There are five factors beyond the reason why men abuse women WMST- L, 1998. The first reason is that the abuser sees women as objects. He does not
view women as people. He has no respect for women as a group. He sees women as property and sexual objects. Second, an abuser has low self-esteem. He feels
powerless and ineffective. Although he may appear to be successful, inside he feels inadequate.
Third, an abuser finds external excuses for his behavior. He will blame his violent on having a bad day, alcohol or drug use, his partner‟s behavior or
anything that comes to mind to excuse his violent actions. Fourth, he may be charming and pleasant between his acts of violence. Outsiders may view him as a
nice person. The last one, abuser may display some warning signs such as: a bad temper, cruelty to animals, extreme jealousy, possessiveness, verbal abuse, and
unpredictability. Firdaus experiences four kinds of abuses.
4.2.2.1.1 Verbal Abuses
Verbal abuse occurs when one person uses words and body language to inappropriate criticizes another person. Verbal abuse often involves putdowns
and name-calling intended to make the victim feel they are not worthy of love or respect, and that they do not have ability or talent. Verbal abuse is dangerous
because it does not recognized easily as abuse, and therefore it can go on for extended periods, causing severe damage to victims self-esteem and self-worth.
Damaged victims may fail to take advantage of opportunities that would enrich their lives because they come to believe they are not worthy of those opportunities
Johnson, 2005, p. 1.
Firdaus has experienced of verbal abuses. Some of the examples are when Bayoumi mocks her with harsh words, when Bayoumi‟s friend rapes her while
mocking at her mother, when her father mocks her mother, and when her husband mocks her when she wastes something p. 46. As a result, it creates a perception
that men are wicked. They make a woman to do everything they ask. In other side, they hurt her by mocking harsh words, hitting without reason, and many more.
4.2.2.1.2 Sexual Abuses
Sexual abuse includes someone touching private parts, such as breast, vagina, penis, and anus. It can also include rape putting a penis or another part of
their body into vagina, anus or mouth, or other things that make you feel uncomfortable making you watch them masturbate, rubbing their body against
you in a sexual way, trying to tongue kiss you, or making you look at sexual picture or videos Krystal, 2002, p. 1.
In the story, Firdaus experiences sexual abuses from men. They rape her and after that some of them hit her. It is common for some people to hit their
partner after having sex. Sexual abuse is often coupled with physical abuses or threat of physical abuse and emotional abuse Johnson, 2005, p. 2. Firdaus is
often get sexual abuses during her life, for example when she is raped by Bayoumi and his friend p. 52-53. Unfortunately, she can do nothing because she is afraid
of men p. 53. She cannot refuse those men. She also cannot try to rebel their domination because the culture makes Firdaus has no power to do something.
What she can do just spit on their picture p.79. In fact, she cannot break the rule in which women have no right.
