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a. Separating the Lesbian and Her Partner
The first solution the parents usually take after finding out about their daughters homosexual orientation is separating the lesbian and her lover. One of
the women lovers is sent away to a different city or country. As it is portrayed in “Bilik Religious”, Dila, the lesbian character starts her relationship with her
partner 2 years ago. Her partner is her own classmate. Her happy love story ends dramatically when her parents find out about her sexual orientation and her same
sex partner relationship. Her partner’s parents move their daughter to another country, while Dila, herself has to end up in a religious institution.
Now she knows nothing about where the woman she loves is. The only thing she knows is her woman is studying abroad, but
has no idea in which continent. Her parents intentionally set them in distance after knowing the same sex relationship they
are both committing. BR, 35
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In “Un Soir Du Paris” by Stefanny Irawan, the lesbian couple faces the same tragedy. Their parents separate them. Her partner, Loui is sent by her parents
to a far away country. “It has been years for me trying to write down my memories of your grief voice calling my name when they shoved you to go, told that you
would never meet me again”. USDP, 115
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Separating the lesbian couple in these stories has psychological impact on the protagonists. The lesbian character
often cries because of missing her lover, but they are no longer able to meet. The grief about the loss is not limited to sadness alone, but it also makes the character
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“Kini, tak lagi ia mengetahui keberadaan perempuan yang dikasihinya. Yang ia ketahui perempuannya itu menjalani pendidikan di negara lain, tapi entah di benua mana. Orang tua
perempuan sengaja membentangkan jarak saat mengetahui ada hubungan sejenis antara Dila dengan putrinya.”
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“Telah bertahun-tahun aku berusaha menulikan ingatan ku dari pilu suara mu meneriakkan nama ku ketika mereka memaksa mu ikut pergi, mengatakan kau tak akan bertemu aku lagi”.
149 almost lose her physical and mental health. Loui suffers this only after their
parents separate her and her partner. “People said you lost your mind, Loui. You said nothing but my name. They tried so hard to get you back, completely. They
did not realize that complete is you and I.” USDP, 115-116
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b. “Cure” the Lesbian in Religious Institution
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