. She does anything
to impress other, to be accepted, and to be loved. She is accepted by the society finally, but she starts to forget herself and starts to forget to respect herself. It is
because she follows the society and she thinks everything accepted by the society is common.
A lot of people lose their identity and forget to respect their self because they try to catch up with the society and its values. Hanna is one of an example of this
situation. She does not respect herself anymore even though she thinks that she PLAGIAT MERUPAKAN TINDAKAN TIDAK TERPUJI
respects herself. She does everything because she thinks that she respects herself although people do not think like that sometimes.
Hanna‟s boyfriend thinks Hanna does not respect herself. She does anything to be accepted by the society and thinks everyone has the same perspective with her.
The fact is not everyone has the same perspective. He thought for a moment. “You‟re one of the prettiest girls I know, Hanna.
Why d on‟t you know that?”
“What are you talking about?” Hanna asked, disgusted. “I just . . . ,” Sean started. “I just think that maybe if you could have a little
more respect for yourself- “
“I have plenty of self-respect” Hanna shouted at him. Shepard, 2006: 188 Sometimes others can see our values that we cannot see. In this case, we should feel
shame because others can find it and we cannot. We must know who we are, what are our strength and our weakness for
surviving in life, also for optimizing our talent. We need to know who we are so we can give value to ourselves and respect ourselves. We tend to ask other for respecting
us but if we still do not give respect to ourselves, how will people respect us? Finding the true identity is not an easy task. We need to spend our half-life to
find it but it is still worth to try. It is a difficult task but it will bring better future for us. Successful people can succeed because they know their identities already. They
do not try to become others or imitate them. They know who they are and they know what they want. The most important of it, they know how to change the world rather
than the world changes them. PLAGIAT MERUPAKAN TINDAKAN TIDAK TERPUJI
This thing can be achieved by everyone who knows who they are. Someone who finds their true identities, they will know the purpose of their life. They will not
be confused with their path and will not be confused by others. People who know their identities will live their life with confident and without worries. The reason is
they show their identities all the time. They do not lie on their action. They know what their weaknesses and their strengths then they are not shame to it. It is because
they realize nobody is perfect also they realize having some strengths did not have by other.
Hanna Marin comes from rich family and she faces this problem. Some people think if coming from the rich family will not have problem. It is because your
future seem have been decided already. In fact, the children come from rich family also face the same problem. They prevent for realizing and imagining the kind of life
they want to live. This situation makes teenagers do not have will to find their self and leave them in confusion. In conclusion, t
he identity‟s conflict will be faced by everyone; young, old, rich, or poor.
It means everyone must know themselves, what they want, what kind of life they want to live, also what are their strength and weakness. People need finding their
identity and realizing their potential talent. Then we will live in freedom. We do not need worries about what people think about us. We just need to show who we are and
the talent inside us. People who live trying to impress others and wear a mask will PLAGIAT MERUPAKAN TINDAKAN TIDAK TERPUJI
live in worried because they realize people will know who they are, someday. After that, it will bring them down.
Hanna Marin lives in worried all the time. It is because she realizes that she lives wearing a mask. People think her life is perfect, but everyone has their imperfect
side. She feels shame about that side and tries hiding it. This is the result of life in worry all the time. She cannot find her strength and only focuses on her weakness.
This situation occurs because Hanna still cannot find herself, her identity, and her purpose of life. Then, she lives to impress others than impresses herself. Identity is
needed in the society because someone who knows their identity and their purpose of life will survive. It is because the society is unique and we need to be unique.
Remember We are unique.
3. Everyone should be enjoying life and be happy
Achieving dream needs to work hard and sacrifices a lot of things in life. Hanna can get what she dreams in a year. It is amazing for achieving a dream in a
year. She dreams to be beautiful, popular, slim, and she gets that in a year. After that, she thinks she will happy. Rather than be happy, she feels suffocated with her life.
Hanna lives in worried all the time. She also lives hiding the secret and cannot enjoy her daily life.
Hanna thinks for enjoying her life after her changes. What happen next is she continues to pursue the happiness. She feels lonely even though she is beautiful, slim,
