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insecure in terms of relationship leads obsessors becoming prone to develop an abnormal suspicion, possessiveness, and jealousy. Their insecurity leads them to behaving possessively toward their object of obsession. The jealousy and possessiveness are often unreasonable. At this point, obsessors consider their object of obsession as merely possession. Abnormal jealousy can result in the obsessors being overly anxious when they are not with their object of obsession, constantly worrying about what their object of obsession are doing at any given time, and checking their whereabouts at “illogical times” such as at d awn and at midnight Peabody, 2005: 45-46. iii. Dysfunctional Emotions Obsessors tend to build dysfunctional emotions that are characterized by having an overwhelming yet confusing feeling, being susceptible to fluctuate feeling, feeling afraid to express emotions with people especially their object of obsession out of fear that their emotions will drive people away, substituting one emotions for another, denying painful feeling, suppressing painful feeling rather than feeling it directly, anesthetizing painful feeling using addictive substances, and having a tendency to build polarized all or nothing feeling such as agony-ecstasy, euphoria-depression, and love-hate, and feeling an attack of rage Peabody, 2005: 46-48. iv. Weak Personality Boundary Most obsessors have weak personality boundary caused by low self-esteem coupled with their need for acceptance and approval from others. They find it difficult to have a sense of individuality. In general, obsessors who have a weak personality boundary will always absorb the feeling or the energy of their surrounding and people around them especially their object of obsession albeit unconsciously. Weak personality boundary might appear in various forms such as being unable to say no, losing a sense of individuality, being too easily affected emotionally to the point of having an exactly the same feeling , and giving up their own ideologychoicehobby to match those of others to gain approval. Peabody, 2005: 49-50

v. The Need to Create Drama and Excitement

Unlike healthy relationship in which the persons involved try to build emotional stability and consistency, obsessors have the need to create drama and excitement similar to dramatic scene in romantic soap opera. Creating drama and excitement are meant to produce outburst sensation and adrenalin rush that help them to keep their excitement alive. To excite themselves, obsessors always try to turn an ordinary event into extraordinary one just to get the excitement and entertainment. Obsessors may try to create drama by dramatizing an event similar to a romantic scene, picking a deliberate fight, intentionally turning a small argument into a war, fantasizing excessively about romance, and interpreting other people’ s ac tions as well as events followed by creating signification based PLAGIAT MERUPAKAN TINDAKAN TIDAK TERPUJI